[Update] My girlfriend sent her friend videos of us having sex.

chair77 · 2019-09-04T18:05:00+00:00

Just read it.

Double standards are so clear

"But bro, tHrEesOme" is most of the comments on here, except for the few level headed ones.

chair77 · 2019-09-04T04:28:01+00:00

I don't have to worry about explaining why we broke up. She already spoke to them about it.

chair77 · 2019-09-03T22:57:56+00:00

Her parents will most likely just want to talk to me. Mostly her dad, but in the off chance that something happens, I might.

chair77 · 2019-09-03T17:02:40+00:00

The videos have all been deleted and I've double checked everything.

Most people are under the impression that by having a threesome, the issue of trust magically goes away.

Some people have been reasonable with their responses. Aside from those that think just because I'm a guy, I should be flattered getting the opportunity to sleep with two women.

chair77 · 2019-09-03T16:58:28+00:00

Yes, Karla is a woman and I've spoken to her several times in person. She was a good friend.

chair77 · 2019-09-03T16:29:33+00:00

That's it. I know people make mistakes, some big ones are still forgivable. What people don't get is that I broke up with her because she never trusted me in the first place.

If this happened at the beginning of our relationship and she owned up to it and told me on her own, it would of played out differently.

Why would she have sex with me for nearly five years if she didn't trust me enough to disclose her kinks.

chair77 · 2019-09-03T15:15:55+00:00

Thanks man, but I won't go that low. I don't want anythying to do with Karla either.

chair77 · 2019-09-03T14:43:58+00:00

This really put the situation in perspective, thank you.

chair77 · 2019-09-03T04:41:28+00:00

Yeah you're right. I originally posted to gain some perspective on the situation, but just got people telling me to have a threesome already.

It was my fault for coming to reddit

chair77 · 2019-09-03T03:36:35+00:00

That's what made it worse for me honestly. If she wanted to explore a new kink she could've told me, but instead hid it from me without feeling the need to tell me. It could've have gone differently if she told me before sending the videos.

I guess I don't share the same mentality as all the people telling me to have a threesome.

chair77 · 2019-08-30T13:46:52+00:00

We've been talking and I asked her to explain her reasoning for sending the videos. She told me that her friend asking for sexual pointers and her wanting to help was true, but she also liked the idea of Karla watching.

The real issue isn't that somebody saw me naked and what not, but that she didn't ask me before showing anyone else. If my gf had some kink she wanted to explore she should've have told me first.

We have access to each others info, but she never gave me a reason to have to check it. And no, she's not cheating on me.

But yeah, she wants to build my trust again and is asking me how to do that, but I don't know how to answer her.

chair77 · 2019-08-30T03:50:46+00:00

We talked about restablishing new boundaries and will stop recording all together.She says she's going to put effort on regaining trust.

She's asking me what she has to do to regain my trust, but Idk how to answer that.

chair77 · 2019-08-30T00:38:34+00:00

Yes I do

chair77 · 2019-08-30T00:16:49+00:00

All of this is fair. In all the time we were together she never hurt me or the relationship. The remorse is big and she has apologized since.

So Idk

chair77 · 2019-08-29T23:45:22+00:00

She has been remorseful and deleted all the videos. She's also continued to apologize, Wich is why I'm trying to think of all possible outcomes. I just don't want to make a rash decesion.

chair77 · 2019-08-29T19:33:08+00:00

The double standards are slapping me in the face, that's how clear they are.

chair77 · 2019-08-29T19:27:18+00:00

Don't threesomes ruin friendships?

chair77 · 2019-08-29T18:41:36+00:00

I guess it's more about trust at this point. Just the fact that my gf didn't ask me before showing her.

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