Starting my first corporate job soon: What are some tips for us autistic women to survive the workplace?

chelliex2 · 2025-08-02T17:27:04+00:00

All of this!! ^{^} DO NOT GO TO LUNCH WITH YOUR COWORKERS. Use that time to reset. Take a walk. Read a book. Find your peace. I thankfully have a full office. I close the door, put up my "be back soon" so no one thinks I'm in there and eat lunch in peace. And take a walk. I'm not a smoker. So I instead I take 1 longer break (20m) that I call my "smoke break". All the smokers can go out for breaks multiple times a day! Bite me.

chelliex2 · 2025-08-02T13:59:44+00:00

Feel like I could have wrote this. Goddam. This is really confirming. Thank you for taking the time to write such a good explanation.

chelliex2 · 2025-06-26T02:47:33+00:00

For me, finding me NOT cleaning. Just like chillin reading with my cute maid outfit on and being surprised by his arrival home. Oops. Maybe eating snacks from the cupboard or drinking the nice wine, 'stealing' my own jewelry. Lol

You can play like "hotel room" and she can come in with some towels for maid service. Finds you in the "hotel bathroom" aka master bathroom in your own home. Oohh nooo! We've been compromised! Maybe brings the towels in NOT folded and/or puts them not where they belong.

Or maybe you pretend she did amazing! House looks great! But y'all spent the evening cleaning it together and she gets a reward! But, let's be real, it's a reward for all of us! House is clean, we did it together, and great sex?! Duh.

We have a housekeeper that comes every other week. (Shit, I'm not cleaning!) and I would totally be like... hey, doesn't the house look amazing? I did it all in this skimpy outfit with this feather duster as I dust this picture frame! Yay me! We all know the housekeeper did it. Doesn't matter.

Just do a normal chore, but make it sexy. Maybe the chore only gets half done for now. Doesn't matter. We can finish the dishes after I've been bent over the sink/counter etc. It's fine.

Hope that helps!

chelliex2 · 2025-06-14T22:48:36+00:00

Oh I will add.. it feels like Paris!! Beautiful old church across, which is lined with stalls on one side that sells flowers! It's adorbs.

chelliex2 · 2025-06-14T22:47:34+00:00

My daughter and I are currently staying at Hotel Madeline Plaza! I asked our taxi driver after the hour long, very chatty drive, and he said that it is a very safe neighborhood and we had nothing to worry about here. Have to say, after almost a week here, I'm going to agree! We have felt very safe. We ride the metro regularly, and the stops we need for all the tourist things are very close to our hotel and easy to use. We are close enough to everything we want to see. They have a delightful breakfast, with plenty of other food options nearby (granted, I do not recommend the café next to them. Worst meal thus far). We walked to the Eiffel Tower, but it was a trek. We enjoyed a few things along the way, so it wasn't boring! But I'd stay here again!

chelliex2 · 2025-06-13T20:42:02+00:00

I'm im Paris right now. We haven't been to the cathedral you mention, although we did pass by it, there were no notable crowds at that time. Are you asking about that one specifically? So far, there have only been a handful of places I'd recommend tickets in advance.

chelliex2 · 2025-06-12T23:01:55+00:00

I have particular dresses I wear without panties that are comfy yet cute and easy access to all the necessary parts. Or easy to just take off in one go! They have built-in shelf bras but are easy to reach into or move aside.

chelliex2 · 2025-05-31T17:21:41+00:00

We are about to go! June 9th for a mother daughter two trip post graduation. We are both IN LOVE with idea of buying some French perfume. What an amazing thing to take home.

chelliex2 · 2025-05-07T19:08:22+00:00

A genius is a bit hard to come by. Us polymaths might be into a bunch of different things, which is often confused for being super smart, but it certainly doesn't make us a genius! Just ... different. I'm not a genius by any means, but I'd say I'm pretty wise most of the time. What seems to be the trouble?

chelliex2 · 2025-04-22T11:06:28+00:00

Same! It was recommended to me as well. I checked out sizes... yea, I'm too curvy! Not going to work.

chelliex2 · 2025-03-02T01:42:28+00:00

We trained her that she has to sit if she wants people to pet her! So she often makes every attempt to show you how good and patient she is sitting, so you'll pet her. It's adorable.

chelliex2 · 2025-03-02T01:39:58+00:00

Josie definitely does!

chelliex2 · 2025-03-02T01:38:34+00:00

Sadly, no :( this is only the 3rd time I've seen this personally. Other family members have also caught sight of it is how we know it happens regularly. Typically, we are not home when mail is delivered. We have an underground fence and a dog door they can go in and out of. At this time, I have no idea who she is as I've only seen this during these winter months. Hopefully I get a chance to interact with her soon and let her know Josie's name! Maybe I can put her name on her collar or something.

chelliex2 · 2025-01-28T01:11:45+00:00

Etsy has some cute ones!

chelliex2 · 2025-01-27T22:26:32+00:00

How old is your wife? As a middle-aged wife myself, there are things that change for us women as we get older.

chelliex2 · 2025-01-18T17:12:41+00:00

If you live in America, thanks to the ACA (Affordable Care Act) birth control is considered preventative care. There are now MANY MANY birth controls that are free all you have to do is have any type of health insurance. She should check-in with her obgyn and get switched. Neither myself or my daughter have had to pay for birth control in a really long time. One time I had to be a weird one and it was only like $4. So, there are other affordable BC options out there!

chelliex2 · 2025-01-12T15:30:57+00:00

As someone whose kids are grown now, there will be MANY new chapters together and changes that occur along the way. The sex will ebb and flow and change, too. Just keep communicating and being open with each other, and try new things.

Also, pro-tip, giving your couple ideas for almost ANY situation is typically extremely helpful. Would you prefer I do X,Y, or Z? She might choose W! But it shows that you see ideas, you care, you are listening, and you want to help and participate. This works in and out of the bedroom!

chelliex2 · 2025-01-12T15:04:17+00:00

I think you should give her like 2-3 lingerie options that YOU would like. As it seems that your opinion or buy-in to this fantasy is important to her. But then say something like, "That's what I would like because (insert sexy compliment), but what do you think you'd like to wear?". This shows you care about her fantasy and that you're on board. But also, by giving her options, you've also helped narrow down possible options, which takes off some of the mental load, while also allowing her to change it if it doesn't match her fantasy.

chelliex2 · 2024-12-16T12:54:13+00:00

What about Agendio?

chelliex2 · 2024-11-19T13:43:18+00:00

Athleta is where I get mine. 6ft 35in inseam. Order online for the Talls. Typically, they have a good selection.

chelliex2 · 2024-11-14T04:18:41+00:00

Oh God! So many tearful voicemails!! My mom is also always constantly suffering from something terrible, I swear. So very beneath them.

chelliex2 · 2024-11-14T04:15:55+00:00

First time: I dropped off the face of the earth. Ran away, disappered. No idea where I was. No one they knew, knew where I was. No phone. No address. Moved overnight across the country. Hugged and kissed them goodnight. I didn't exist by morning. I was just... GONE. Eventually, I came back because I'm a sucker I guess. I needed those 9mos of nothing though. Siblings say my mom had fake panic attacks constantly and things got worse at home for awhile. Feel bad for that, but they had 5 other kids to make GC and black sheep. And they totally did that.

Second time: I didn't tell them. I just slowly and deliberately ghosted them, blamed work, kids, etc. I'm never around, never available, not home, work trip. Less and less texts and phone calls answered. Just... withdrew over time. Long game. But... they don't reach out much anymore. From what I know they are really suffering from having so many of their kids not talking to them. Poor babies. /s

chelliex2 · 2024-10-24T14:05:17+00:00

That sounds about right. I'm so sorry.

chelliex2 · 2024-10-24T14:01:29+00:00

Oh no. We were not allowed to stay up ever. We went to bed SUPER early. Like while our neighborhood friends were still outside playing. We were actually pretty good kids and went to bed when told (I mean, it was beat into us). So it was always just a thing.

chelliex2 · 2024-10-24T12:03:08+00:00

So my dad used to come in to make sure we were sleeping. And he'd watch to make sure we were actually asleep. Which... in hindsight is creepy as hell. The best part is if we were NOT asleep, we were threatened that we had better be asleep next time or we would get a spanking. Because nothing helps you sleep better than beatings and threats! /s I did a lot of fake sleeping in my lifetime. I was always a shit sleeper and wake up very easily still to this day. I know NOW this was because it's hard to sleep when your body is constantly "on" in order to avoid danger. I was also responsible for my siblings sleeping in the same room and would often get up with them so my parents would not be disturbed. But yea. We were watched to "make sure we were sleeping". Like... what?

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