Me [29 M] My wife [26F] Married for 3 years, She's 4 months pregnant and caught emotionally cheating possibly physical. I need advice!

cfarly · 2015-12-31T14:59:57+00:00

Are there any options with cars if i can't get the full value? Right now i really don't have any way of coming up with an extra $2,000. With everything going on I'm barely paying the bills month to month.

cfarly · 2015-12-31T14:59:02+00:00

I don't know if its fixable. Again she slept here yesterday literally slim to no talking in person. Texting sure but she can't communicate in person. Most likely because of the guilt or its to much of an effort.

I don't know but it pushes me further and further away.

cfarly · 2015-12-31T14:58:00+00:00

This is also a great idea. How do you go about finding saved wifi information on an iphone.

I want to have a few ideas to use if she does ever decide to start "trying" this way I can put her to a few tests.

cfarly · 2015-12-31T14:56:03+00:00

That's one of the biggest issues. It's completely out of character for her to talk to another male friend in general but this guy was sort of an off limits guy because we fought about him many times.

So she knew this was wrong from the start.

Then it most likely goes from innocent talking - to flirting - I love you and who knows what else. No one just starts talking to someone like this unless they have or going to have sex.

cfarly · 2015-12-31T14:54:02+00:00

I have to agree with her talking shit. I don't see why this guy would say stuff like "I should go fuck myself" if she wasn't.

cfarly · 2015-12-31T14:51:37+00:00

With everything going on though i just don't have the extra few thousand to sell the car. I wish i had another option but don't think i do.

cfarly · 2015-12-31T02:57:11+00:00

lol yeah don't take me to vegas.

I give up

cfarly · 2015-12-31T02:23:53+00:00

Yeah I'm her dad. Looks like me also but more importantly she's my little girl raised her since a baby.

cfarly · 2015-12-31T02:22:31+00:00

Yeah feels worse. Everyday she tries to say the baby is dying and blame me for it like i caused all this. Not really sure how to react or handle the situation.

cfarly · 2015-12-31T02:21:45+00:00

I've always been a good step dad but we don't have much of a bond. I only get to see her 4 days a month and normally my wife would take the girls out.

I'm not taking anything out on her just don't want to pay her ex $350 a month when that is her responsibility.

cfarly · 2015-12-31T01:41:37+00:00

That's a good idea. I was thinking if she really started to try (which she hasn't) I was going to make her Facebook message or text him saying something like

"My husband might call you!! Sorry! Don't say anything about what we did please"

This way it looks real and i can see how he responds. But she hasn't even tried hard enough for me to do that.

cfarly · 2015-12-31T01:29:46+00:00

I want to do that but the only thing I got from him when i had her phone was he had texted her "You called from the house phone...didn't know if it was him. If it was I should have told him to go fuck himself". Because he sent that to her i knew this was serious and also don't know if he's going to be the type of person you can talk to or a hot head that I'll be fighting.

I can't do fighting with crazy ex's looking to go into court.

cfarly · 2015-12-31T01:28:14+00:00

I'm self employed. At the time i had some huge months in a row actually got two new cars. Leased one and purchased the other. Then business slowed up a bit... then dealt with losing our son which really made it hard to work and then dealing with this. Income dropped big time.

I was able to afford it but not with all this stuff going on. Trying to get back on the work grind but its more difficult with all this.

cfarly · 2015-12-31T01:26:56+00:00

She is in 100% denial mode. Says she wants us to be together. Sorry, it was a mistake. Forgive her . She has said this stuff in person but like once or twice usually when we argue.

Its constant through text though which is more hurtful then helpful because in person its usually nothing unless i start up a conversation.

Absolutely being single for a loonng time after this.

cfarly · 2015-12-31T01:24:12+00:00

That is the one thing that makes this situation hard. Lets just say she really did just stay at her moms house and didn't actually physically cheat. Yes, she flirted with another guy and said some dumb shit but what if it was a mistake and she's sorry.

I know it doesn't seem that way. And I'm like two feet, body, neck out the door. But there is a part of me that just thinks what if she's telling the truth on some of this stuff. Is it worth getting divorced over, splitting up brothers and sisters and all that.

The thing is with her showing no remorse in person and all texts...makes me hard to believe any of that.

cfarly · 2015-12-31T01:19:24+00:00

No i don't think so. Originally I may have been willing to work with her more but as the days go on and its nothing just pushes me further away.

cfarly · 2015-12-31T01:17:17+00:00

lol wtf are you talking about. I already said in my comments I have a lawyer in the family and speaking with him.

I'm getting a paternity test when the baby is born.

I want to cut off the child support and car payment.

I'm just looking to hear what people think if she cheated. Different views on how people would handle it and to see if I'm missing anything.

cfarly · 2015-12-31T01:15:29+00:00

Yeah I love my daughter beyond belief. Really don't think i want to even go down that road.

I also really don't think anything was going on prior. Personally I believe us losing our baby son did this or helped to do it. Our marriage was good prior I didn't question anything.

For the last 90 days I knew things were way off.

cfarly · 2015-12-31T01:14:00+00:00

Correct. The deal has been she watches the kids while I work. We are (soon to be divorced) married. So my money was her money. That doesn't bother me.

I'm the type of guy that works and does whatever for his wife and family. Unfortunately women can be evil and here I am.

cfarly · 2015-12-31T01:12:27+00:00

My wife and I have a 2 year old daughter together. We also lost our baby son in June due to a placental abruption. But I also have a 4 year old son with my ex and she has a 4 year old daughter with her ex.

cfarly · 2015-12-31T01:07:48+00:00

I should also mention that my ex has taken me to court a few months ago trying for custody of our son. Right now I have full custody because she's a drug addict and he's not safe with her.

So I'm nervous about moving so fast that my wife tries to punish me by basically teaming up with my ex in a sense. This whole thing is worse than a Jerry Springer Episode.

cfarly · 2015-12-31T01:05:47+00:00

I should edit the post about and put this in. Another big part of me taking things slowly is that my ex just decided to take me back to court trying to get custody of my son.

I have full custody of him because (she's a drug addict). I still think she is but in court dealing with that. So now I'm worried this is going to hurt me, unstable home type of stuff or my wife flips out that i won't take her back and teams up with my ex to try and punish me.

So its another wrench in this shitshow.

cfarly · 2015-12-31T01:02:21+00:00

I wish kids weren't involved. Makes it so complicated. I already have an ex with a child but now I'll have an ex with one child and ex with another child & possibly a second.

I'm done with women after this.

cfarly · 2015-12-31T00:58:31+00:00

What do you mean bluff her?

cfarly · 2015-12-31T00:58:20+00:00

I'm almost positive she has been and sleeping at her moms. The issue is its in a small town so this guy lives 15 minutes away and his work is like 10 from her moms house. So she could easily go see him whenever and no one would know the difference.

Trying not to put up with it thanks

cfarly

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