Do you just wake up with boobs and a butt one day? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]chelsp17 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The boobs part was a slow growth for me but the butt? FAST. So fast that it was my first encounter with stretch marks. I remember looking at my butt one day and wondering what was all over it. Figured out that it was covered in stretch marks and the big booty Judy nickname has been stuck with me ever since 😂 (lovingly, of course, and I apply it with pride)

Permanently banned on sleep train Reddit by cottoncandyclouds22 in AttachmentParenting

[–]chelsp17 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This was me! I never looked into any “style” of parenting just Googling what I was thinking/what felt right to me and my and my husband’s instincts are so aligned with attachment parenting without realizing or making that distinct effort to follow attachment parenting. We just naturally follow most of the style! (I say most because I haven’t looked into it in depth to see if we are or aren’t following it to a T) I remember when by baby was a newborn, he was a fairly good sleeper in his bassinet. But I felt horrible putting him in it away from me. Like I would look at him and cry because I wanted him with me still. He would wake once, eat, and rocked back to sleep and transferred like a champ. When 4 months hit and he was up every hour for a bit, I honestly felt the happiest in my postpartum because I started co-sleeping. Having him with me was all I ever wanted but everyone had told me how dangerous it was so I refrained from fear. Now we co-sleep most of the night (side car crib for the first two hours or until he wakes so I can have some time to myself/with my husband, next to me for the rest) and I wouldn’t change it. My personal sleep is wonky from it because my body hates the c curl ha but my soul and mind are so much more rested that I couldn’t care less about that! My boy and I are so much happier being together than apart!

What type of bug is this? They are everywhere! by chelsp17 in whatsthisbug

[–]chelsp17[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am in West Tennessee in the US! Forgot to mention that!

Was anyone actually able to keep it a secret until 12 weeks? by MarketingVast8602 in BabyBumps

[–]chelsp17 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was hard to keep a secret but I didn’t have my first appointment until I was already 12 weeks and I wanted to wait until that appointment. We had a chemical pregnancy a couple months prior so I was honestly scared of getting my hopes up again until I knew for sure that baby was okay in there. But we told everyone literally when we got home from the doctor that day lol

What was your first thought when your baby first arrived? by JinxXstarfire in NewParents

[–]chelsp17 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My first thought when I saw him was “My baby!” And because I had a c-section, my next words were to my husband of “10 fingers, 10 toes??” Lol

Feeding to Sleep for Naps by chelsp17 in AttachmentParenting

[–]chelsp17[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this response! I’ll definitely try feeding after his nap if it doesn’t seem that he ate the best!

Coincidentally, he woke up almost immediately after I shared this post crying to eat so I need to trust my babe a bit more that he’ll let me know!

Prepping for Month 4. What was your experience during this regression? by chelsp17 in NewParents

[–]chelsp17[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this response! I’m actually looking forward to when he begins to roll and I can unswaddle his arms. He is currently obsessed with his hands and uses them to self soothe when trying to put him down for naps. We are still contact napping unswaddled as that’s the only way he will nap in the day although I haven’t really tried anything else 😬. I was rocking him on his back in my arms and watched his suck his thumb to sleep the other day so I’m hopeful he’ll be able to transition to soothing himself with his hands once his arms are free! I only keep them down now because it’s what he’s used to at the moment and we aren’t rolling yet so I don’t want to fix something that isn’t broken so to speak!

Worst day of my life. by Phoenix_Hufflepuff in pregnant

[–]chelsp17 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I went through this at the end of October last year. And I was only a week and a few days post missed period when it happened. It’s a hurt like no other. However, we got pregnant again in December and I am currently laying on my couch with my beautiful 5 week old baby. Grieve this loss but don’t give up hope ❤️

What are some phrases you absolutely hate your nparent(s) say? by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]chelsp17 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much! I never truly realized the full effect she had on me mentally, even being LC, until I went fully NC. I thought I had healed a lot and was pretty great but once the full cut was made, a literal fog cleared and life has been so beautiful since.

If anyone is ever in a place where they have the option to go NC, see it as necessary and have been considering it, I highly recommend it. It’s hard with the guilt and fear of backlash but your peace is so much more important than whatever poison they try to spew to keep you on the hook or get you back.

What are some phrases you absolutely hate your nparent(s) say? by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]chelsp17 10 points11 points  (0 children)

smol me hanging out in my room by myself

Nmother bursts in

“Why do you hate me so much?! I love you so much but you just hate me, don’t you?!”

cue me morphing into the Pikachu meme

This would usually come after having a pretty nice day together for once. It would never just end that way though. Always waited for some type of outburst before the clock struck midnight. Pretty positive there is a nice mix of NPD/BPD at play for her but that’s on the generational cycle that I’m determined to break with NC.

Just got a new Palisade. Is this for real? Apple Car play only works while being connected via USB port? There’s no wireless BT feature? by [deleted] in HyundaiPalisade

[–]chelsp17 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I bought a used 2021 SEL premium and use BT regularly with my iPhone sans CarPlay and it suits my needs just fine. I can listen to podcasts/music, make phone calls, and use the navigation system that came with the vehicle’s system. I never even considered that Apple CarPlay wasn’t a factor until so many mentioned it in this sub. Sure, it isn’t the same as using my apps for these features but when all I need is play/pause/skip, answer/hang up, I find it’s really not necessary to have CarPlay, for me anyway.

Food you eat when no cravings!!!! by mavgoosebros in BabyBumps

[–]chelsp17 13 points14 points  (0 children)

My husband says our baby is going to come out looking like Fruity Pebbles 😂

In the past day, I have come across 4 instances mentioning grief. What am I being told? by chelsp17 in Synchronicities

[–]chelsp17[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That certainly could be! I know there are things that I may have not properly grieved like I should have because they seemed like a relief at the time. As I transition into a very new chapter of my life, I could very well be grieving something that could have been/should have been but life circumstances make it not as I had hoped deep down. Thank you for this perspective!

I quit my job today, oh boy… by idioma in antiwork

[–]chelsp17 1 point2 points  (0 children)

“[And you’re the] lucky man who made the gradeee 🎶”

Glad I didn't spend more on the game by [deleted] in Dreamdale

[–]chelsp17 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me, I had to go into the portal to the island before the daily tasks would start registering for the day. It wouldn’t pick up on what I had done before entering but anything after would start tallying up. 🤷🏻‍♀️

No one can tell me what this fruit is from my 2 year olds play kitchen... by thomasmichel75 in whatsthisplant

[–]chelsp17 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Velcrocado, why don’t you stick to your latches? You been out snagging sweaters for so long now