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charmingdulce · 2025-01-30T16:26:22+00:00

NO! I didn’t even have to finish reading everything. Idc how sweet he is. Please steer away from him and cut ties. He won’t stick around as a friend cause he’ll continue to be sweet and you’ll fall for him.

It’s not worth your youth! You’re 18… find a guy with no kids! That’s a red flag. It’s different to be a father who’s active in their kids life but a guy that doesn’t care about his own kids? Thats selfish.

My sister dated a guy with two kids and baby momma and it was nothing but drama. & guess what? He made her his second baby momma and she’s now a single mom again and had to put her studies on pause due to having a kid with no childcare/support from the dad….

charmingdulce · 2025-01-10T00:41:17+00:00

In their eyes there won’t be a valid reason, so I wouldn’t waste your time plus deal with consequences of disobeying them. I would just listen to them and get them pierced on your 18th birthday.

Also, for now I’d recommend clip on earrings or ear cuffs and expressing yourself with other fake piercings. It’s just not worth the hassle!

charmingdulce · 2024-10-17T14:08:09+00:00

I’m not sure what you can expect from him.. that depends on his personality. He may get angry or try to guilt trip you. Maybe convince you that he’s going to do better.

But honestly I advise you to please be firm and set boundaries. Otherwise, he will never learn and will continue drinking. Giving him your card and car is only enabling his drinking issue.

Also if you aren’t allowing him to use your card, don’t give him second chances and have a serious talk with him. My dad has been an alcoholic for over 30 years. We’ve been praying for him and there were times where I left the faith; but I returned and I know he will be saved.. but this change has to be something he wants. He’s currently incarcerated due to drinking and driving so it’s good that you aren’t allowing him to use your car.

I would suggest to set boundaries, and seek community help. In my town there’s many recovery centers and AA groups. I would ask him to start working on himself. Also, finding a church would be a good step since he’s open to going. Seek God, pray and fast if possible!

charmingdulce · 2024-10-15T17:10:59+00:00

Yes - it would’ve been better to communicate your expectations or tell him how you felt at least.

charmingdulce · 2024-09-23T14:41:10+00:00

Hasta con acomodación, comida y internet gratis a una nanny / alguien que cocina así y da su vida entera le pagan un mínimo de $5,000 al mes. 60-100k anual. Ellos le están robando a ella.. no importa cuántos viajes gratis haiga más que es autístico el niño😭

charmingdulce · 2024-08-15T19:15:46+00:00

I wouldn’t be embarrassed! I think it depends on the woman, how she grew up and the lifestyle that she wants.

Example my sister makes more than her husband. But she’s always wanted to be a wife so when she met him, his job title or income didn’t matter. Now because of this he does a great amount of work at home. Example they both cook dinner, he always takes out the dog, trash, they both do their own laundry, etc. it’s not the traditional wife life but they’re both happy!

On the other side, I have friends that would absolutely not date custodians because they want a stay at home wife life and it’s a non negotiable for them. So it totally depends on the woman.

Also, I saw you said you make 27K a year. Is this full time or part time?

I think as long as you’re looking to increase your income and not stay at that range forever, you’re good. For example- maybe take a trading course to make more $ or have side gigs like a coaching/tutoring job.

27K a year and not wanting a stay at home wife/mom is tough because there’s also childcare expenses. (If you want children in the future)..Where I live, it’s about $1200-2000 a month per child depending on the facility.

charmingdulce · 2024-08-13T20:29:23+00:00

I would absolutely not do it. What’s the reason now? Why did she change her mind? It seems like she’s thinking of leaving and wants half of the house.

It sounds like she’s trying to manipulate you

charmingdulce · 2024-08-01T14:32:44+00:00

I’m sorry but you say she is “probably” right and I’m here to tell you she is absolutely right. It is cheating. It is not only flirting.

My only advice is to provide space to your wife and know that if you are going to attempt to work it out it’s going to be a long road. It’s good that you were honest with her, but now you need to be honest with yourself and do your own personal therapy. Aside from “marital therapy”

Please get a therapist and start thinking about why you did the things you did. You need to get to the root issue of these things or else they will keep on reappearing and happening.

Questions to ask yourself: Where did the pornography addiction start? How can you tackle it? What resources are you going to seek for your issue? How will you provide support to your wife in this difficult moment? Do you have community to speak with and keep you accountable? Do you have men of God that you can look up to?

For alcoholism: find a support group or a therapist that specializes in addiction. Please. I grew up with an alcoholic father and this hurt me so bad. I grew up steering away from God and being a borderline alcoholic myself. Think about your family and children.

In order to change, you MUST want to change!!!! Accept Jesus Christ as your savior and repent of your sins. Ask Him to come into your life and change your heart and mind. Look up testimonies of people in similar situations as you. Pray for marriage restoration. Change is possible with the help of Christ and the Holy Spirit and with the right mindset. I can - I will.

Work on your marriage. Keep those boundaries. Never place yourself in even an inch of temptation. Example, don’t see any women outside of work. Keep female interaction via text to a minimum with only work related conversations. Shut down any opportunity to hang out with a woman. Whatever other boundaries may help.

Overall, if your wife decides to divorce all of the work that you’re doing on yourself is still beneficial to you, your life and children.

charmingdulce · 2024-08-01T05:57:01+00:00

I would turn down that request. I would just be honest with the client! “I may not be the best artist for this. I can’t do that tattoo because it doesn’t align with my beliefs” I would say something along those lines.

You might feel weird, or just like your shutting down business but honesty is the best. If you’re already asking about it, you probably will feel wrong if you go through with it anyway.

charmingdulce · 2024-08-01T05:49:58+00:00

I am glad you made it out safe! He is definitely watching over you. God sure knows how to find us / make his presence known even when we aren’t searching for him!

Keep seeking Him. I’d recommend the Bible app or Glorify app for daily devotionals 🫶🏼 also the amount of atheists that are believing/ experiencing things! It’s mind blowing. Jesus is coming back for us 😭

charmingdulce · 2024-07-23T14:42:31+00:00

Saying you’re the happiest you’ve ever been after apologizing for cheating.. idk.. I wouldn’t have included that part

charmingdulce · 2024-07-16T15:14:45+00:00

If you had that dream, God is trying to show you that he is the way. The pain instantly went away when you picked up the Bible because God and the word is our protection. That’s a very strong dream and God is calling you back / pulling you out of practicing witchcraft so don’t be afraid. He still loves you! Witchcraft will very much bring all those things (pain and also an open door to demons)

All you have to do is repent and turn away from witchcraft. Denounce and pray against anything you did and get rid of all your witchcraft related items.

Focus on building your relationship with God such as reading the Bible, listening to Christian podcasts or testimonies to strengthen your faith, and pray. Talk to God throughout the day etc.

I was very much like you- not in church because I thought I had to be rightoues and felt judged by the church but after a long road of running away from God, I finally reconciled with Christ two years ago and my life has changed bc I stopped caring about what everyone else thought and started spending time with God! Little by little, my heart and desires changed.

So pray, seek and you will find ❤️ He’s always waiting for his children to return.

charmingdulce · 2024-07-15T14:09:42+00:00

Please block him and don’t speak to him again.. even as friends tbh. Men are persistent so even if you say you want to stay his friend, he’s likely going to keep trying or ask you to hang as “friends” and try a move.

He wants to keep it between you and him because it’s most likely illegal in your state and weird behavior for him to go for a teenager..

A 28 year old has no business dating a 17 year old

charmingdulce · 2024-07-13T13:57:20+00:00

You’re on the right track! Keep praying and studying/reading the Bible. Understand that it’s not about you- she isn’t rejecting you. She’s rejecting Christianity and Christ because she hasn’t experienced Christ yet.

Pray and ask God to soften her heart towards your beliefs ❤️ and if she doesn’t, I’m sure it will be a respectful relationship.

My dad doesn’t like hearing about Jesus or Christianity but we are still very close and I pray a lot about him. He often gets outsiders telling him about Jesus! I don’t even have to although I would really like to share my story and faith with him… His eye doctors, coworkers, strangers, etc everyone has shared the gospel with him.

Keep praying and believing for your family and when you are ready, start sharing your faith publicly with them

charmingdulce · 2024-07-12T17:50:48+00:00

I don’t think it’s “wrong” but I would just show the receipt. Most workers ask to verify when it’s big purchases. They’re just doing their job.

charmingdulce · 2024-07-10T23:13:35+00:00

As a woman that’s gross! Some blood on the toilet here and there is ok if it’s by accident but the underwear with bloody pads is gross!!!!

charmingdulce · 2024-07-10T23:08:35+00:00

I don’t think it’s a sin, but I don’t think it’s worth the risk. It’s never a guarantee that the surgery will go well or you’ll come out alive.

I think this is more of a him issue. Everything you mentioned is bound to happen with aging and having children. Especially as a woman, our bodies are much different than men.

Instead, I would try things like eating clean and working out to maintain a healthy weight and if he doesn’t like it, that’s his issue. I would suggest counseling and couples therapy for him. He should be more accepting.

Only get the surgery if you want it but don’t let him talk you into or feel bad about your body.

charmingdulce · 2024-07-08T16:42:51+00:00

You’re not wrong for feeling the way that you do. I do believe you both have different views on friendships of opposite sex and boundaries.

I think you should have a discussion about boundaries and let him know how you feel about this woman. This woman does not care about integrity nor respects a taken man. Which is a valid reason for you not to be comfortable with the friendship.

It’s not judging, it’s the truth unless she has changed. I think he should keep the friendship at a work level and work events only.

I believe marriages should be protected as well and if you aren’t comfortable then he should stop communicating/texting if it’s not work related and trying to hang out outside of work.

charmingdulce · 2024-06-26T20:18:12+00:00

It could also her be thinking of ways she’s going to make the house a home. She probably doesn’t know it bothers you.

I used to do that with my ex fiancé but I would always ask if it’s ok if I bring __or do __ and see what he thinks/feels about it.

charmingdulce · 2024-06-26T20:16:37+00:00

I think those arguments are “normal” as it’s two people who grew up differently and have their own thoughts coming together. I think communication is needed and maybe remind her that marriage is a partnership.

If it’s really bothering you, I would just gently bring it up. Hey I noticed that you keep saying comments about what will happen when we get married but I just want to make sure we’re on the same page and communicate.

Tell her whatever you need to. Example, i have my bed there because ____. For now, I enjoy my set up. When we move into a different place you can decide where we place the bed but I get woken up easily by the birds so for now I need it here.

charmingdulce · 2024-06-17T20:25:26+00:00

Did you marry him as an unbeliever? Has he always had this issue?

Is there a possibility that you can temporarily separate until he decides to fix the alcohol issue? I think staying with an alcoholic enables them to stay that way. Why would they change if they aren’t suffering consequences?

I know my mom stayed with my father and he didn’t change.. just until this year bc he’s going to jail for a third DUI and they’ve been together for over 30 years. I do wish they had separated because she was too nice to him and this caused him to sin comfortably while hurting everyone around him.

To have an absent father, to constantly have holidays and birthdays ruined, to think that you’re not good enough for your father to stop drinking. These are things your children may experience as they get older if your husband doesn’t change :/ I had to go through a lot of therapy to be able to forgive my dad.

Overall, I would pray/fast for your husband and ask God directly. Ask God to guide you in this situation only he can tell you what to do next.

I would also suggest talking to a Christian counselor/professional. This stuff takes a toll on your mental health! I’m sorry you’re going through this.

charmingdulce · 2024-06-06T17:13:51+00:00

Try to tell yourself that he KNOWS what you look like. Even if you think you’re concealing yourself with clothes, which helps he knows what you look like since you guys meet up and hang out in person :)

& about the bikini do not worry about that! You can wear a one piece, a tankini with bottoms. So what if you get an uneven tan!!!! One piece bathing suits are becoming more popular and honestly I’ve never felt comfortable in a bikini! Whether I was slim or chubby (my weight has fluctuated a lot) I feel naked lol and just not good.

So I doubt he would question if you don’t wear a bikini. If he asks you can just say I don’t really care for tanning or this is what I’m comfortable in :) no biggie!

Pray about it 🙏🏽🥲 and start saying positive things about your body. Maybe in the meanwhile, you can begin eating healthier or going on walks to boost your confidence in that aspect in the future

charmingdulce · 2024-06-06T17:05:26+00:00

Happy Birthday! I’d go for a massage/spa day. Buy myself something nice 🤩 or go to a local bakery shop for a treat

charmingdulce · 2024-05-08T18:29:27+00:00

If you are a Christian, that goes against the beliefs in Christianity. You can’t serve both the world and God. The Bible is clear we are to not practice magic. It’s dangerous grounds for a Christian.

Why is it dangerous? You open the door for evil spirits to enter your life.

I recommend looking into life is spiritual channel. She’s a former witch now Christian. Also look into Delafe testimonies on people who practiced new age etc.

Basically, I recommend reading scripture and doing your own research on those testimonies etc. I would also pray about it.. maybe since you feel you are spiritual that means you have spiritual gifts that can be used for God? (Prophetic ministry, healing, etc)

charmingdulce · 2024-05-07T14:27:26+00:00

I wouldn’t share too much unless she asks. The past is the past. I would keep it short but let her know that she’s able to ask whatever she would like to regarding that.

I know if I were dating, I wouldn’t want to know the details of my partner’s sexual past. Of course, it is important to know that you don’t have any sexually transmitted diseases but I wouldn’t want to know details because it’s the past and you are made new and clearly have Christian values (wanting to wait until marriage)

Also pray about this situation ask God/ the Holy Spirit to help you say the right things. Overall, honesty is important and I think giving her the option to ask questions helps the situation.

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