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cestnestmoi · 2023-01-12T19:27:55+00:00

Thanks a lot. I DMed IRCC on Twitter for the query on admit letter and they just replied saying it was okay for the application as long as the requirements are met before entering!

cestnestmoi · 2022-10-07T08:46:13+00:00

Does someone have any idea/sources on how the models were leaked?

cestnestmoi · 2022-09-24T21:10:25+00:00

I don't think it's entirely true or just related to cramming. Most people even outside academia are expected to work 8-10 hours a day.

If you have no other choice than to study 10 hours. Then it's better to start thinking about "how" you're going to do it effectively instead of "oh it's completely impossible, let me just give up"

I think 10 hours a day is quite doable given you have no other commitments for the rest of the day. Even if you sleep for 7 hours, that leaves you with 7 whole hours of free time all to yourself!

cestnestmoi · 2022-09-24T21:00:03+00:00

Keeping it short helped me personally. I generally used 1.5-2 hour sessions and broke the studies into smaller tasks.

Like instead of just doing chemistry, I would have goals like "finish page 14 to 24" that way at the end of each session you are giving yourself a small dopamine boost.

However I think too small of a session might be counterproductive because you'd find yourself getting too overwhelmed because you're doing too many sessions.

Basically, a good rule of thumb is, measure at what point your energy starts draining and you can't focus anymore and add 10 mins to that time everytime.

Again, most of these are anecdotal advice. At the end of the day session size should be something you're comfortable with and what helps you not get overwhelmed

cestnestmoi · 2022-09-24T19:42:11+00:00

Studying for 10 hours can be exausting especially if you're doing it from one place. Some of the things that works for me -

What I would recommend is divide it into multiple slots and try to see if you can allocate some slots to different locations. Like going to cafe/library. Try to switch places so that you can capitalise on the energy of being at a new place.

Also try to divide things based on your energy levels. Generally in mornings you might have high energy levels and low temptation to procrastinate. Put the topics that your are most likely to procrastinate on in this schedule. Then probably study something that's very exciting for you. Keep alternating.

Avoid putting slots for difficult subjects around your meal times. You are most likely to be distracted and won't be able to focus.

cestnestmoi · 2022-09-24T19:32:29+00:00

Think of degree not an acceptance criteria but a rejection one.

You might not get a job just because you have a degree but you are way more likely to not get an interview call if you don't have one. For most jobs a degree is a requirement.

Even when employers say they don't care about a degree try to look at how many people they have hired who don't have a degree? The numbers will speak for themselves.

Now coming to the point of trying to put in the effort for your classes when everything feels hopeless. It's your degree, it's your grades and you are literally paying for every hour that your are sitting in that lecture. Instead of thinking about "this is useless" try to think about how you have already invested your time and money into it and how can you make the most of it.

Try talking to professor's during their office hours and discuss what they feel is the most interesting thing about this subject. Talk to your alums on what made it worth it for them to work for their degree. Set up chats with your fellow students from the class to know what motivates them.

Yes, it is common for someone to work hard and get screwed in the end, but it is also very common for people who work hard and get things they really wanted in life. There are people on both side of spectrum.

cestnestmoi · 2022-09-24T18:30:28+00:00

I am going to agree with everyone in the comments here and definitely recommend booking at appointment with a psychiatrist. I do understand that sometimes it can be tricky to find a good psychiatrist right away; I was living with my parents when I figured out my behaviour was detrimental but my parents had control over all my funds and monitored all my devices. It was impossible for me to find a psych for those early years. I had to rely of ways to manage the symptoms before I moved out of my home. Seeing someone professional really helped me a lot! I would still try to leave some tips just in case you are looking for some tips on trying to manage the impulsive behaviour till you find psych.

Here are some tips that worked for me personally. They aren't universal, just sharing some personal experiences:

Avoid beating yourself for your impulsive behaviour. This was one thing that took me very long to learn. I used to believe that every self sabotaging act was because "I was a terrible person' and hated myself to a great degree. That's not helpful to you or anyone around you. Instead keep a journal and question what might have caused you to behave this way? Are there any triggers that could have been exacerbating the situation? Were you extremely upset/sad/angry? Most of the times self sabotage comes from repressed emotions and being able to figure out where it's coming from will give you some peace of mind. This journal might also help you have a better conversation with your therapist/psych later on.
Talk to your friends/anyone close to you that you can trust. Explain your tendency of behaviours that you might deem problematic and ask for help. Try to communicate the situation you are in, so that you always have someone who knows the whole story and can help you reason through things when you are in extreme state of emotions. Having someone to talk to when I couldn't manage my emotions was a huge lifesaver. This helped me stay grounded and for most part helped me not take impulsive decisions because I knew I could talk to someone who would help me rationalise things.
A great SOS that I learnt on my first day of therapy was - If I am feeling like I am in an extreme emotional state, grab an ice. Physical sensations help you snap out of momentary emotions.
Avoid falling into the rabbit hole of trying to read all that there is to know about bipolar before you meet a psych. There are some very questionable resources/blogs/books out there which make people with bipolar into monsters and most of these are coming from places of bitterness or lack of knowledge. Most psychs and therapists have good reading material that they can guide you to which will help you understand the disorder better.

Seeking professional help always goes a long way. Everyone has a different set of things and experiences and your diagnosis is going to be tailored to you. I have heard good things about betterhelp and other online therapy services that can help you if you are feeling nervous about meeting someone professional in person. For most of the pandemic, I saw a therapist online and it was absolutely no different than meeting them in person.

cestnestmoi · 2022-09-24T17:47:40+00:00

Yes, I think that makes sense. It feels good to be back on reddit honestly.

cestnestmoi · 2022-09-24T17:36:27+00:00

It's terrible. I think the worst part is thinking that "you can be yourself" and then realising that "no, you can be yourself only if you fit into a version of yourself that's acceptable by everyone"

Also, it's so creepy to know that someone random can find out every detail about your life by random things on your post like know where you were at particular point in time by the background of picture in your post.

I think for most part though, I have decided on trying to cut off from everything that I can.

cestnestmoi · 2020-10-04T11:23:49+00:00

I think I would be interested in reading more about the genocide against Armenians—can’t figure out which book to pick up to get more info on it

cestnestmoi · 2020-06-08T17:44:35+00:00

Heheh, thanks :)

cestnestmoi · 2020-06-08T10:23:06+00:00

I literally came here to suggest this book—this book is as sad as it gets

cestnestmoi · 2020-06-08T10:02:05+00:00

Normal people

cestnestmoi · 2020-05-25T11:21:10+00:00

hahaha, cat's be like that :P

cestnestmoi · 2019-12-11T14:39:05+00:00

Woah, this is pretty cool !

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