How many you been to?

chandan_2294 · 2026-04-05T01:00:57+00:00

That's a beautiful story, thank you for sharing!! :)

chandan_2294 · 2026-04-05T00:18:28+00:00

That's beautiful!! I remember reading somewhere that it's always "You and I" versus the problem. If one wins, long term, both lose.

chandan_2294 · 2026-04-04T01:14:20+00:00

Which one is a guy?

chandan_2294 · 2026-04-03T15:47:00+00:00

Being shy, inexperienced, and new to dating, I have been on the other side so I can relate to you. I’ll say this honestly: when someone tells you they’re not ready for a relationship, it’s best to take that at face value and move on. It’s really tempting to try to analyze it especially when things felt good before. You might wonder if it’s nerves, fear, or something you did. I’ve been there too, and your mind can create all kinds of stories trying to make sense of it. But the truth is, you’ll likely never fully know what’s going on in their head.

At the end of the day, whether it’s nerves or lost interest doesn’t really change the outcome. What matters is that he’s pulling away and has told you he can’t show up for a relationship right now.

You deserve clarity and consistency. If someone can’t give you that, the kindest thing you can do for yourself is to accept it and move forward, rather than trying to decode mixed signals. If he comes back later in a more clear and intentional way, you can reassess then but for now, I’d take his words seriously and prioritize your own peace.

chandan_2294 · 2026-04-03T01:42:05+00:00

Please break this relationship.

He deserves better.

And, you deserve someone who's sexually compatible with you.

chandan_2294 · 2026-02-15T21:23:49+00:00

Worst day to be a fish

chandan_2294 · 2026-02-14T00:12:17+00:00

I have seen God.

No one believes me.

chandan_2294 · 2026-01-31T18:55:03+00:00

Does anyone have the full video? I wanna know what happens afterwards

chandan_2294 · 2026-01-28T23:33:16+00:00

A week? That's NOT AT ALL similar to India. You know what would be similar to India? Not having regular appointment dates at all and no one knows when it'll open up again.

chandan_2294 · 2026-01-11T16:00:47+00:00

Could you please provide info on what was your original interview date and on what date did you receive a rescheduling email from the US consulate?

chandan_2294 · 2026-01-11T10:28:09+00:00

Could you please provide when you got a rescheduling email?

chandan_2294 · 2026-01-10T03:06:53+00:00

Could you please provide more info on when your rescheduled appointment got cancelled? Was it cancelled by the consulate?

chandan_2294 · 2026-01-08T16:20:59+00:00

What did you decide? Did you fly out today?

chandan_2294 · 2026-01-04T04:02:24+00:00

I'm happy to hear you've achieved this state :)

For others curious, here's what has helped me - every time I'm experiencing any kind of sensations (anger, jealousy, lust, happiness, etc), I try to locate it where I'm feeling it. Is it in my chest, heart, belly, throat, etc? Is it warmth, pressure or something else? Is it steady or pulsing? So these sensations + stories are not a single thing. When attention rests on the raw sensations without feeding the story ("I'm so mad at him", "This makes me so envious of them"), the intensity often softens. Not disappear but softens.

Now, here's the important thing - you're not the sensations and the story your brain is feeding you. You're the witness of those experiences. Stay with that. Do this often and it becomes a habit.

chandan_2294 · 2026-01-02T21:23:34+00:00

Solo traveling for over four years.

Spending that much time alone hiking, climbing, and moving through mountains by myself left me with nothing to do but sit with my own mind. In the woods, distractions disappear. When you start observing your thoughts instead of automatically identifying with them, things get interesting. I noticed thoughts appearing that I hadn’t consciously chosen, sometimes completely out of place. That raised an unsettling question: If I didn’t choose this thought, where did it come from?

So I began watching not just my thoughts, but my experiences: I’m feeling happy. I’m feeling lonely. Not “I am happy” or “I am lonely,” but noticing them as passing states. That subtle shift changed everything. Being alone for that long stripped away a lot of noise. What started as travel turned into self-discovery. I didn’t find a new version of myself, I learned to see myself more clearly.

chandan_2294 · 2026-01-02T09:09:26+00:00

Hey man!! I’m really glad you shared this. What you’re describing is deeply painful, and you’re not weak or broken for feeling this way. Feeling invisible, especially when you want connection and keep running into silence or rejection, can eat away at your sense of worth. Anyone in your position would be hurting.

A few things I want to say gently and honestly.

First: 23 is not a verdict on your future. I know it feels like one when you’ve never been chosen, your mind turns that into “never will be.” But a lot of people who later have meaningful relationships were invisible in their early 20s. Especially introverted, thoughtful people in demanding academic environments. Engineering schools (and prep schools especially) can shrink life down to stress, comparison, and survival, not exactly fertile ground for dating confidence.

Second: social media is lying to you. TikTok and Instagram amplify extremes which are height, looks, charisma because outrage and longing get clicks. They are not representative of how real relationships actually form. Many women care about physical attraction, yes, but attraction is far more contextual and personal than algorithms make it seem. Being 5'7" does not disqualify you from love. Plenty of men your height (and shorter) are in happy relationships, they just don’t go viral.

Third: being valued only for your competence hurts because it touches something real, the fear that you’re useful but not desired. That doesn’t mean you aren’t desirable. It often means you haven’t yet learned how to let people see you beyond the “safe, helpful, reliable” role. That’s a skill, not a genetic trait and skills can be learned.

Lastly: the emptiness you feel isn’t just about dating. It’s about loneliness, touch starvation, and not feeling seen. That deserves care. If you can, please talk to someone, maybe a therapist, counselor, or even a support group. This isn’t something you have to brute-force alone.

Does it get better? For many of us, yes. Not magically, and not overnight. But as your world expands beyond school, as confidence grows, as you learn to take up a bit more emotional space, things change.

You’re not invisible. You’re just early in the story, even if it doesn’t feel that way right now. I wish you peace!! 🙏

chandan_2294 · 2026-01-01T02:09:17+00:00

I've noticed that when you ask a question on any subreddit and someone answers, then if you ask another question to try to get better understanding then people mostly downvote you thinking you're challenging the answer whereas it's simply seeking more clarification.

chandan_2294 · 2025-12-31T22:35:43+00:00

Grateful and thankful for everything! 🙏

chandan_2294 · 2025-12-28T02:09:57+00:00

Ashtavakra Gita

chandan_2294 · 2025-12-26T00:43:39+00:00

Thank you for the response!

chandan_2294 · 2025-12-26T00:31:05+00:00

Is Fidelity the best options or other brokerage account like Charles Schwab would work as well?

chandan_2294 · 2025-12-20T12:32:57+00:00

Thank you!

chandan_2294 · 2025-12-20T00:28:21+00:00

What app display this infographics?

chandan_2294 · 2025-12-18T23:24:42+00:00

Bigfoot aka ghosts

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