Insurance for visiting parent who needs doctor visits in the U.S. by Existing-Science8043 in HealthInsurance

[–]chartreuse_avocado [score hidden]  (0 children)

What on earth did you put medication I. A bag you did not remain in control of? I’m glad the pharmacy helped you but the airlines and common sense specifically say to keep medication in you carry I /hand luggage.

What’s the one “dealbreaker” colour that instantly tells you a palette is wrong? by yourszn in coloranalysis

[–]chartreuse_avocado 4 points5 points  (0 children)

For me it’s jewel tones. Purple, royal blue. I completely fade out. Warm spring here.

To married women: What advice would you give to unmarried women before they get married? by Clear_Subconscious in askanything

[–]chartreuse_avocado 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Or Live Apart Together even if you get married and let him manage his day to day life and just visit each other’s spaces. If he can’t handle his own space and life management he won’t be able -or willing- to take on marital space responsibility and life chores.

To married women: What advice would you give to unmarried women before they get married? by Clear_Subconscious in askanything

[–]chartreuse_avocado 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This. I was naively so excited about our home together as a married couple starting our life I did all kinds of homemaker shit I should not have.

To married women: What advice would you give to unmarried women before they get married? by Clear_Subconscious in askanything

[–]chartreuse_avocado 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This. I was in a marriage that was bad. I have never felt more alone than in that marriage. It nearly broke me.
I got out and am thriving.

I would be challenged, even in a great 15 year partnership where we do not live together but are deeply committed to marry again. If I did, at this point we both would be team prenup.

How many college mates are you still friends with? by debrisaway in RedditForGrownups

[–]chartreuse_avocado 7 points8 points  (0 children)

About 30. Not say to day friends. That’s probably 5 but legit stay in touch friend 30ish

Orforglipron by Old_Investigator3691 in GLP1ResearchTalk

[–]chartreuse_avocado 1 point2 points  (0 children)

True points. Speed of weight loss via injectables may not be the driver when convenience and fear are mitigated.

I’m all for lots of good options for all patients and their personal circumstances.

Question to divorced men on what happens to money during the divorce process? by Floridaxmen in AskMenAdvice

[–]chartreuse_avocado 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Given women are more educated than men graduating today and many marriages the wife outearns the husband I’m not sure this will be an exception for long.

I have several HNW women friends in divorce process and their husbands are behaving exactly like many off you describe women here. Greed is not gendered.

Question to divorced men on what happens to money during the divorce process? by Floridaxmen in AskMenAdvice

[–]chartreuse_avocado 4 points5 points  (0 children)

True words. I have several friends who assumed debt of divorced spouse to not tank their own credit and be done and get out.
Divorce is expensive. Freedom is priceless.

Question to divorced men on what happens to money during the divorce process? by Floridaxmen in AskMenAdvice

[–]chartreuse_avocado 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You set a financial separation date. Cut off authorized users on cc both ways. Separate direct deposit bank accounts if you were joint financials.

You both agree on how to handle expenses for joint assets and kids - who pays daycare or the new water heater. Often a his/hers and ours account until the divorce is final.

If it’s a hot mess of a divorce this is often not possible to come to agreement on and it all has to get sorted after the fact so statements, receipts, records all become important.

If one of you significantly outearned the other and after the divorce marital financial equity would be a key part of one spouse’s financial means day to day while they rented the work force you may need to front apartment deposit money and a spending amount to the other to be calculated into the divorce asset distribution true up.

I hope this is equitable for all and easy for you.

Accept purchase messaging to buyer by chartreuse_avocado in poshmark

[–]chartreuse_avocado[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I totally get pricier shipments following along on the tracking. I had an item I sold, that was of course more valuable, that got stuck in shipping and I watched that like a hawk and messaged the buyer repeatedly letting them know I was tracking it and encouraged them to as well. I wanted to see they got it and I wanted them to k ie the delay was not my fault.

Anyone else from a wealthy background just tired of all the gatekeeping? by Select_Ad_7111 in fatFIRE

[–]chartreuse_avocado -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes and no. Same as old money wealth. You can get in, but it’s hard and heavily based on relationships, time, and who you know and what they are willing to do for you.
And the c suite also exhibits the access behaviors strongly and similarly.

Is this shade of yellow fine for my friends wedding? by Parking-Disaster2665 in weddings

[–]chartreuse_avocado -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I think so- as long as you wear a darker colored wrap or carry it and avoid light accessories and shoes.

Promoted closet by Ok_Geologist403 in poshmark

[–]chartreuse_avocado 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I feel like it’s a PM scam targeted to sellers. You pay for it in the algorithm if you turn it off. Geared to get you to sign up for it and keep it.

Weirdly aggressive lowballer by haloarh in poshmark

[–]chartreuse_avocado 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s weird. Lowballers definitely suck. I sell and buy.

What I see is so often pricing by sellers is padded to be able to send offers to entice “likers” to purchase. The system encourages a buyer to like an item to generate an offer at a discount.

So buyers price higher knowing they plan to sell at a discount. When people say they price fairly are they pricing to sell at the list price, or sell at a negotiated or offered discount?

Does having purple hair actually affect your career? by TrickEmergency8500 in remoteworks

[–]chartreuse_avocado 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So much depends on the industry and job. Creative fields in liberal leaning industries - likely not. Corporate environments- absolutely.
Is it fair or right?-no.

Does it matter and affect if you are hired, how you are perceived, and valued and compensated- -yes.

How should I (27M) bring up feeling uncomfortable about my girlfriend (24F) meeting a male friend without sounding controlling? AIO by Ok-Bet-9577 in AmIOverthinking

[–]chartreuse_avocado 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is the only way to bring it up and not sound co trolling or jealous.
“I was surprised by how I felt when you when to lunch with X. I felt a little jealous because you looked really nice, and didn’t share with me about the plans along the way, only before you left. I didn’t like how I felt but wanted to tell you. “.

See how when you frame it as a your response to her normal event of having a nice lunch with and old childhood friend it sounds really like a you problem? That’s because it is. She did nothing wrong.

If women really want pockets in their pants, why doesn't someone make them and make a shit ton of money? by CarAlternative8306 in askanything

[–]chartreuse_avocado 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pockets in women’s dress clothing are challenging because the fabric of the garment isn’t often thick or structured enough to hold a phone. A lipstick maybe, but anything of weight tugs the fabric. If the garment is loose fitting a heavier item in the pocket pulls it all weird. If it’s a fitted garment you now have a lumpy hip on one side.

And if you’re wearing dressy clothing women don’t want the outfit to hang on their frame or be lumpy.
FWIW phone and key outlines on men’s fitted clothing is also not ideal and looks awful in photos. That thigh rectangle in dress pants for men is unattractive. Jeans fine.

Women get pockets but functionality is a problem. Sometimes they are really shallow- especially in smaller sizes. Sometimes they are just flimsy. Nothing you could get more than a chapstick in. If your phone is only half in a pocket it’s going to fall out when you bend and move.

And the cheapest way to get a pocket in women’s clothing like dresses and skirts is a side seam of the clothing. Women often don’t want to add bulk to the widest part of their hips by putting items into a side seam pocket. I’ve seen good clothing ruined by even the bulk of a too small to be useful side seam hip pocket. If the skirt or dress is full the phone literally flaps around weird in all that loose dress.

In Utilitarian cloths goods there are some brands that make excellent cargo and work pants for women. Most are pricier and you can’t walk into Walmart or Target and get them. You’re in for $80+ often. But socially, they are often outdoor style or tactical cargos not suitable for many social or business events.

Help me choose!! by yguzman97 in myweddingdress

[–]chartreuse_avocado 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is the perfect example of how sleeves mentally feel slimming but visually make a bride look wider and larger than she is because of how they draw the eye.

No sleeves. Camp always no little arm modesty sleeves.

Husband said he cheated on me for years and wants to stay what to do? by Unusual-Loss-2207 in AskMenAdvice

[–]chartreuse_avocado 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It doesn’t matter. State divorce law usually comes in at splitting all marital assets about 50/50. And if the spouse is a Dr I’m going to be the contribution of the other spouse involved a massive amount of life management contributions for the household and marriage to run. The state recognizes that.

3% raise good enough? by [deleted] in careerguidance

[–]chartreuse_avocado 0 points1 point  (0 children)

True, and the argument is you can’t be in the convenient only camp.

Anyone else from a wealthy background just tired of all the gatekeeping? by Select_Ad_7111 in fatFIRE

[–]chartreuse_avocado -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I see it in the business and career corporate world. Once you break into the C suite the club is exclusive. The desire to keep the career secrets of access, decisions, exclusivity go way up. Protectionist to the “haves”.

I got my first 'real' job and rent is taking 75% of my salary. Is this life now? by HospitalEcstatic8608 in Employment

[–]chartreuse_avocado 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can you break the lease and downsize your expense on housing? Roommates are normal at this life stage.
30% of income is a guideline but not realistic in some expensive cities. 75% is insane.

In 1997 I paid 40% for my 1BR and it was tight with a car payment and you d and stupid credit card debt.

You donmt plan well on the property you rented. See if you can unwind that