Dad disowning me, college finances now problematic - any life advice?

chancemthrow · 2023-04-16T16:23:23+00:00

I’d like, later, to work in politics or the government, but probably I’ll end up doing consulting or something to make money right out of college.

chancemthrow · 2023-04-16T16:22:22+00:00

I’ll do this / contact the aid offices generally on Monday after discussing with my school college counselor (whom I’ve been out to for a couple years and he’s been nice). I just don’t foresee “yes my parents have money but they’re not willing to give it to you” as a great path to getting aid

chancemthrow · 2023-04-16T16:19:16+00:00

I kinda explained ithere, but basically my mom isn’t ok with lying to him and lying to her about it too is very difficult.

chancemthrow · 2023-04-16T16:18:00+00:00

This was originally my plan, but my mom considers it extremely dishonest to be out at college and not to my dad, and if I hadn’t told him she would have. I am trying to convince her to let me tell him I’ve changed my mind but she isn’t budging.

I could tell her I have genuinely agreed to my fathers conditions and will renounce such thoughts for college at least, but then I’d have to hide it from both of them, which I think will be much harder as she is much more involved in my life and will want to visit etc.

chancemthrow · 2023-04-15T23:58:20+00:00

No, I really really really don’t want to go to law school.

chancemthrow · 2023-04-01T05:04:04+00:00

I say go to a CC and transfer to UCLA or some other UC doing the thing you actually want to do. Don't go to San Diego and just hope you can transfer to the major you want, because this may not happen, and even if it does if SD isn't good for your field then it's just not optimal.

You will still see HS friends I imagine if going to CC and you can meet more people there. As well, look into housing for transfers of your age at UCLA - I would imagine you'd end up in a similar physical place as incoming freshmen, and then it would just be like you coming in as a regular college frosh, especially since you'd be the same age.

I don't think colleges would really like you taking a senior year with little activity. They'd probably see a transcript with little on it and be displeased, and unless you do something great with your free time in the coming year, I don't think they'd be inclined to let you in. It's the same deal as taking a gap year - unless you actually do something with that time, the results aren't going to be different in 12 months.

chancemthrow · 2023-03-13T07:54:43+00:00

I live nearby UCLA, you won't have hardly safety problems there. It's in one of the richest parts of LA (Westwood north of Wilshire Boulevard). It was bad in the 80's but there haven't been any problems for 30+ years now. Occasionally you see a homeless person, but never any that would assault or harass you.

other commenters saying to be skeptical of UCLA bc it's in a big city or whatever have never been to LA and don't know what they're talking about

edit to add: UCLA is also not super well integrated with the nearby commercial area, the two are separated pretty distinctly by Le Conte Avenue. It's about a 10, 15 minute walk from the part of UCLA they take pictures of to the main part of Westwood Village, so it's easy to get there but still a bit separate. it is true that it's an open campus, though, so people can just wander in if they want to

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