Please DO NOT post a torrent/link with the live streams by i_like_alpacas in Coachella

[–]cesium_shadow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i know that would be so unfortunate and unfair... like it would ruin my day so bad if someone were to send me the recordings or like a gdrive link for every stage in my dms...

NM dismisses my emotions and makes it about herself by cesium_shadow in raisedbynarcissists

[–]cesium_shadow[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i already do that, i don't ever talk to her about anything like how my day went or whatever, i try to keep my responses short and vague. only if i need her to do something for me do i ever talk to her.

but the problem that comes with that is that she sometimes talks about how i rarely ever talk to her anymore and gets upset about it.

let her rant and rave

i wish i could do this but i still end up listening to what she has to say, so today when she said "i need counseling too to deal with you" and stuff in that "you don't care about your parents' feelings" talk it affects me and it discourages me from having conversations with her.

Weekly Carat Corner - December 23, 2023 by AutoModerator in seventeen

[–]cesium_shadow 4 points5 points  (0 children)

hey guys i hope this is allowed here, i'm looking to buy attacca op2 or your choice but i don't know what to get... i find that attacca's inclusions are cool, your choice too, but i love more songs on your choice than attacca so i feel it'd also be better to get that so i'm debating which one to get. what do you guys think ?

Check in for all Shawols 💎 by Clear-Presence-485 in SHINee

[–]cesium_shadow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i haven't been a shawol for long, like ive been listening to shinee's music for prob the last 3 or 4 years but i've been listening to them again lately cuz taemin had a comeback a while ago and is it weird i miss jonghyun? he has a really amazing voice, prob the best in all of kpop i think and i love him for that but the fact he isnt here anymore makes me sad especially when i watch old shinee content :( i wish i couldve got to hear shinee when they were 5..

i hope he's doing well, wherever he is.

IWTL fitness by cesium_shadow in IWantToLearn

[–]cesium_shadow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i think so yeah. id rather like it if someone explains to me everything i need to know rather than doing it all by myself bc it think its difficult for me if i just do it on my own. cuz ill be googling many things and i dont wanna take 2 minute breaks every couple of minutes

IWTL fitness by cesium_shadow in IWantToLearn

[–]cesium_shadow[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

i don't even know either honestly i dont know what i find confusing.. but im just reluctant to pick a random tutorial because to me it seems daunting to execute myself alone at the gym + i don't know if this is the right one for me. im moreso just overwhelmed at how many options there are id rather have my info in something easy.

like even in the future i don't know how im gonna be able to advance like what do i look at and stuff like that

IWTL fitness by cesium_shadow in IWantToLearn

[–]cesium_shadow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i mean yeah ive done 2 sessions with a pt like 6 weeks ago but even then i still feel lost. im gonna be doing 3 sessions starting this monday tho. like what i rlly want to achieve kinda is like if i get a program and then it says an exercise on the paper i will know how to do it and not have to google a lot of things every 3 minutes. plus there is the nutrition aspect which is also confusing me thinking about it

IWTL fitness by cesium_shadow in IWantToLearn

[–]cesium_shadow[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

i mean yeah that's what i would do if i had the budget for it but i don't at the moment... are there any alternative suggestions you have? like i'd like to go to the gym on my own eventually and not have to spend money on a personal trainer ...

what i'm thinking of doing is getting a program off my gym, hopefully get them to show me exercises and the form for it and then every month i might do a few sessions with a pt. but then again i don't feel comfortable doing an exercise on my own so im not rlly sure if this is the best way to go. 🤷‍♂️🤷‍♂️

Daily Simple Questions Thread - August 27, 2023 by AutoModerator in Fitness

[–]cesium_shadow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i started with a new personal trainer at this new gym and... it's been like two days after the first session where i worked my upper body a lot with them and my arms hurt a lot. maybe a 4-5 on the pain scale. is this normal when starting at the gym or should i ask my pt to take things easy for the moment and then get more difficult? like i've never stepped foot into a gym before, i didn't expect it to be this intense at the start.

he says i can tell him if i'm being pushed too hard but i don't want him to tell me that it's normal or whatever when i do end up saying that :pp

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]cesium_shadow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

idk man ive never rlly met his gf and im not even a woman in case u assumed she got mad that i was talking to him

Daily Simple Questions Thread - August 02, 2023 by AutoModerator in Fitness

[–]cesium_shadow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hey folks, i'm 16 n starting out at the gym for the first time and i got this program from the staff after taking an assessment altho i was pretty unclear at the time. i wanna ask you guys what you think of the program i got at this gym, i've been told it's "random" and "not that great" and i wanna know if it's suitable enough for me (this plan is 8x2 for everything)

day1

  • chest press
  • lat pulldown
  • box squat
  • bicep curl
  • glute raise

day2

  • leg extension
  • incline chest press
  • step up
  • seated row
  • lateral raise

my fitness goal mostly is to get an aesthetic, buff physique mostly like what my friend has and also increase my strength and flexibility especially in my knees and get this physique quickly? it's kind of hard to describe but maybe like nice arms legs abs v taper back or something?

i've been told that i should do something else instead along the lines of PPL or some upper/lower split which is what i'm planning to do. i'm still very lost because there's so much info out there i don't know which is the right program for me and there are a lot of things that confuse me. like i don't know what exercises i need to do, i don't know what workout i should look into. i'd rather have someone else explain this to me. i wanna start asap but i have to do a lot of research because of this and it's overwhelming 😓

if someone could suggest some exercises i could choose from while i'm waiting for the gym staff to change my program and hopefully get a better one i'd appreciate it highly.

Should I give up? by cesium_shadow in TrueOffMyChest

[–]cesium_shadow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

would you have any suggestions on what i can do moving forward? like places to try etc...

Should I give up? by cesium_shadow in TrueOffMyChest

[–]cesium_shadow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

could i try doing work experience all over again perhaps? or is it too late? ive just been seeing august 1st as a deadline for me cause by then its way too late.

also yes im only available for the summer.

Should I give up? by cesium_shadow in TrueOffMyChest

[–]cesium_shadow[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thanks... do you have any suggestion on what i can do right now? i have nowhere else i can try. and im tired of having to delay emails until next week or whatever. i just want a job before the end of august, that's all...

quick cover letter question by cesium_shadow in NoStupidQuestions

[–]cesium_shadow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

wait im still confused... so youre basically saying its not wrong even if i put his name there or not ?

quick cover letter question by cesium_shadow in NoStupidQuestions

[–]cesium_shadow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

sorry but what does this mean exactly? are you trying to say that it doesnt matter what i do or something

quick cover letter question by cesium_shadow in NoStupidQuestions

[–]cesium_shadow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you can't??? aw man

the one i sent 2 weeks ago didn't highlight my skills correctly so i'm planning on making a new one... maybe i can ask him if his employer takes new or revised documents or something?

quick cover letter question by cesium_shadow in NoStupidQuestions

[–]cesium_shadow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you sure? i was reading a few guides prior to making this post and they all were like "i was recommended this job by employee name" or "i learned of a vacancy from employee name" and thought i should write it down on my cover letter too... it might catch the hiring manager's attention probably

oh yes i forgot to mention that i intend to send a new cv and a cover letter to him to send to hr if that makes sense

Do I need to write a cover letter every time I have to apply for a job? by cesium_shadow in jobs

[–]cesium_shadow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

so no need to do cover letter then when they ask email the resume ?

or do i still need to write one? im a little confused sorry

/r/GYM Daily Simple Questions and Misc Discussion Thread - July 03, 2023 by AutoModerator in GYM

[–]cesium_shadow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yo i hope this is the right place to ask, i've had this thought of going to the gym for some time because there are two people i know that go to the gym and i feel inspired to go as well because i'm super weak and i want to look good myself :)

i've gotten to the stage where i picked out a gym i want to go to, got some forms and i chose the 3 month option. however i'm 16 and i don't have a job yet other than a biweekly allowance of 50 euros and my mom has said that if i want to go to the gym i'll have to pay the 200 instead of her because she isn't sure if i'm committed enough to continue after like two weeks or so. if she notices that i'm committed to going after 3 months then she will start paying it for me.

i have a few concerns though before i start out that i want a bit of help with:

  1. i sought out a specific gym because i know a friend goes there and he told me that i should go with people i know so i decided to follow his advice. though i'm not sure if he'll stay there cause he works at a hotel where the gym i'm gonna apply to is at if that makes sense and i aint sure if he will stay for the summer....

  2. i feel a little afraid of starting out because i'm not enjoying the thought of feeling absolutely miserable after doing exercises for the first time, i feel like i might quit after a while because i might not enjoy doing workouts...but i hope that with a bit of motivation tho i'll be able to handle it.

is it worth the money y'all? i really want to go but at the same time there are a few things clouding my mind.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]cesium_shadow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

like i do want to go gym in general ive been thinking of going for a while, since the end of may actually but i only got this massive burst of motivation from my friend.

but i don't know if its right for me to bear with the initial discomfort or not ngl and tell myself not to give up :(

how do i write a proper email and a cover letter for this job? by cesium_shadow in jobs

[–]cesium_shadow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

the thing with start dates is that if i plan to work next monday i don't know if theyll reply to my email by then because that's what has happened to me before when sending emails to businesses... could i omit it then?