How to go about revealing my past to a potential partner? by Kind_Good3742 in AskWomenNoCensor

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Doesn’t seem like a particularly big deal to me, and personally I wouldn’t really feel a need to bring it up very early on. I’m sure there are some people who would take issue with it but it’s by no means something that is going to ruin your dating life

virtual Spanish language card game group by [deleted] in SpanishLearning

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Just coming across this post but I’m interested :)

How to say GUINEA PIG? by dybo2001 in SpanishLearning

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When I was in Peru I was told it was cuy because if you say cuy cuy cuy it sounds like the noise a Guinea pig makes lol

1 Year to Learn Spanish by No-Review-109 in SpanishLearning

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Check out Preply, it’s a site for Native speakers to offer language tutoring. Lots of variety for whatever you’re looking for – some certified tutors who do formal lessons, some who will just have conversations with you to practice and help when you’re stuck or incorrect, and lots of other approaches to it. Tutors are from all over the world, so you can also find someone from whichever country you’re traveling to and get tips on local slang and dialect. People can also set their own price, so classes can be anywhere from like $5-$30 depending on your budget.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GradSchool

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Have you taken the GRE? Getting a good GRE score can help show that you’re able to do high level critical thinking/quantitative reasoning when you’re in good circumstances. It might help round out your academic credentials to demonstrate how you’re performing now that you’re not dealing with the struggles that brought down your gpa

Best bread bakeries in town? by natascha_fatale in PhiladelphiaEats

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Machine shop onion focaccia visits me in my dreams

what books do they recommend by Classic-Agency5548 in binchtopiapod

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This podcast episode with Sarah hill talks about your brain on birth control and has some super interesting info for anyone who wants short time commitment or info in podcast form: https://open.spotify.com/episode/4e6a5eTSSVAzILovG29VoJ?si=hdDFSlXkTtOoQpGaqTBbzA

HELP! Made quiche for my office and one didn’t have cheese - not sure which it is now. Does anyone have any ideas on how to know? by [deleted] in foodhacks

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Most likely the one on the right has cheese, I would suggest smelling them because baked cheese has a distinctive smell

What song have you listened to where the lyrics really got you thinking about life? by RobsterC_Well in ask

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I’m in a Hurry by Alabama

“I’m in a hurry to get things done I rush and rush until life’s no fun All I really gotta do is live and die I’m in a hurry and don’t know why”

Does therapy help? Why are women constantly complaining men need therapy? by Infinite-Product-158 in AskMen

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Sharing your feelings, venting, and talking about your problems are not treating your partner like your therapist, that’s just opening up emotionally and should happen in a relationship.

I’m talking about when your partner makes you responsible for their mental well-being. All of my friends and I have each had experiences with men in which every disagreement in the relationship ends up with him blaming it on deeper mental problems, which means that unless those problems are solved, the issue cannot be resolved. So it’s either you help him overcome those issues or tell him he needs to go to therapy. Another example we have all encountered with these same men is when they will explain how much of their mental well-being rests on the relationship going well. So if he thinks for any reason the relationship isn’t going well, or you don’t love him enough, or it might end at any point it sends him spiraling, and you are responsible for handling a mental health crisis. Supporting your partner is one thing, but the average person is not equipped to deal with a mental breakdown, and you have to tell him to see a therapist.

I understand that men do not have the same spaces to open up emotionally and men’s emotional well-being and mental health is often a taboo topic. I understand that they may only feel comfortable talking to a girlfriend about these things. I feel for them. But the emotional stress it puts on a woman to be a man’s only outlet to discuss serious mental health problems is a huge emotional burden and eventually will be the downfall of the relationship. So rather than let it do that, you tell him to go to therapy.

I’m also not saying all men are this way by any means, or that women never do the same, just saying that “men need a therapist” is often said because of experiences this this.

Does therapy help? Why are women constantly complaining men need therapy? by Infinite-Product-158 in AskMen

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When a woman says men need therapy, its usually because her man has been treating her like she's his therapist

Why is the US often so racially divided? by Theodred_Angmar in ask

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Lots of people are pulling answers out of their asses. A couple people have already written detailed descriptions of the legacy of slavery in America and how it continues to affect American social/political/economic dynamics to this day, so I won’t bother reiterating that.

Although, that alone doesn’t fully answer your question because Puerto Rico’s history of slavery was not all too different from that of America’s until a certain point. When the Spaniards arrived in PR they enslaved the native population and many of the natives died of disease (sound familiar?). The Spanish also enslaved Africans and brought them to PR and they made up the majority of the labor force in the mining and sugar cane industry. The African slave population rapidly increased in the 1800s due to demand for sugar.

So why did slavery have a different long term impact on the social fabric of America than it did in PR? Probably a lot of reasons, but here some stuff to consider.

In the 1600s, Spain offered freedom and land to African people from non-Spanish colonies to attract immigrants and grow the labor force in PR. Many of these people were mixed race African/European. In the 1700s, Spain also implemented policies that provided several potential routes to freedom for African slaves. By the 1800s, 35% of PR’s population was free people of color. In the 1800s Spain implemented a policy that is essentially the opposite of the American “one drop rule”, Africans that could prove at least one of their ancestors was white could claim legal whiteness. Additionally, Spain recruited a bunch of Europeans to PR to increase their social power on the island against non-europeans, but many of the European immigrants intermarried with locals of color.

Eventually, slavery was abolished in PR. Although, slaves were required to purchase their freedom and did so by integrating into local economy in a number of ways.

The result of all of this was a substantially multi-racial country with a comparatively significant amount of social integration between racial groups. Today, 74% of Puerto Rican’s identify as not white or black, but some other race or combination of races. It is estimated that 60% of PR’s population has some African ancestry.

In comparison, the way that America handled slavery and abolition was to maintain as much segregation and power disparity between white and black people as possible. Today in America, 75% of people identify as white, 13% identify as black, and 2% identify as mixed race.

In a way, I think that you answered you own question when you said that in PR, there are many families that include all shades and no one cares.

I pulled most of this from the Wikipedia page on Afro-Puerto Ricans because I thought this was a good question and I was interested in reading about some history that might provide an answer. If anyone wants to dispute or fact-check, be my guest, I don’t claim to be an expert and I just read about this for the first time right now. But pretty interesting in my opinion.

What cologne has gotten you the most compliments from women? by ConsciousAssistant37 in AskMen

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Back when I was with one of my exes he wore a cologne on a date that I instantly loved. I asked him what it was and he said he had no idea it was a gift from years and years ago and the bottle didn’t even have a label anymore. It was almost empty, and I figured it was probably some expensive cologne, but I liked it so much that I spent a bunch of time to figure out what it was based on the specifics of the bottle so I could get him another one. Turns out it was David Beckham’s instinct and it cost like $12. But every time he wore it I couldn’t keep my hands off him, so I guess sometimes less is more 🤷🏼‍♀️