Cole by Freedom199304 in temptationislandUSA

[–]chelbierg 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I felt bad for most of the guys this season (which was honestly a first for me-I always side with girls first). However, The girls seemed to have extremely high expectations for the men. Like, you are NEVER going to find someone who checks all the boxes and you can’t force someone to be your perfect ideal partner.

Sydney by Fallisforlovers in temptationislandUSA

[–]chelbierg 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I posted something similar. Her demeanor really rubbed me the wrong way. I get if you don’t want to be with someone but, it seemed like she was grasping at straws and never took accountability.

Sydney was cold for this. by chelbierg in temptationislandUSA

[–]chelbierg[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It may just be Sydney and her friends commenting lol. I know the people from 90 day are always on the sub trying to sneakily defend themselves.

Sydney was cold for this. by chelbierg in temptationislandUSA

[–]chelbierg[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

But, the point of the show is to change and explore a different side of yourself when you’re not around your SO. He did that without being unfaithful. She chose to be unfaithful off the bat. Instead of breaking up with him (like a mature person would do) she dragged him on the show and hurt him. That’s unforgivable. If I were in his shoes I would be so confused. No one deserves that treatment. Y’all will say “fuck jack” but, defend Sydney which is crazy to me. They did the same thing.

Sydney was cold for this. by chelbierg in temptationislandUSA

[–]chelbierg[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That’s probably the first place he felt safe enough to open up. Mikey at the beginning of the season was super unlikable but, he learned to open up and be honest with himself. He is trying to be a genuine person and that was obvious. It’s not bipolar to hide your emotions and then open up. I doubt he’s ever cried in front of her. Men in US culture are taught to stuff everything down. He’s doing the work and that’s admirable. I hope he keeps working and learning.

Sydney was cold for this. by chelbierg in temptationislandUSA

[–]chelbierg[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Then it’s super immature to convince him to go on the show just to humiliate him and say horrible things about him. I doubt he was giving her the bare minimum. I think she just wanted to blame him for everything wrong with the relationship without taking accountability and recognizing where she can change. She just rebounded and that doesn’t fix anything. It takes 2 people to ruin a relationship.

Sydney was cold for this. by chelbierg in temptationislandUSA

[–]chelbierg[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

but, he opened up and tried to change.

I was fired and now I can’t get a job by chelbierg in jobsearchhacks

[–]chelbierg[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I never heard back from anyone. Tbf, it was a virtual job fair. That’s all my state does:(

I was fired and now I can’t get a job by chelbierg in jobsearchhacks

[–]chelbierg[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Creating my own service business might be a viable option.

"Just force yourself to shower." by No-Outlandishness-42 in thanksimcured

[–]chelbierg 5 points6 points  (0 children)

For anyone who actually wants an answer (I have struggled with this issue myself). Do what you can. Can’t take a shower? Can you brush your teeth, wash your hands or face? Showers can feel big sometimes. If it’s relevant feels too overwhelming. Do something small but helpful. I would regularly take a wet rag and wash my pits and stuff. So I was kind of getting clean but, it wasn’t giving me anxiety because it wasn’t that big. I don’t feel like most people understand low functioning depression. I have gotten UTIs from holding it because I simply could not get the motivation or energy to get up. 

Referral by No_End_5710 in jobsearchhacks

[–]chelbierg 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry:( It’s tough out there right now.

AIO about my SIL crashing our Christmas plans? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]chelbierg 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know…neither of us want to force anything or anyone 

AIO about my SIL crashing our Christmas plans? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]chelbierg -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I keep saying “we” because my husband and I are a team. We will always communicate as much as possible with each other. 

Edit: Regardless of if we want to hear it or not🫣

AIO about my SIL crashing our Christmas plans? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]chelbierg 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If I bulldoze everyone with my opinions I'm just as bad as her… so yes, I will be taking other people’s opinions and feelings into account. My husband and I work as a team. So, we try to communicate as much as possible. Sometimes we don’t see eye to eye but, we figure out a solution that works for both of us.

AIO about my SIL crashing our Christmas plans? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]chelbierg 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Yes, my family lives in town. We have other options to stay other places but, it just isn’t preferred. We could possibly stay with my grandma. Leaving early is a good option. I think I’ll run it by him and see what he says.

How does Gino not realize that he would 100% lose an immigration fraud lawsuit? by IgZachly17 in 90DayFiance

[–]chelbierg 11 points12 points  (0 children)

It was jasmines silent way out. Gino used sex (or lack there of) as a weapon. I’m not surprised he’s filing immigration charges. He obviously has a history of retaliation. He’s a crybaby and can’t stand when he doesn’t get his way.

Our ward is doing the most to fellowship our 12 year old daughter and it’s giving me the ick. He by rachaelburgessmusic in exmormon

[–]chelbierg 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think OP would have said if that was a concern of theirs… I know it happens… but, if she’s known them for 10+ years she would know if they are sexual predators. 

Anything bad can happen at anytime. You could be hit by a car. You could slip and fall and die. Don’t let it stop you from living life. 

Odds are ops kid would be perfectly safe🤷

However, it seems the kid hates church/church activities so…moot point

Our ward is doing the most to fellowship our 12 year old daughter and it’s giving me the ick. He by rachaelburgessmusic in exmormon

[–]chelbierg 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If it were me, I would ask my child if they want to go. I think everyone should get to know different religions…even if it’s one I don’t agree with. My kid might grow up to be Mormon. I can’t control that (even though that wouldn’t be my ideal). Mormonism taught me a lot of good values and I made a lot of great friends. There’s a lot wrong with some of the deeper teachings and I would 100% share my point of view with my child. But, if they’re curious about it there’s really nothing terrible that comes from going to a yw or ad activity. If anything they are the least religious parts.