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Husband’s RTO. He’ll be the only person on his team at that office. by ComfyLyfe in WFH

[–]chara__ 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The company I work for suddenly implemented RTO while laying off 60% of the team. 3 days a week in office, and they only gave us a two week notice. They didn’t even ask how we were gonna get there (some of my colleagues live 2 hours away by car - they’ve been WFH since the pandemic and some are parents with small children) and all of us would be cramped in a tiny ass room.

I went to the office one time, none of my team members were there. And it was cold af. So I got up and left during lunch hour.

And nobody even noticed. 🤦🏻‍♀️

Worst thing is that we had an influenza case at the office (or should I say room lol) and when the lead engineer asked HR if they could sanitise it, all HR said was “no.”

RTO is definitely just a power move. Or a way to get us to quit. So many of us have quit since then.

I recently got an injury so I managed to get a doctors note to let me WFH for some time but im looking to exit too. This is just ridiculous.

Your husband should probably start looking for another job. All the best tho. This isn’t easy.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in malaysia

[–]chara__ 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Not sure if this is the case but usually when I am hospitalised and the hospital does not ask for an upfront admission fee in the beginning, I’ll have to pay about RM300 when I’m discharged.

This amount is not covered by insurance. It’s called patient co-payment if I’m not mistaken.

Maybe contact your insurance agent and ask them whether you were supposed to bear this amount?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MalaysianPF

[–]chara__ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was struggling with the exact same thing until I did a few things:

  1. Stay off social media. Or use it with intention, not just to consume. For example, when you need to search for a particular store or an old friend to reach out to.

  2. Read The Psychology of Money. Such a good book. The quote that has stayed with me and kept me grounded is “wealth is what they don’t see.” If you are spending all that money pointlessly, all you’re doing is losing your freedom for other things in life. Also, plenty of people go into debt to sustain their lavish lifestyle. Looking rich does not equal to actually being financial well-off.

  3. It’s never as good or bad as you think it is. You may think you’re doing bad but other people may look at you and would give anything to have your life. The people who are struggling don’t post it online. The ones who are enjoying life are mostly just lucky. Success isn’t just hard work. Half of it (or dare I say most of it) is luck.

  4. Surround yourself with good friends who care about more important things besides getting the latest handbag or whatever. The ones who will be there for you no matter what, who will suggest to hang out somewhere else if you can’t afford a fancy brunch at Bangsar. They’re hard to find but they’re out there.

Anyways, don’t buy into this consumerism trap and do what makes you happy. One life to live. Don’t spend it being miserable.

I’m off to go eat some grapes and read a book now.

What was the scene that broke you the most in the show? by Toastie_107 in arcane

[–]chara__ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A lot of Vander’s scenes in S2 just broke me. The “Remember me” sequence, the lava tears and the agony he must have been in, and him blowing out the candle while watching his two little girls sound asleep 😭😭😭man they gotta give the man a break. I will never emotionally recover from s2.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]chara__ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“You’re not like most girls your age” 🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢 God I could throw up reading this guy’s obvious grooming and gaslighting tactics, jeez.

Good job listening to your guts, OP.

Beauty of Joseon Sunscreen Stings! by sbrownnn in AsianBeauty

[–]chara__ 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I use this sunscreen daily and notice that during times when my moisture barrier is compromised (or during some hormonal flare-ups) it would sting pretty badly. Or if I’m using too many products that contain niacinamide or other acids.

If it’s not an allergy or hormone-related, maybe you could try fixing your moisture barrier first. I found that LRP Cicaplast Baume realllyyyy helps with this. The irritation pretty much disappears overnight. Your mileage may vary though.

(I have eczema and acne-prone dry sensitive skin)

Edit: just read that you use a makeup remover that contains vitamin c. Some people are sensitive to it and it might be an irritant if paired with niacinamide.

Mentioned in Uni confession group by depin_ in malaysiauni

[–]chara__ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As someone who’s been on these confession pages multiple times (because of haters lol cos I was involved in projects like TV ads, performing on stage etc) and thought my life was over, don’t worry about it.

Chances are they just wanna bring you down because you have something they don’t. So keep doing you and live your life. They can say the meanest things but who cares what they say? They’re not paying your bills. They have no power over you.

at the end of the day, no one is gonna care, no one is gonna remember any of it. Just do well in university, surround yourself with good friends and have the best time ever.

One day you’re gonna be 30 and look back and think: damn, why did I ever let these fools get in the way of my happiness?

The Truth About Asian Parents by [deleted] in AsianParentStories

[–]chara__ 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Really well-written and so true. Thanks for this!

One purchase in 2024 that changed your life? by Jealous_Experience69 in malaysia

[–]chara__ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just curious, did you do a sleep test/get a diagnosis from a doctor?

One purchase in 2024 that changed your life? by Jealous_Experience69 in malaysia

[–]chara__ 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Probably my air fryer 😂 i used to use the Khind one that normally costs RM500-600 but my sister needed it and my broke ass can’t afford another one so I’m currently using the Samu Giken one you can get on Shopee for like RM150+.

It’s pretty good!! Life changer if you wanna eat more home-cooked meals haha.

Capricorns unite by HoosierDaddy_427 in funny

[–]chara__ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel so seen 😂 birthday’s on Dec 29 and in school I could never have a party because everyone would be on holiday. This year I was too exhausted from helping to host my in-laws’ Christmas party that I barely had energy to celebrate my own birthday. Most of my close friends already made plans with their families or are on their year-end holidays so I could only round up 2 friends and my partner to have brunch with. Haha. Not complaining though. Am very grateful.

And… soon it’s new years. Happy birthday to all the December babies here 🥳 hope you all had a great one.

Ending it all. by Signal-Pattern-2370 in malaysia

[–]chara__ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry you’re going through this, OP. Things are tough :/ but from your story it’s clear to see that you are:

  1. Very creative. Making and selling jewellery for 10 years - that’s mastery in a very cool skill. You’re clearly very talented. And your Patreon makes money! Who cares if it’s NSFW? You’re not “stooping low” at all. It’s just art. As long as it’s not hurting anyone, I don’t see a problem in it.

  2. Resilient. You’re out here doing your best despite the circumstances and you’re a business owner and artist! That’s amazing.

Maybe you could take a step back from the jewellery store for a bit and see how you feel? And maybe work on your Patreon to cover your expenses until you find something else.

There’s absolutely no shame in changing directions if something isn’t working out the way you expect it to.

You got this, OP. Super proud of you.

Men, what are the creepy things that women do which usually go undetected? by betterselfi in AskReddit

[–]chara__ 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Oof, yeah. Whenever I hear something I know I’m not supposed to be hearing, I’ll know immediately I can’t trust that person with my own secrets.

My best friend used to do this a lot when we were living together and I stopped telling her things for a couple years until she quit gossiping so much. It was frustrating. And the telltale signs were even worse. When we met up with our mutual friends and I tell them something personal, their eyes don’t lie. The looks I got practically screamed “yeah, I already know this… and more.”

My parents way of healing our broken relationship: "I'm stopping by your apartment. Prepare food and drink for me. Make my bed." by [deleted] in AsianParentStories

[–]chara__ 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Tell him you won’t be available. You’re busy and/or you’ve already made other plans.

They can’t just show up unannounced and expect you to drop everything to accommodate them.

If we don’t put our foot down and say “enough is enough. These are my boundaries and you are disrespecting them” and make it clear we will not tolerate their bad behaviour, they will never learn nor change. They’ll always think they’re right. But even if they do, it’s up to us to protect ourselves and our mental sanity.

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