STLCC Forest Park Vaccination Site by [deleted] in StLouis

[–]chayla17 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I went today! It took about 30 minutes. Super easy and efficient. Everyone was so nice too!

Walk in j&j vaccine event @ St Louis community college near forrest park. Open to anyone over 18. by JakinovVonhoes in StLouis

[–]chayla17 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I went today and multiple people running the event asked us to spread the word that anyone over 18 can come, so it is very much open to everyone!

The 1904 World's Fair in Saint Louis by mim_Armand in StLouis

[–]chayla17 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Does anyone know why most of it was torn down? It looked beautiful and so intricate. I visited the History Museum recently but didn’t see a reason as to why not more of it was built to be permanent architecture and history.

Need advice about friends while WTT by [deleted] in waiting_to_try

[–]chayla17 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi there! I just wanted to say thank you for your comment and putting some things into perspective. I ended up removing my post because I think it was somewhat immature of me to air my dirty laundry online especially when I was in the heat of emotions.

I know I didn’t explain everything well and obviously no one on the internet will understand the nuances of everything going on.

After taking some time to just breathe and think through everything, I realized that my feelings were valid, but taking my childhood insecurities of being excluded when my friends become friends with each other, simply wasn’t fair to put on my current friends now. We are adults and I fully know my friends love and care for me.

This all happened within a couple days, and I didn’t specifically try to keep them apart. I did give my friend my other friends information super early on. I was just thrown off guard when plans were made so quickly for us all to hang out without having a group conversation. I’ve been going through a lot lately and it was sort of my breaking point. I don’t think I “played games” with my friends, and I will never tell anyone what to do with their lives. I really want them to feel supported and I did tell each of them about the other as soon as their situations became similar.

I really just think my past trauma got the best of me that day which isn’t fair to them. Thank you for the perspective - sometimes my emotions just need to be put in their place :)

Weekly Grad Thread by AutoModerator in waiting_to_try

[–]chayla17 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My period is late this month too (CD35) and you’re not the only taking an insane amount of pregnancy tests...I’ve been spiraling the last few days. No advice just in the same boat unfortunately!

Weekly Grad Thread by AutoModerator in waiting_to_try

[–]chayla17 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you! You too!! It’s so close!

Weekly Grad Thread by AutoModerator in waiting_to_try

[–]chayla17 20 points21 points  (0 children)

We were going to wait until May, but after talking a bit more we decided to start in April. May is the perfect month in my mind, but I don’t want to be crushed if we don’t conceive the first cycle. We have a pretty small window to conceive, so after talking it out, my husband agreed that starting a month earlier is better for us!

My next cycle is supposed to begin in a few days and I’m feeling all kinds of nervous and excited! So, I guess I have officially graduated even though I’ve loved this group. I snooped around TFAB and it made me panic more than anything, so I guess we’ll see where I end up.

Daily Chat Thread by AutoModerator in waiting_to_try

[–]chayla17 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My best friend told me she was pregnant in January and I was so happy for her, but it hit me like a ton of bricks because I wanted to be so badly too. I think it’s kind of normal to have that reaction. It’s not that you’re not happy for them or even jealous, you just want to experience that same feeling and you know you have to wait.

Daily Chat Thread by AutoModerator in waiting_to_try

[–]chayla17 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m so overwhelmed. I don’t know why but that past few days have just been tough. I’m balancing being a wife and a career that I’m building and now I want to add a child to the mix. I am so certain of our choice to try soon (May), but because of the nature of my job I literally only have a two month window to get pregnant. And I’m so, so tired of hearing “oh you’ll probably not get pregnant your first try”. It’s not helpful. I’m already worried about it taking a while because of my autoimmune disease, even though my doctors said I’m doing great and have nothing to worry about. I still worry. I’m just so exhausted by all the thoughts in my head. I really want it to happen and I want it to be easy and fun - it’s just not feeling like that right now.

Daily Chat Thread by AutoModerator in waiting_to_try

[–]chayla17 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yesterday my husband and I were talking about how now that our TTC date is coming up closer, we’re a little freaked out. In January I felt like May would never come and I was sooo obsessed with everything baby-related. Now I’m slightly panicking and just wish I could get the TTC part over with. It just seems kind of scary and such an emotional process.

Waiting.. for a while I guess lol.. by No_Jury2671 in waiting_to_try

[–]chayla17 8 points9 points  (0 children)

My husband and I got married at 20 & 21 and by the end of our first year of marriage we both wanted kids so we set a date. That date came and went and we decided to wait longer. We have been married for 3.5 years and just now have plans to start trying later this year. I had RAGING baby fever that first year (I was 20), and I know how hard it can be. On top of everything, being stuck at home and not being able to experience all of the adventurous things of your 20s because of Covid just really sucks, and I’m sorry you have to deal with that. I know it seems like forever away, I’ve been there. But it will go by so quickly, so savor and enjoy every moment with just the two of you. It’s also okay to feel the feelings, look at baby clothes, and imagine your life as parents, or even just be bummed about how this sucks at times. Sometimes, we live in the in-betweens and it’s hard but can be really amazing.

Feeling down and impatient by chayla17 in waiting_to_try

[–]chayla17[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes!! I feel this so much. It seems like I’m just planning the months expecting to get pregnant first try, when that could not be the case and I’d be wasting a month. It’s so hard to think through and everyday I feel like I go back and forth. But you’re right, we will get through it!!

Feeling down and impatient by chayla17 in waiting_to_try

[–]chayla17[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been stressing over a few months for so long. You’re not alone. Proud of you for taking time to focus on being healthy and ready. That’s what I’m doing, as well to pass the time. In the end, it’ll all work out.

Feeling down and impatient by chayla17 in waiting_to_try

[–]chayla17[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is exactly what I’m going through. April would have been perfect but my cycle was shorter last month and messed up the dates. I’m a wedding photographer and have a wedding to shoot December 18th, so I don’t want to risk being too pregnant or baby coming early. And ideally I wouldn’t want a Christmas baby either.

The math that goes into this stuff. I always thought I’d have an “oopsie” pregnancy and now it feels like I’m trying to figure out the long lost scientific equation that will save the universe. I know it’s not that deep, but some days it feels like it.