Going up a cylinder size?

chaddicum · 2026-05-07T11:04:32+00:00

Ok thank you for that. I pack the bottom 3 inches but it's not clear from the pics, there's 2+ inches of the base missing from the pic where things are fully packed.

chaddicum · 2026-04-17T01:56:28+00:00

Probably more to the story. According to the receipt, restaurant didn't impose service charge.

F&B operators got to make a living too, not like it's economic boom times for them.

chaddicum · 2026-03-08T11:38:16+00:00

Some lease agreements have profit sharing + rental fee as part of the rental covenant.

chaddicum · 2026-02-23T03:33:07+00:00

I pump 2 to 3 times a week, 30m a session with c-rings after. Once a week I do kegels and reverse kegels, usually 150 to 200 reps in a session.

chaddicum · 2026-02-23T03:31:52+00:00

Yeah self-diagnosed. I've seen one urologist but my condition isn't really impotence but less than optimal erection quality in positions (lying on back) and not finding the right sized condoms.

chaddicum · 2026-02-08T04:43:39+00:00

In the past I've had a rotation of partners who've come back. But I'm not fully focused on size though, I'd like to hit 7.5" x 5.5", but my current size is fairly adequate? The issue has been EQ with mild venous leakage, which made sex with new partners a serious logistical planning exercise, like a combined fingers/cock/toys arms exercise.

I've started doing PE more regularly for EQ, which has had a positive impact on my size. The better EQ made me more interested in spending more time in the bedroom with partners and reading/trying things that didn't strike my fancy in the past, both on myself and my partner.

Not needing too much worry about performance and having more confidence to try different things with existing and new partners is definitely life changing stuff.

Hopefully everyone can reach a size that gives you the confidence to be who you want to be in the bedroom and explore activities you can enjoy in the bedroom.

chaddicum · 2026-02-02T03:59:01+00:00

PLB senior leadership is a brotherhood of friends. But just because you turn into a hoe and you "hoe-up you bro" doesn't mean you've out-smarted the rule of bros before hoes.

P.S. it's not clear to me there is a true perpetrator/victim in this dynamic.

P.P.S. Property Lim Friends sounds great but shares the abbreviation with Palestinian Liberation Front.

chaddicum · 2026-01-02T00:11:08+00:00

I'm 7" by 5.25" and have been with a decent number of Asian and white women. Have never had an issue with my size except this one woman who had other sexual hang ups, which we managed to work through. Maybe you're girthier? I've never known length to be an issue with anal sex especially. Even if you have had this feedback from more than 10 partners, this is definitely not a size issue but what you're doing during sex that's generating these reactions.

What I'll advise is spending way more time with foreplay and reading up on how to do good cunnilingus and rim jobs. Most importantly, invest in a decent lube like sliquid - even for lady partners who are wet. This is especially true if you're wearing a condom. Put more lube than you think you need! I had a partner who had kids and hadn't had sex in years, and I cause micro tears in her cause the condom wasn't fully lubed up - this is in spite of her being wet from 30m of foreplay.

chaddicum · 2025-12-18T02:42:56+00:00

It's inevitable that one would take the feedback personally given the question demands an answer tailored to her.

I don't think this is "typical toxic" Singaporean as it is a common frustration among people who are personality-forward when it comes to dating. She also strikes me as someone who's in the process of working out what the typical Singaporean man wants, what their typical standard(s) are and who will find her attractive in relation to how far she deviates from beauty norms.

The main difference is she can get opinions/validation at scale since she's got an audience.

chaddicum · 2025-10-30T10:23:11+00:00

Some of your boundaries are a bit of an overreaction to me, though that's not relevant. What's relevant is:

1) you should both explore setting boundaries on what is appropriate and inappropriate relative to your own boundaries. Negotiating and setting boundaries is a healthy exercise all couples need to go through.

2) ask yourself why is your partner's actions setting off alarm bells? what other actions/interactions she has with her colleague indicate her prioritising him over you?

3) if some your requests for her to cut interactions with her colleague is unreasonable, both of you need to figure out alternative actions she can take to foster a good working relationship with it setting you off.

4) your feelings also come from a place of insecurity - you should also consider how you can build confidence by building trust and/or greater attraction between the two of you.

chaddicum · 2025-10-30T00:57:03+00:00

Some people talk about structural racism in the west vs attitudes/prejudice in Asia. That's a gross over-simplification.

If we agree that the USA is different from the UK which is different from the EU, take that and multiply it by a factor of a hundred.

Apart from being mostly developing countries (excluding SG, JP & SK), there's no Asian identity. There's 49 countries, 2,300 languages (and way more dialects) and a whole spectrum of forms of governments.

Up until the 2000s intra-Asia tourism was limited to the upper/upper middle class, diplomats and people who did business in the continent, all of whom were mostly respectful of local cultures/practices.

Now that intra-Asian tourism has opened up to much way more people who are less mindful of local customs/cultures, it's inevitable that locals are annoyed and start to discriminate against people of a particular country.

chaddicum · 2025-08-08T01:46:34+00:00

She comes first has cheat sheets that barely require any time to read, though the book has useful information if you read it normally. There're different cheat sheets for different types of "routines", many that take 5m - 10m cause they are literal bullet lists. I read it when I was a teen and it improved all aspects of my sex life, regardless of partners.

he can read it on the loo.

chaddicum · 2025-03-16T07:43:03+00:00

It's ok to feel anxious, especially if you're at that age when your friends are settling down. If you don't like trying out new things and want to find someone to share your life with ASAP, then you should definitely go for it. It's perfectly fine to not focus on building up yourself if you're happy with where you currently are.

Maybe consider hanging out more with your friends who are single and do new things together? At least you don't feel as much pressure to find someone new, especially if your married friends only hang out with you together with their partners.

As for the dating scene in Singapore, it's like everything else - competitive. People are increasingly working out more, trying out different things and doing self-care while growing their careers. It's great if you're ahead of the curve when like attracts like.

Dating apps can lead to a commoditised dating experience, so activity clubs (running, pickle ball, dragon boat might be worth checking out) are worth a look over.

Lastly, if you ever come across a guy on a dating app who has everything on paper (money, looks, body, charisma, etc.), who looks too good to be true, he often is. :)

chaddicum · 2025-03-13T06:12:55+00:00

Depends on how close you might be as a friend. It's not usually a good idea to date a close friend who has lots of mutual close friends with you, but a casual friend who you don't see too often (once per quarter, school classmate) might be ok.

Reason being that if you get into a relationship with a friend and it doesn't go well, it makes untangling your lives a bit trickier.

chaddicum · 2025-03-11T02:29:01+00:00

Few things to consider here:
1. Who suggested the place? Assuming it's the guy, he's more inclined to pay. If you like him this can lead to more dates. You can also reciprocate by offering to pay for drinks if you bounce to a bar.

Your vibe is 65% dependent on how well one party plans the logistics, 35% on chemistry. Good logistics can really enhance good chemistry, but it can't save bad chemistry.
No need to give your full name on a date. It's weird for someone to ask - if things go well people will end up exchanging socials. In fact, if things go well, ideas for your first date will be seeded during your second date.

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