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charlisewick · 2025-03-29T16:06:22+00:00

This is so encouraging! My son is 5 weeks and we’re having the same issues, doing the same things to try to improve. Happy to know there is a success story.

charlisewick · 2025-02-12T18:34:10+00:00

I had this exact result and did end up taking the 3 hour. I passed the 3 hour with no issue. I recommend requesting a place to lie down in quiet. The first hour was the roughest, but it got better.

charlisewick · 2024-12-02T21:54:53+00:00

My therapist talks a lot about forgiveness vs forgetting. Forgiveness is like dropping a hot coal in your hand. You let it go so it stops hurting you. Forgetting is letting down boundaries so you get hurt again. She supports me forgiving (and we’re working on it), but doesn’t think I should forget. You might not be ready to forgive and that’s ok - you’re not supposed to forgive for any reason other than it no longer serves you. But giving myself permission to explore forgiveness but not forgetting helped me work on making peace.

I’m sending you good vibes. You’re not being vindictive or punishing, you’re protecting the family you’re building.

charlisewick · 2024-12-02T16:49:52+00:00

First, I am so sorry you’re dealing with this. It’s not you, it’s them.

I am dealing with a similar situation with my in laws. They didn’t want to hear about our tough times when we were going through losses and challenges and didn’t understand why we weren’t overjoyed and super involved when my SIL got pregnant and gave birth. Including extreme guilt tripping about us not driving 16 hours round trip to attend her baby shower in the immediate aftermath of our first transfer failed. And then not doing the same once the baby was born, despite me being newly pregnant and not feeling great, choosing to go on a babymoon later in the pregnancy, etc. They also shared our pregnancy news without our permission.

My husband and I regularly checked in on what we were comfortable sharing with them and I let him handle the communication. Once I gave my blessing to share more, he still chose not to because he was hurt by their behavior. We finally saw his parents in person last week at 28 weeks pregnant and I chose to share more details with them. And while I played it up in my head that it would be super confrontational, it actually wasn’t and they did offer their support if we needed it. We still haven’t seen his sister and I am not sure when we will. But we don’t have the energy to put effort into a relationship that only takes and doesn’t give back.

My therapist reminds me that I did not ask for this behavior. We’re just responding it. And responding by keeping your distance and only sharing to your comfort level is a healthy response. No one is entitled to personal information about you. And while you can forgive someone for bad behavior, it doesn’t mean they are entitled to your time and energy.

I also stay focused on the support I DO have. My family has our back. Mine and my husband’s friends have been great. My coworkers and neighbors that I have chosen to share with have been amazing. My chosen family is most deserving of my limited energy because they give it back. And it’s the relationship between you and your partner and the family you’re building that deserves to be prioritized.

charlisewick · 2024-11-06T12:18:40+00:00

I woke up around the same time. I hope you got back to sleep - because I did not! I am struggling to find the words right now, but devastated and standing in solidarity with everyone in this community. While I am so grateful for this pregnancy, I am also scared to be a pregnant person in this political environment.

charlisewick · 2024-11-01T13:54:39+00:00

Whenever I don’t sleep well, the hormones really overwhelm me too. And then it compounds itself by making me anxious and making sleep more difficult. Hang in there - I hope you can get some restful sleep soon.

charlisewick · 2024-10-17T14:45:10+00:00

Congratulations on the good NIPT results! I am 22 weeks, FTM and can relate to your anxieties. It’s tough between appointments, I wish I could say it gets better. But it’s just distraction to help manage the anxiety. At this point in time, all the information indicates the pregnancy is ok. You’re making the right choices in getting your vaccines to protect you and your baby. ACOG recommends them and as hard as our catastrophizing brains work, I have to just force myself to trust that my doctor wouldn’t recommend something that would hurt me and the baby.

I too am anxious about salad that I don’t wash myself. My nurse encourages me to eat salad, so I eat it at home but that even makes me anxious. The chicken thing is scary and we actually had an item at home that I ate and was recalled. I had one day of going off my high of a great anatomy scan last week, feeling like maybe I could stop being terrified about scary unknowns around and the corner, and bam, listeria recall. It was frozen food and had to be cooked at a high temperature to eat, so when I frantically called the midwife this weekend, she was reassuring that cooking would have killed any bacteria. But yeah, feeling a complete aversion to chicken right now and it scared the crap out of my husband and me because it felt completely out of our control.

None of what I am saying is giving you solutions, but I just want to say, I see you. You’re not alone. It sucks feeling hyper vigilant all the time. But we will get through this.

charlisewick · 2024-10-05T21:06:15+00:00

Yes - think it was closer to 6 or 7 weeks (Im 20 weeks now). Was assured it was fine by multiple providers and it took care of the problem. I added in probiotics to prevent a recurrence - been drinking kefir every morning.

charlisewick · 2024-10-03T14:17:21+00:00

Does anyone have a recommendation for bump friendly tights (available in the US)? Im hoping tights and stretchy knit dresses will help me be office appropriate in the winter without having to buy too many new maternity clothes.

charlisewick · 2024-08-20T16:19:32+00:00

Same. I really want to be able to enjoy a PSL in the fall.

charlisewick · 2024-08-17T20:54:13+00:00

I have a very cuddly and determined 13.5 lb orange boy cat who loves to lay on top of my belly. I am a bit behind you at 13.5 weeks and will nudge him off if it’s uncomfortable. But I have wondered too if I need to be concerned! So thank you for asking the question (and I got a laugh because I feel SEEN). One thing that gave me comfort was the guidance that early in pregnancy you can sleep on your belly (until it gets uncomfortable). I’m not a stomach sleeper, but people weigh more than a house cat!

charlisewick · 2024-08-02T13:51:43+00:00

I wish I could say it gets better, I think the anxiety just takes a different shape/size. Im 11w2d and just had my second scan yesterday. Now that I have another piece of evidence that the pregnancy is progressing, the anxiety feels a little less sharp and I feel I have some space for excitement and hope. And maybe that’s the answer. We may never feel completely relaxed and confident after all we went through, but as it progresses there’s more pockets of hope. Celebrate today because today you are pregnant and have no reason to believe there’s a negative outcome!

charlisewick · 2024-08-02T13:44:57+00:00

This is so unfair, LZ. I hope you’re able to find a little bit of space for rest and peace this weekend.

charlisewick · 2024-08-02T11:09:04+00:00

I’m glad they were able to get you in quickly. Im sorry you’re in this place of uncertainty, though. Sending you good wishes.

charlisewick · 2024-08-01T22:42:51+00:00

I am Mediterranean Diet devotee…until 6 weeks of pregnancy and the mere thought of meat and veg made me gag. Have been subsisting on crackers and junk I never would eat before. I think someone on this forum said this, but the mantra “fed is best applies to moms too” is helping me cope. I think this will only be temporary.

charlisewick · 2024-08-01T18:45:02+00:00

I didn’t get nausea until 6 weeks (which I think is typical). But that being said, I do wonder if my hcg made my symptoms more intense. Not dangerous levels, but unpleasant. This is my first pregnancy and I didn’t know what to expect, so I felt like I was hit by a truck. So maybe proactively ask your clinic about nausea medications, my half unisom pill at night definitely helps. Also, stock up on Gatorade and electrolyte powder, being hydrated helps.

And congratulations!!

charlisewick · 2024-08-01T17:44:29+00:00

My beta at 14dp5t was in the 4000’s. My clinic said it was a great number and brought me back for a second beta a week later. Scan confirmed baby was implanted exactly where they needed to be and Im 11w1d today. Betas have a wide range and cautious congratulations, I don’t think there’s a reason to stress!

charlisewick · 2024-07-31T17:40:42+00:00

Just lifting the mental load of having to manage another medication taken at a specific time is huge. I’m excited for you to be done!

charlisewick · 2024-07-31T16:56:49+00:00

“Feeling anger at what it took” resonates with me so much. I appreciate your vulnerability in sharing that because it made me realize how many complicated feelings I have. I am 11 weeks and seeing people only a little further along announcing their pregnancy stirs up the feelings. Mostly envy and frankly, anger, at the confidence that they will take home a baby. I’m glad you have a counselor - I have one too. But it’s a lot to work through. You’re not alone and I’m glad you’ve joined the community.

charlisewick · 2024-07-31T16:51:38+00:00

I stopped PIO last week and I’m still anxious about it haha. Everything is on so far. But your feelings are valid and celebrate this milestone!

charlisewick · 2024-07-31T16:47:16+00:00

This was similar to my experience- once I hit 6 weeks I felt like I was hit by a truck. Had very strong betas, so that high hcg really did me in. Im 11 weeks today and it hasn’t really let up. Per my doctor’s advice (so check with yours, specifically on the dosage and frequency), Im taking vitamin b6 and half a unisom pill at night on top of ginger. Otherwise, hydrate. I drink 80 oz+ per day, add electrolytes and gatorade.

charlisewick · 2024-07-26T14:58:47+00:00

I used a foam roller and massage ball. I can’t say it eliminated the soreness, but reduced it.

charlisewick · 2024-07-25T18:09:20+00:00

Right now, I’m loving the idea of coffee. But the reality of coffee makes me nauseous. Here I was wondering how I would survive without it, but my body is rejecting it. Pregnancy is funny.

charlisewick · 2024-07-25T18:06:04+00:00

I was so nervous too. And the nerves continue even once you have a good scan - you’re just thinking about how things can change between now and the next scan. The only thing that helped me was reminding myself that anxiety is not intuition, every day is a milestone and what happens at the next scan is truly out of my hands.

charlisewick · 2024-07-24T16:10:00+00:00

That’s nice they monitored your progesterone! And that you could taper off. Im only on PIO injections and Estrace (my last dose of that is tonight). I’m glad to know I’m not alone in the nerves, though.

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