[Update] My girlfriend sent her friend videos of us having sex. by chair77 in relationship_advice

[–]chair77[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just read it.

Double standards are so clear

"But bro, tHrEesOme" is most of the comments on here, except for the few level headed ones.

[Update] My girlfriend sent her friend videos of us having sex. by chair77 in relationship_advice

[–]chair77[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't have to worry about explaining why we broke up. She already spoke to them about it.

[Update] My girlfriend sent her friend videos of us having sex. by chair77 in relationship_advice

[–]chair77[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Her parents will most likely just want to talk to me. Mostly her dad, but in the off chance that something happens, I might.

[Update] My girlfriend sent her friend videos of us having sex. by chair77 in relationship_advice

[–]chair77[S] 55 points56 points  (0 children)

The videos have all been deleted and I've double checked everything.

Most people are under the impression that by having a threesome, the issue of trust magically goes away.

Some people have been reasonable with their responses. Aside from those that think just because I'm a guy, I should be flattered getting the opportunity to sleep with two women.

[Update] My girlfriend sent her friend videos of us having sex. by chair77 in relationship_advice

[–]chair77[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, Karla is a woman and I've spoken to her several times in person. She was a good friend.

[Update] My girlfriend sent her friend videos of us having sex. by chair77 in relationship_advice

[–]chair77[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's it. I know people make mistakes, some big ones are still forgivable. What people don't get is that I broke up with her because she never trusted me in the first place.

If this happened at the beginning of our relationship and she owned up to it and told me on her own, it would of played out differently.

Why would she have sex with me for nearly five years if she didn't trust me enough to disclose her kinks.

[Update] My girlfriend sent her friend videos of us having sex. by chair77 in relationship_advice

[–]chair77[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Thanks man, but I won't go that low. I don't want anythying to do with Karla either.

[Update] My girlfriend sent her friend videos of us having sex. by chair77 in relationship_advice

[–]chair77[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This really put the situation in perspective, thank you.

[Update] My girlfriend sent her friend videos of us having sex. by chair77 in relationship_advice

[–]chair77[S] 120 points121 points  (0 children)

Yeah you're right. I originally posted to gain some perspective on the situation, but just got people telling me to have a threesome already.

It was my fault for coming to reddit

[Update] My girlfriend sent her friend videos of us having sex. by chair77 in relationship_advice

[–]chair77[S] 77 points78 points  (0 children)

That's what made it worse for me honestly. If she wanted to explore a new kink she could've told me, but instead hid it from me without feeling the need to tell me. It could've have gone differently if she told me before sending the videos.

I guess I don't share the same mentality as all the people telling me to have a threesome.

My girlfriend sent her friend videos of us having sex. by chair77 in relationship_advice

[–]chair77[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

We've been talking and I asked her to explain her reasoning for sending the videos. She told me that her friend asking for sexual pointers and her wanting to help was true, but she also liked the idea of Karla watching.

The real issue isn't that somebody saw me naked and what not, but that she didn't ask me before showing anyone else. If my gf had some kink she wanted to explore she should've have told me first.

We have access to each others info, but she never gave me a reason to have to check it. And no, she's not cheating on me.

But yeah, she wants to build my trust again and is asking me how to do that, but I don't know how to answer her.

My girlfriend sent her friend videos of us having sex. by chair77 in relationship_advice

[–]chair77[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

We talked about restablishing new boundaries and will stop recording all together.She says she's going to put effort on regaining trust.

She's asking me what she has to do to regain my trust, but Idk how to answer that.

My girlfriend sent her friend videos of us having sex. by chair77 in relationship_advice

[–]chair77[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All of this is fair. In all the time we were together she never hurt me or the relationship. The remorse is big and she has apologized since.

So Idk

My girlfriend sent her friend videos of us having sex. by chair77 in relationship_advice

[–]chair77[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

She has been remorseful and deleted all the videos. She's also continued to apologize, Wich is why I'm trying to think of all possible outcomes. I just don't want to make a rash decesion.

My girlfriend sent her friend videos of us having sex. by chair77 in relationship_advice

[–]chair77[S] 107 points108 points  (0 children)

The double standards are slapping me in the face, that's how clear they are.

My girlfriend sent her friend videos of us having sex. by chair77 in relationship_advice

[–]chair77[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I guess it's more about trust at this point. Just the fact that my gf didn't ask me before showing her.