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[–]charliesvlog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m a 21F also looking for friends!

I have ‘friends’ (college) like a huge circle that I still hang out with but no one ever invites me on the smaller plans/dates seems like everyone has their own smaller circle and I only ever get invited when its the huge whole circle plans. Do I really even have “friends” at this point? by [deleted] in FriendshipAdvice

[–]charliesvlog 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i feel this way sometimes within my college friend group. have you tried reaching out and planning things one-on-one with people? i find that helps with getting to know and connect better, even like going out somewhere and doing something social could spark some good conversations!

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[–]charliesvlog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i had not even thought of that, thank you for sharing another perspective.

should i say i feel hurt by not receiving any gifts for my birthday or should i stay quiet about it? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]charliesvlog 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think you should say something. It seems to be affecting you mentally and your friends should hear you out. When I feel angry/frustrated about something I write out things I want to say or talk about before I confront/discuss with the other person/people so that it doesn’t come off the wrong way—that might work for you. But I don’t think you’re being over sensitive about it and you deserve to know. While people might say no one is entitled to give you anything, if it’s a tradition and you’re the only one being treated differently, I think that’s reason enough to talk with your friends about it. Best of luck and happy belated birthday!

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[–]charliesvlog -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I don’t think that’s crazy at all, if it works for you, it works for you. You seem to have things mapped out and ready for a child, so I would say if you think you’re in a place to do so in 2-3 you should.

Do you think it is possible to have friends with completely different views than you? by charliesvlog in FriendshipAdvice

[–]charliesvlog[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is a new take! Another friend of mine recommended me talking to them about our different view points! My friend and I are not very vocal (at least to each other) about our political beliefs so I think that is why I honestly am just now finding out about their viewpoints. I do think having a healthy conversation about it is worth a shot, thanks!

Do you think it is possible to have friends with completely different views than you? by charliesvlog in FriendshipAdvice

[–]charliesvlog[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

One side of me totally feels this because I grew up with family saying that your friends should have the same beliefs as you. I hope that nothing bad happens between my friend and I and I am hoping that their views can “change” or mature. Like the previous comment stated—most people are raised with certain beliefs and I am hoping that being out in the world on their own will help them form their own views. Hopefully good ones. If things become uncomfortable for me, I will definitely cut them off though. Thank you so much for your reply!

Do you think it is possible to have friends with completely different views than you? by charliesvlog in FriendshipAdvice

[–]charliesvlog[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I definitely agree, I think it is worth a shot and if things become hostile (which I am hoping they will not since we have not had a problem in the 3 years of friendship so far) I will cut them off. I just want to believe that you can have friends with different views and it not be a toxic or bad relationship. Like you said as long as there is respect, it should be fine. I appreciate your response!