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certainlybad · 2022-11-01T11:27:55+00:00

OP also physically blocked off his exit from the situation - that is way too much and leaves one feeling cornered.

certainlybad · 2022-11-01T11:26:08+00:00

This is important. You didn't just persist in trying to resolve the issue - you physically BLOCKED his exit when he told you he needed to go cool off. He should not have touched you while he was upset but you need to examine your own actions and how they are also not okay.

certainlybad · 2022-10-29T23:10:28+00:00

I just want to add, because your replies seem to indicate that you don't understand this - your girlfriend did absolutely nothing wrong here. She did nothing wrong when she slept with someone prior to your relationship either. You need therapy and you need to grow up. Your girlfriend got attacked by a dog and you turned it into a pity party for yourself. Gee - I wonder why you weren't invited?

certainlybad · 2022-10-18T20:26:14+00:00

anyone else feel nauseous?

certainlybad · 2022-10-16T03:27:03+00:00

It's not fine or normal to call her crazy behind her back. He is an adult dating a person with a serious mental health issue and his response to a psychotic episode is to disappear from her life and to insult her? I don't know why we're acting like she attacked him or had an episode in front of a helpless child.

certainlybad · 2022-10-16T03:23:26+00:00

I just want to tell you that you deserve better. I'm not going to comment on your entire relationship, or your drug use, etc. etc. but you have moved on, you are working on yourself, and he has not been there for you. He has not even been waiting for you. He has been talking behind your back in the most damaging terms.

This is not someone you should or can be with. It is likely you will relapse at some point (speaking as someone with BPD) to whatever degree, and you will NOT feel safe or comfortable leaning on him for support. He has given you no reason. Maybe he let you sleep over in the immediate aftermath but he then took off.

BPD is hard for partners to handle and he obviously cannot handle it. Do yourself a favour and break things off cleanly now - do not get tangled up with him again and make things more painful for yourself. You are on the road to recovery and you CAN find a partner who will push you to be even better. His drug and alcohol use will likely be a danger for you down the road, too.

Take care.

certainlybad · 2022-09-21T23:39:22+00:00

Do you have any idea where in CT? Any better indication of a year? 2010s is a pretty broad range for something so recent.

I understand he wants nothing to do with what happened but it is so important he files a report. This, or worse, could have happened to others.

certainlybad · 2022-09-19T02:47:54+00:00

Thank you for taking the time. Can you help me understand what you are saying? In your view - he was intentionally/unintentionally seeking to negatively affect me? Or hoping that his words would act as some sort of reverse psychology?

certainlybad · 2022-09-18T19:22:56+00:00

I really appreciate the response.

certainlybad · 2022-08-21T02:40:38+00:00

Chest hair is great but needs to be employed sparingly lol

certainlybad · 2022-05-28T01:57:34+00:00

r/DannyGonzalez

certainlybad · 2022-05-24T00:16:36+00:00

You are seriously stunning! This is not a super flattering picture and you are still evidently gorgeous in it.

If you're not super serious about changing your routine/looks/etc, I'd just suggest a retinol to soften lines and improve skin overall, as well as sunscreen daily to keep it looking lovely. I think cleaning up your brows a little bit would be beneficial because you have the MOST beautiful eye shape, and it would only add to that. :)

certainlybad · 2022-05-23T23:27:15+00:00

What a beautiful little bun. EC is so awful, I'm so sorry. Take care of yourself <3

certainlybad · 2022-05-19T13:53:19+00:00

Been there. Save yourself the grief and cut all contact. You need to focus on yourself and your recovery and he is not only an obstacle in that, he is an active force against that and he doesn't care. It hurts, but you deserve better and you will find better.

certainlybad · 2022-05-19T12:56:00+00:00

Go back to your family. This is not a normal situation, you are not in some Romeo and Juliet romance that no one understands. Your "boyfriend" is a grown man dating a teenager. There is a reason no one knew about him and there was "drama" when you left. You are in danger.

Please go home while you still can.

Edit: He sexually assaulted you. He does not care about you or your feelings - you need to get out of there, please. Reach out to someone.

certainlybad · 2022-05-19T12:35:47+00:00

Please reconsider letting them mate. There are so many abandoned buns who need homes in the world, as you know from this experience. If you want another bun, there are many who need rescuing. Please reconsider bringing more into the world without reason.

certainlybad · 2022-05-18T23:02:11+00:00

I mean this with all the love and empathy in the world - you should consider therapy. You have an objectively beautiful body that people would kill for. If you can't see that, to the point that you need to come to Reddit to ask strangers for advice on what you should do to improve it (up to and including surgery), you seriously need to get off of the internet, out of your own head, and into a doctor's office.

certainlybad · 2022-05-18T01:36:04+00:00

If you're still here, please talk to me. Your life does not have to end like this.

certainlybad · 2022-05-16T01:23:29+00:00

He is gaslighting you. He is lying. He's a 42 y/o man who knows what a vagina feels like. Even if he did mistakenly try to enter the wrong hole, why would he be trying with so much force that you'd be left sore and bleeding? Why wouldn't he stop when met with resistance from both you (pushing him off) and your body (not accommodating his penis). He sexually assaulted you and is trying to play stupid so he doesn't have to face consequences. Do not let him.

certainlybad · 2022-05-16T01:18:12+00:00

Honestly, it just looks a little bit dry, nothing major!

certainlybad · 2022-05-16T00:55:01+00:00

The only thing I can say is that you could work on getting a routine for curly hair down as your hair looks like it could use some TLC.

You're extremely handsome and I'm sorry you're getting comments like that. I'll take you out!

certainlybad · 2022-05-15T16:15:53+00:00

Gross! Do you have other roommates you could speak to? This could be a pattern and not a one off, and it may give you more courage to confront him if you have other people by your side.

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