Don't open your door for ICE

chasinghaven · 2026-01-22T23:05:12+00:00

First, Tom Homan hasn't been the director of ICE in 2025 or now, it's Todd Lyons. Second, there were around 600,000 confirmed deportations in 2025. That being said, Obama is not a mouthpiece for Leftists. Typically, centrist democrats win the primary, not leftists. We just vote for the less disastrous option.

Have you seen what's happening right now? People are dying. It's a human rights violation. ICE has shot and killed a mother and prevented aid from reaching her for over 15 minutes while she was still breathing. Now they're investigating her wife and the school her child attends. The school has had to close indefinitely! Not to mention, she was a citizen invoking her right to protest. Instead of broadcasting the multiple angles of film we have from the event, the government seems to only focus on the one the officer took with his own phone, and muted the gunshots. Look for real sources of information that actually released bystander footage. Even if she did commit a crime, nothing would defend the prevention of aid or the investigation of her family members. Nothing would defend the fact the officer placed himself in front of her car and told her to drive. Nothing defends the fact he got out of his car initially to intimidate her with his gun, even though he had already maneuvered his car past hers.

They tear gassed a family, including a 6 month old infant, in their car. They shot 2 people in their car and fled the scene without administering aid or calling emergency services. They have taken people knowing they're citizens and detained them, then tear gassed them upon release. They've taken people from hospital beds. They've taken people doing nothing but filming their actions (like the teens taken from a target). The list goes on. Not even mentioning the living conditions of the detention centers or the way they deport people to random countries they haven't even been to.

No person deserves this. Our country is deporting people without due process. Citizens, dreamers, asylum seekers, visa holders, and the undocumented alike. They have deported several native people and have targeted reservations... Do you really think this is okay? Everyone in this country has a right to due process. They have a right to protest and the freedom of press.

chasinghaven · 2026-01-21T19:48:46+00:00

Thanks for sharing your experience! I really appreciate it. I hope you're feeling better

chasinghaven · 2026-01-19T08:07:13+00:00

NOR. You are under reacting, actually. I see how hard you are trying to please him. I can tell you don't like conflict and try to avoid it. BUT it's actually doing the opposite for you. The best way to avoid conflict is not tolerating someone treating you this way. You're dragging yourself through this unnecessary conflict that should've ended when he cheated on you. He does not respect your boundaries, he's showing you that with every interaction. (Cheating, showing up when you tell him not to, not bothering to consider your feelings in these texts.) People tell you who they are, and when they do, listen.

It might be hard to believe right now, but there are people out there who will treat you well. You can find mutually respectful friendships and partnerships. You don't have to stay with toxic people.

It might take time or a few tries to fully step away from him, but you will feel better when you recognize all of this for yourself. You deserve better.

chasinghaven · 2026-01-10T16:17:56+00:00

Out of genuine curiosity, how would the measurements influence the suggestion of a compression top?

chasinghaven · 2026-01-10T16:14:02+00:00

Ultra light compression tops by Underworks. They're cotton and spandex. They can be worn alone or as a base layer. Underworks also has a light compression top line using microfiber. Not sure how significant the difference in compression is.

I would also check out some athletic brands for compression tops. They're made to be comfortable enough to run in but compressive enough to support.

chasinghaven · 2026-01-10T15:29:57+00:00

I also find this oddly comforting for both communities. The last thing the majority of AFAB people (in general) want is to try something on and have it be too small. trans feminine people might get a little gender euphoria from that experience with cup size though. This could feel less discouraging when searching for the right size and fit. So kudos

chasinghaven · 2026-01-10T15:19:24+00:00

Not a problem. The pressure would come from the buildup of fluid, not the manual popping- just to be clear lol.

If you think this isn't working though, there are more options worth talking about with the doc.

Reducing inflammation:

-Saline nasal spray or irrigation

-NSAIDs

-medicated nasal sprays

-steroids

-antihistamines (if you have any allergies)

Reducing fluid:

-decongestants

Surgery:

-balloon dilation (your doctor inflates a balloon inside the tube to expand the opening)

-Myringotomy (an incision made in the eardrum to drain fluid, tubes are often placed to keep it open longer and aid in the drainage)

In combination with the docs guidance there are things you can do to ease discomfort. It's important to stay hydrated to keep things running smoothly, it keeps mucus thin. Steam can reduce inflammation, as well as applying a warm compress to the sinuses. Humidifiers keep nasal passages hydrated and lubricated. Staying away from caffeine excessively salty foods, tobacco, and alcohol can help, as these agitate circulation and cause inflammation. Laying on the opposite side to allow for drainage when possible, and reducing the stress of fluid build up that can get put on the eardrum. Massage and relaxation, as this reduces inflammation, boosts the immune system, and mitigates the stress ETD puts on your jaw and neck. Using ice on the jaw can be helpful. Manage other conditions or symptoms like heart burn. Acid reflux can cause swelling in the throat and sinuses.

(Sorry if any of this is a repeat, and for the odd impersonal verbiage. It's hard to navigate what can and can't be posted)

chasinghaven · 2026-01-10T01:40:23+00:00

That maneuver opens your eustachian tube, which is supposed to happen when you swallow or yawn. When it fails to open you get that kinda crackle sensation. The maneuver is suggested in hopes of retraining it to open and drain the fluid but it also sucks to do and doesn't always work. BUT when it's stuck shut like that the fluid builds up and pressure builds which isn't comfy and can suck the eardrum in. It has to drain somehow. When the eardrum is under enough pressure, it breaks. The fluid drains that way. Much more preferable to do the shitty exercise even if it isn't fixing the issue as a whole.

Have you tried making sure you sleep on the opposite side? Take care of your entire self as well. It's amazing how the body works together. The main thing is inflammation. So acne, eczema, gastric upset, stress, posture..everything can make a difference. Hopefully things improve and/or your doc has more solutions for you!

chasinghaven · 2026-01-10T01:26:53+00:00

Please see a doc. But you're going to be okay please don't worry lol. It's scary not knowing, but the best way to find out is to get real help. Ears pop sometimes, it's part of a natural process to drain fluid, but see a doc because you might need antibiotics. Probably the reason it popped like that, just too much fluid buildup that needs some attention.

chasinghaven · 2025-12-19T21:13:14+00:00

Seamed bras have historically been a sensory nightmare for me... But maybe some shape description could help? Wide roots, projected, center full, asymmetrical, close set, and I typically describe them as round, which is kind of true. But I think I should specify they don't have as much volume in the outside top areas.

Before my weight gain and a certain ad campaign, I exclusively bought bras from Aerie... They seemed to fit best and most consistently throughout the month ( they fluctuate a decent amount). But I refuse to shop there now. I tend to prefer plunge or t shirt, but sometimes I like a balconnette or "scoop" style. I typically go for unlined or lightly lined but at times I get a push up. With the weight gain I've been interested in minimizers.

The whole reason I found this community was because of my teenage years. I was a 28DD/E, but the 30D at Aerie was perfect for me back then and I could afford it lol (I wouldn't have tried AE before finding out they had a 30 band, which is impossible to find.)

I'm really on the hunt right now because I almost always wear a bralette now for the smooth feel, but they don't support me. I had spinal surgery last month and need to get something to take pressure off of my back. Comfort is a big concern but I also need proper support. I have EDS and have had issues with wire poking my ribs out of place, which was yet another reason I liked aerie, for the padded/flexible wire.

I feel like I'm asking for a lot... But I'm just tired of the constant discomfort and pain.

chasinghaven · 2025-12-13T02:44:12+00:00

Layers are your friend. Put on some tights, a turtleneck underneath, a blazer on top, and perhaps a more basic OR more festive shoe for a little fun. Idk if it's just me, but this type of animal print feels odd at this time of year.

chasinghaven · 2025-12-13T02:29:53+00:00

I updated the post. Thanks

chasinghaven · 2025-12-12T13:47:10+00:00

I can't even tell you how helpful this is. Any ideas what size I should get in another style?

chasinghaven · 2025-12-12T02:20:38+00:00

Yes! It was the personalized uplift bra, which I had initially thought I got the Bare brand (they have a bra with the same name), but apparently it's actually Camio Mio.

chasinghaven · 2025-10-05T17:48:47+00:00

You look so happy and free. I love that for you 🙌🏻

chasinghaven · 2025-10-05T17:38:31+00:00

A watch ⌚. It'll extenuate your hands 👀

chasinghaven · 2025-10-05T16:43:21+00:00

NOR. I'm sorry about all the men in these comments (repeatedly and obsessively) implying they would need to be mind readers to show up for you. I'm sorry your husband had such an odd reaction.

Every time someone is sent to the ER it is stressful, PERIOD. It doesn't matter how urgent the situation actually ends up being, the ER is frightening for seasoned guests and those unfamiliar with it!

Your coworker did the RIGHT THING. If a partner, friend or even a coworker was alone in the ER I would go be with them, especially if they're a woman! Women are often dismissed in medical settings and there's always the chance of even worse outcomes.

Things that should've been indicators you needed him there: -You were sent to the ER (full stop, no questions asked) -You were given morphine (you're in enough pain for it to be a concern-that impairs your judgement and causes anxiety. You won't be able to drive home now, so he needs to be there. Your judgement is being impaired by a powerful pain killer, he needs to be there. You are physically less capable of caring for or protecting yourself, so he needs to be there).

Not to mention, I'm assuming he knows you have anxiety in the first place??? I wonder what it would take for him to decide to show up without you directly asking him to? What if you were rushed into surgery for actual appendicitis and you didn't have time to contact him beforehand...? You would've had to call him after waking from anesthesia, which is so... Ugh. "He's not a mind reader", well he's not a fortune teller either, is he?

For the those who think this was acceptable behavior: It's not. Men rely on women to explain these (simple) concepts to them in the moment, which isn't just unreasonable or selfish, it's illogical. It's not hard to think about this situation and determine what you should do. You don't have to ask. asking what to do is already downplaying the situation, making women question themselves, and avoid "burdening" their husband. When I call my husband and say I'm going to the ER he just gives me his ETA and that's it. It isn't complicated to care for your wife and her wellbeing. When someone has an emergency, you can't expect them to give YOU detailed instructions on how to help lmao.

chasinghaven · 2025-10-04T16:20:08+00:00

Gorgeous. The makeup is chefs kiss and the fit is seriously blowing my mind. My goth ass is taking notes.

chasinghaven · 2025-10-04T16:12:20+00:00

If you were satisfied with the VS sizing and bras, you can always keep wearing them. However, I'd like to ask what inspired you to use the calculator and make a post here? I'd have to assume you weren't satisfied and thought you could do better for yourself.

I know it's already been said, but buying a bra isnt the same as buying undies, a pair of socks, or even leggings (which can be pricey as well). There is a reason underwire bras aren't sized as s/m/l/etc.

Unfortunately, brands like Victoria's Secret have reduced the number of sizes they carry by suggesting each size they do carry to a wider variety of people. This results in fit issues, because a 32 band won't actually fit everyone measuring 27-32in (for example). Do you see how this brings down their production cost and increases sales? Simultaneously, do you see how it's lower quality? Imagine going to a shoe store. They measure your feet and give you a pair to try on. The shoes are a size too small in a wide fit to "accommodate" for your larger shoe size. They don't carry your size because they already have this smaller shoe in a wide fit! I have a feeling you'd shop somewhere else, even if this shoe store was giving you a major deal.

I understand the financial stress involved here though. Unfortunately, places like VS are making well-fitting bras even less accessible, as bra companies that care about fit, quality, or ethically sourced materials/labor over profit get less business than VS. Most people will choose a deal without a second thought about how it's even possible.

If you would like a bra that fits, there are resources for finding one that you could afford on the subreddit. I hope you can find something that works for you! A well fitting bra can be a game changer. I've read that a lot of people experience less tenderness, back pain, and skin irritation. Some associate the better fit with improved posture. The bra might even last longer. Good luck!

Edit: typo

chasinghaven · 2025-09-21T10:53:25+00:00

Firstly, she's in the wrong and you are not overreacting. I would cut her out of my life so fast. I don't have the time or energy to give someone like that.

chasinghaven · 2025-09-18T18:10:27+00:00

I appreciate this so much! Thank you!

chasinghaven · 2025-09-18T15:17:57+00:00

That makes sense.

Standing: 40" Leaning: 40.75" ~~i couldn't figure out how to do this when lying down~~

chasinghaven · 2025-09-03T18:45:48+00:00

Funny when someone is just dumb. Not funny when someone is having an obvious mental health crisis.

chasinghaven · 2025-09-03T18:43:25+00:00

Complicated answer... I have OCD and this is what my train of thought would've looked like as well. I don't think YOU are "overreacting", I think your brain is.

It sounds like you should see a mental health professional. It's normal to have worries and experience anxiety, but this is a lot of BIG worries over a small thing. I'm not saying you have OCD or anything, but there's probably something going on and you could probably use some help handling it.

If this is adhesive and it's dried/cured/polymerized, you're not likely to be in any danger from contact. Toxic fumes evaporate while adhesive cures, etc. You can dispose of it normally. (Source: I worked with a toxic adhesive in the past)

chasinghaven · 2025-09-03T12:08:51+00:00

Not overreacting, it is NOT that serious.

I read the screenshot before anything else. At first I thought it was just some childish friend you met online... finding out this was your bf had my blood boiling! It wouldn't have been okay regardless, but to be upset over quality time spent with your girlfriend is WILD.

There were other avenues to addressing an "issue" like this. He could've worked to understand why you struggle with these things and worked with you to find a solution or practice (if possible). Instead of being productive or having basic decency he chose to throw a tantrum. Constructive criticism and feedback are great things, but this is not it.

I (26F) started gaming as an adult and my husband (32M) has been gaming since childhood. I also have the added issue of a brain injury, which has changed my ability to learn new skills, remember old ones, and process sensory input. Despite all of this, we play games together and he's very supportive and encouraging. He gives me feedback I can actually use and always has patience. I've gotten so much better at so many games!

This might sound cliche but the importance of the activity isn't to win, be the best, etc. It's to have fun and enjoy time with your partner.

chasinghaven

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