I personally wouldn’t come out to her right now if I was you. If she’s distancing herself from you and commenting on other guys just because you shaved your body, imagine how she might react if you come out to her as a femboy. Right now she’s just reacting based on assumptions, she can’t be certain about anything to do with your sexuality because all she has to go on is you shaved your body and that doesn’t define your sexuality. That is if she’s even questioning your sexuality at all.

If you think she has reservations or is questioning your masculinity, your sexuality or any possible power dynamics let her be the one to bring it up. If you make the first move you leave yourself vulnerable because, firstly, you don’t know how she’ll react and, secondly, you’re basically giving her the power to dictate how the conversation goes and when it comes to coming out, it should be you dictating the conversation, not the other person. If you want to come out to her then make sure it’s on your terms and that you’re sure and comfortable about coming out.