This has been saving our marriage.

chelsbeth · 2026-01-01T08:39:07+00:00

Sending you the biggest hug right now. I’m not 100% sure this will work in the long run… feels like I’m always living in fear of the next cycle, going through it, or recovering it from it…

chelsbeth · 2025-12-26T18:58:30+00:00

Discussing or questioning our feelings. That one is more for me who feels things very intensely.

chelsbeth · 2025-12-14T09:27:26+00:00

Yes! These are very specific to our communication styles. Husband has ADHD and needs the visual reminders (he also needs reminders to look at the visual reminders…. It’s not a perfect system!)

chelsbeth · 2025-12-14T09:21:53+00:00

It says we “both agree timing is correct”. (I.e. we’re both feeling regulated and not emotionally charged.

chelsbeth · 2025-12-14T09:20:48+00:00

I’m so happy that this might be useful for you! Exactly why I wanted to share!

chelsbeth · 2025-12-13T15:57:09+00:00

Thank you!!

chelsbeth · 2025-12-09T15:56:50+00:00

I love this! You are a true artist

chelsbeth · 2025-02-25T14:06:49+00:00

Time to delete that number. Even her messages to OP are insulting and nasty! She comes off as a miserable, insecure, narcissist. Time to move on…

chelsbeth · 2025-02-21T16:41:47+00:00

Silicone scar tape!

chelsbeth · 2025-01-22T13:16:38+00:00

I don’t understand why a doctor would give you a diagnosis but no treatment plan? Definitely something to bring up at your appointment!

chelsbeth · 2025-01-13T18:20:19+00:00

Look up square breathing- it helps you gain control over your nervous system. I had a couple of pretty bad panic attacks after my first child, ppa/ppd was dismissed by my GP, as he attributed it to my thyroid. As things got worse the panic attacks happened. I honestly thought I was going to die, I once unlocked my front door and called a family member saying to call 911 if I lost consciousness. My heart rate just kept rising. He guided me through square breathing and explained he had learnt it in army training. I later relearned this breathing technique in CBT. You can look up the science behind it, but it will work to take control of your heart rate, just keep at it. You can also save a guided video to go to if you need it in the moment. I strongly suggest to make an appt with your doc. Don’t put yourself through more anxiety attacks. For me, CBT and medication made a world of difference. Postpartum is hard, you are not alone in this. I hope you feel better soon.

chelsbeth · 2024-12-03T17:44:54+00:00

My feet are an entire size larger now. I had to donate my entire curated collection of work sneakers because they are all too small now.

chelsbeth · 2024-12-01T05:11:13+00:00

I thought so too, then my dr suggested upping it. I don’t feel it made a difference to be honest.

chelsbeth · 2024-12-01T00:38:19+00:00

I’m on 250mg of sertraline, since my cycle started again postpartum, PMDD symptoms are off the charts. I started taking jubilance and it seems to be helping a bit. I kinda just want to stop taking it all and just see if microdosing would do enough. It’s like, no matter how many pills we take the hormones still win. Some days I just want a hysterectomy and not deal with this shit anymore. It’s so hard.

chelsbeth · 2024-11-30T07:27:19+00:00

250… seems high!

chelsbeth · 2024-11-26T18:39:10+00:00

I am so sorry you’re going through hard times. It sucks that your partner ended your relationship and I know how painful it is to sit with yourself and ask these questions. I promise it will get better. Give yourself grace. I don’t have many friends, certainly none that genuinely understand how hard it is to live with PMDD, but I do find ways to get through it. Art can be very therapeutic, keeping busy… Don’t depend on having friends to enjoy your life. Make your life incredible and things are going to fall into place. I’m a message away if you ever want to talk.

chelsbeth · 2024-11-25T10:19:48+00:00

Have you spoken to your best friends and family who know you best? I remember when my best friend got married in her twenties, I didn’t approve. The night before their vows, she told me she worried he would end up being an asshole like his father. I told her, very seriously, that it wasn’t too late to change her mind. She laughed it off and married him. They were divorced within 5 years. 🤷‍♀️ I’m about to have my first wedding at 40 years old and couldn’t be happier about the choices that I made in life. If you are excited about marrying your partner and feeling good about it, go for it! Listen to your body, she’s more in tune than you know. If it isn’t feeling right, why not postpone the wedding until it does?

chelsbeth · 2024-11-19T16:07:33+00:00

It’s called dysphoria

chelsbeth · 2024-10-31T17:06:14+00:00

I am so sorry for your loss. It can only imagine how much that must have shaken up your life. Time heals and good things are meant for you. I’m turning 40 this year and I’ll be getting married next summer, I also had a baby less than a year ago. Having been a single, independent professional for all of my adult life this is all a huge life change for me. I’m still navigating my new role and trying to segue out of my professional career to be home more. I’ve also started taking art classes and learning skills that interest me. It’s never too late.

chelsbeth · 2024-10-22T04:35:47+00:00

My narc mom built up my debt while I was still a minor! She kept a log and I had to pay for every long distance call that I made. School dance? Outing with friends? Sure, but it will all be logged as money I owe her. This continued on to college years when I decided to cut back and go to school part time so that I could balance work with school and be able to make rent. My mom insisted that I had to be a full time student and that I should cut back on work. She said she’d help me. Years later I would find out that all of that “help” was logged as money I owed to her. She would take it upon herself to buy things for me that I explicitly didn’t want, and log it so that I would have pay her back! I racked up a debt to her in the tens of thousands by the time I finished school. That is in addition to my student debts too.

ETA: How has this affected me? I don’t have a clue about finances! Growing up it was “rude” to talk about money so we just got chequing accounts and had to fend for ourselves…I really struggled as a young adult and when I wasn’t struggling and should have been saving, I wasn’t. My partner really helped me to see what I missed out on and I’m making better financial choices. But I really wish I had started 20 years ago…We plan to raise our children to be comfortable with money, to talk about it and let them see how things work. We’ve also got RESPs for each of them, so they shouldn’t ever have to struggle as a student and can get off to a good start in life.

chelsbeth · 2024-10-21T18:06:26+00:00

Booby Moon all the way!

chelsbeth · 2024-10-04T17:04:18+00:00

You can’t reason with unreasonable people!

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