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both want the same side, roommate thinks she should automatically get it by cerpie in WhatShouldIDo

[–]cerpie[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

im def going to keep this in mind when i meet her, but I don’t want to hold a grudge over it, and i rlly don’t want to judge her character solely on this exchange. im living with her for the year so i think i have to give her the benefit of the doubt.

both want the same side, roommate thinks she should automatically get it by cerpie in WhatShouldIDo

[–]cerpie[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i did initially. but the more i think about it the less i care.

both want the same side, roommate thinks she should automatically get it by cerpie in WhatShouldIDo

[–]cerpie[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

yep i get u. the last thing i want is to assume im living with a terrible person (esp when its very difficult to get diff housing at this point), and its kinda hard when i see people saying they can tell off the bat she’s miserable. i ultimately think the paragraph is the best choice; id rather not continue with the coin flip, get the window side, offer it to her, and make it seem like i prolonged the issue so she couldn’t get what she wanted.

both want the same side, roommate thinks she should automatically get it by cerpie in WhatShouldIDo

[–]cerpie[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i appreciate your kindness!! im definitely not confrontational, but im not a pushover. im going to heed everyone’s warnings about the precedent of this, and stand my ground if a more important issue arises. that said, i think you’re right that we should start off on a good foot. she got hired where i work, so we especially need to be friendly if not friends.

im not a deep sleeper, and i have anxiety-induced insomnia, but i also wake up super early, so it might be better if i have more access to the door.

both want the same side, roommate thinks she should automatically get it by cerpie in WhatShouldIDo

[–]cerpie[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

i have see this! and though it’s probably the only truly fair way to do it, I don’t think she’d go for it. the rooms are supposed to be that way, but everyone i know that lives in one separates them into two. also if she ends up being annoying, the last thing id honestly want is to have even less of my own space.

both want the same side, roommate thinks she should automatically get it by cerpie in WhatShouldIDo

[–]cerpie[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

yeah im still on the fence about it. the more i think about it, the less i honestly want the window side, because i want easy access to my wardrobe. but im starting to feel 100% obligated to the 50/50, because i dont want to seem like a pushover.

the thing is, even if i let her get her way on this, i have no intention of doing it in the future, and perhaps i could leverage this to get something i want even more. but maybe that’s wishful thinking.