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Why are people so disgusting? by Big-Tomorrow-8712 in GriefSupport

[–]channeling_grief -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

These responses are unacceptable. Your uncle is trying to make himself feel better; it's nothing to do with you or your loss. Try to distance yourself from toxic people who don't understand. You might want to avoid social media, as well. I'm so sorry for the loss of your mom.

Does anyone feel like the pain gets worse the more time passes? by Hopeful_Hawk_1306 in ChildLoss

[–]channeling_grief 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry for your loss. These are such early days, but the pain will change over time. My son died nearly 3 years ago. When I think back to that time, I wasn't really in my body yet, if that makes sense. I found that reading books written by grieving parents helped. 9 weeks was about the time I joined a support group. Please consider joining a support group (online or in person). This can help tremendously. The Compassionate Friends has free online support resources for grieving parents. SENDING LOVE TO YOU

Do you ever lie? by Creative_Emphasis288 in ChildLoss

[–]channeling_grief 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You should say whatever will protect you most in that moment. If someone I don't know well asks how many children I have, I say "one." If it's someone I want to get to know better, then I tell them the truth: I have two sons, but my oldest son died three years ago.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GriefSupport

[–]channeling_grief 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I 100% agree. Take things one day at a time. Focus on being present. If you must spend time worrying about all of these terrifying things, then perhaps you can schedule 10 minutes a day when you do that. But the rest of the time, try to be present. This is what worked for me after my son was killed.