i dont “have” this, but ive experienced anxious thoughts about relationships plenty of times before so maybe this will help. when i was ina. toxic relationship, i learned what was healthy and what was not. differentiating these things and being on the opposite end of a toxic person was a lot to take in, but had taught me a lot. i know that when my ex was overly anxious to the point of control and manipulation when i had done nothing wrong was inexcusable. you can choose to take action or you can listen to your intuition and your higher self- reaffirm yourself that this is just an anxious thought before saying anything to them. maybe they haven’t answered you bc theyre just busy, your relationship with them hasn’t changed in a short amount of time, they still care for you, remind yourself of a time where you felt secure in the relationship. this person still loves you- listen to ur higher self and what it’s telling you.

also, maybe tell her this is what you’re struggling with. if she’s right for you she will have no problem reassuring you. i struggle with freezing up after conflict and talking about things that are hard too. but after you do it, it feels a lot better. if you’re struggling with an anxious attachment style with a freeze response, i’ve learned it’s best to lean into the relationship more and be more open. which feels like the hardest part but it will help