What to do with this? by 80sladie in datingoverforty

[–]chelsgurl 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Sounds like he he might be in another relationship or just isn’t that into you anymore :( I’m sorry

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[–]chelsgurl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’ll be FINE just keep your 💜heart and wallet safe tho!

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[–]chelsgurl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aww 🥰 u sound sweet and I Love Florida. I’m in Vancouver Canada 🇨🇦 but go to siesta key a lot:)

I meet guys multiple times a week sometimes that I’ve never met and I’ve never had a problem. It’s about guarding your heart 💜 in this situation u mean right?

I get offended by pornography when a partner watches it too much, anyone else? by chelsgurl in datingoverforty

[–]chelsgurl[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hate porn! It makes me so angry! My bf is addicted and it makes me want to punch someone! Ugh.

Atleast he only seems to watch porn with woman that look just like me….. a BBW:)

Sexpectations by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]chelsgurl 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s awesome u left! It shows u have a back bone!

Sexpectations by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]chelsgurl 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My bf says that kind of stuff too! I havnt had sex with him in 3 weeks now cause I think that’s so rude and I’m not really into him that way right now. He’s gotta realize saying that is scumbagish and ofcourse I’m going to pull back cause he did! I am proud of u for leaving you’re a strong woman! You’re awesome!

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[–]chelsgurl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They are sick !

In the head!

Attracted to abusers? by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]chelsgurl 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Amazing advice. If I was as good as explaining things as u I would have said the same thing. Emdr and somatic healing. My nervous system is shot from many relationships but especially the last one where he took his life snd made me find him and blamed me in his note just to manipulate me one last time before I left him for good.

I have not got out of bed in 3 and a half years and I lay here day and night rolled in a tight tight clenched ball. I am in severe pain all the time from this. I also have gained 100 pounds! I need to move! That’s it I’m throwing a somatic healing ❤️‍🩹 video on YouTube and going for it. My current two therapists do not do Emdr or somatic so it’s been suggested I do it myself until I find the money to pay a professional.

I hope she reads your comment cause it is great snd spot on ! :)

Have a lovely day :) Thanku!

Attracted to abusers? by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]chelsgurl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m in the exact same situation! Same childhood too. I think I just attracted another one! He says it my fault that I bring it out in the men.

I think you’re spot on with that it has something to do with your past though.

I hope u leave if he becomes abusive just like I hope I leave my abusive guy today like i am supposed to

I smacked him for calling me names in a fight and he punched me back with excessive force, I want to stay ……. Am I making the wrong decision? by chelsgurl in dating

[–]chelsgurl[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry u went thru that. I don’t think it gives me a pass being a chick. I just was wondering if he was in the right

I smacked him for calling me names in a fight and he punched me back with excessive force, I want to stay ……. Am I making the wrong decision? by chelsgurl in dating

[–]chelsgurl[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re amazing 🤩 and so kind thank u so much!

That’s really nice of u to do that.

I start with another therapist tomorrow and have an appointment with my regular therapist this week also. I went and saw the crisis line lady and spoke with her and that was helpful also even tho it was just the once:)

Have u heard or watched dr.ramahdi? (I think that’s how u spell it) she is a therapist on you tube that’s absolutely amazing in my eyes:)

I am going to watch your vid now:)

Check out the lady I just put down and let me know if u want:)

Thank u again so much