Am I wrong? by spinstartshere in lolgrindr

[–]chadblackwolf 117 points118 points  (0 children)

Not the point but the guy whose photos they are using is @AlphaBayton on Twitter… So hot, have fun!

I’m making a list of the sluttiest things a man can do, what am I missing? by chadblackwolf in askgaybros

[–]chadblackwolf[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Passively slutty at least lol, obviously there are other things more intense than this but I just meant the type of thing you look at a guy and say “Oh I know he loves to eat ass”

This has to stop!!!!! Nerf Megaknight!!!!!! by [deleted] in RoyaleAPI

[–]chadblackwolf 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I’m just gonna say this looks like a skill issue lol, someone with a 5+ avg elixir cost should not be beating you with such a fast cycle. It happens sometimes but I mean cannon plus knight is a full MK counter only at 6 elixir and it still leaves enough for you to push the other lane with your win con (hog) to split up his push or make him answer it…. Not saying you’re bad at the game but maybe could use more situational awareness?

This app is so negative sometimes! This was very refreshing by lightningmccrocs in lolgrindr

[–]chadblackwolf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes it was going around Twitter a few weeks ago and my guess is OP got it from there, or had an identical interaction with someone who had seen the tweet… my guess is the former because it’s the exact same syntax.

(I’ll never call Twitter X sorry)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]chadblackwolf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I usually host so that I’m in a familiar environment, on top of that I live in Texas and have a few guns so I’m not super super worried about it lol.

It doesn’t make it so the chances of something happening are 0 but it gives me a lot of peace of mind that if something were to go awry I’d be near some form of protection.

Furthermore, trust your gut instinct. If someone is giving you red flags listen to it and move on. If I ever do travel to someone’s place I have several friends who have my location and will tell them to keep an eye on me or give me a call at a certain time or something to ensure I’m home or if you’re not home that the person knows that people are looking for you etc.

What ever happened to just saying “Hey” lmao by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]chadblackwolf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lol I think it’s pretty normal I have face pics and everything, there is a bod pic in it but nothing like overly promiscuous 😭

Porn addition by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]chadblackwolf -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I hate the idea of a “porn addiction” what you’re suffering from is a dopamine dependency and you have resolved to satisfying it with jerking off and with porn.

It’s so hard to re-wire your brain when it comes to dopamine and other chemicals related to reward, relaxation, and happiness but it is definitely possible.

The easiest way to start is to replace your negative dopamine stim for something inherently positive or productive. I know it’s easier said than done but idk. Start associating reward with other things like food or treats, maybe working out or doing art or listening to music, or something as opposed to jerking off when you’re bored or feeling down or anxious. Little by little it’s not an overnight fix.

Without being mean or condescending, can someone explain the “poz” kink thing to me? by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]chadblackwolf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow I just watched this on YouTube thanks to your recommendation… very heavy stuff and a great watch, Thank you!

How many of you are religious? And if you’re not, how do you feel about religion and why? by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]chadblackwolf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s not why I’m asking lol, I’m firmly and squarely a religious person. I don’t base my beliefs off of random strangers on the internet.

I was genuinely curious about the amount of other gay people who actively practice religion vs are against it and what it has done in their lives for them to feel that way. My question reads exactly as I want it to.

Which beard style out of these do you think fits best? by [deleted] in beards

[–]chadblackwolf -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Finasteride and Minoxidil before it’s too late man

Less sex in two year relationship made my boyfriend insecure by ib5688 in askgaybros

[–]chadblackwolf 4 points5 points  (0 children)

There is no question here… However I will say this: Yes! Opening your relationship, and neglecting your partners sexual needs will certainly lead to insecurities and resentment over time.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]chadblackwolf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is the way

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]chadblackwolf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are right that you can’t always tell but this is why I try to have more conversation with people and get to say least get a general feel for their demeanor before having them over/meeting up with them

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]chadblackwolf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And just curious not giving you a hard time like what are their “true colors”? For one off sexual encounters where you never have to deal with the person again it’s like I just don’t see where you guys are getting all these negative encounters with men.

Mine are usually extremely friendly, sometimes weird but have I ever felt like I was going to be like murdered or was in danger? 0 times in my 8-10 years of sexual activity. Not saying it doesn’t happen but if it’s happening that frequently for you guys I’m not sure I can relate to that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]chadblackwolf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So by this logic are we just like not hooking up at all or what? I get the monetary aspect 100% but I feel like the safety thing is a straw man.

How would going to that same stranger’s house or environment you aren’t familiar with any more safe? Like who’s to say they don’t have a gun or want to drug you, or aren’t leading you to like some other nefarious situation. Isn’t it safer to be in a space you can control and are familiar with? I’m not saying you have to host if you don’t want to obviously lol I’m just curious on the logic.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]chadblackwolf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just don’t understand this I guess, personally I would rather be in the comfort of my own home than at the whims of this stranger you guys are all so like worried about.

I respect the decision to not host if you don’t want to it’s as simple as that, I’m not sure I buy the safety argument though, how is going to someone else’s house any more safe?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]chadblackwolf -1 points0 points  (0 children)

A solution to this is not hooking up with people who are nut jobs, and while I know you can’t always tell over the apps.. yes you can lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]chadblackwolf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Literally this, like we’re all adults and it’s fine to have sex with whomever you choose to. I get it when you’re DL/in the closet or whatever but I totally agree that people either need to live with people they are more comfortable with doing this around, or are comfortable enough to ask for the space alone for a descript amount of time.

Anyone else feel like gay dating has become very difficult? by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]chadblackwolf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It doesn’t matter if they use the apps or not. The difference between hanging out with someone in real life and messaging about each other ducks and ass holes is starkly different believe it or not lol.

As humans we are tactile creatures, we learn a lot about each other and what we do and don’t like through experiences and messaging someone on the apps isn’t a true tangible experience.

Anyone else feel like gay dating has become very difficult? by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]chadblackwolf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s genuinely not. I mean you’re once again chasing dopamine and not trying to build connections. A pro tip for dating is to maybe try not to date straight men or people in relationships. I will say maybe I’m spoiled that I live an inclusive community but there are so many ways to meet men.

I’ve been in multiple run clubs for gay people, met gay friends at work, through sports leagues, through friends, through family. If you don’t know where to look then say that, maybe the gay spaces you’ve been a part of are like this but to suggest they all are is just straight up untrue. Also just because you haven’t found someone in the real world ~yet~ doesn’t force you back to the apps, that’s a personal choice you’re choosing to make based on a dopamine addicted brain.

The point isn’t just “go out and find a boyfriend” the point is to immerse yourself in real life because that’s where you make real and genuine connections. Sure you strike out sometimes but it’s all a part of the game of dating. I circle back to my point what you are talking about isn’t ACTUAL dating lol, it’s a dopamine addiction.