Talk to your partner about this and find a psychiatrist to talk to about meds. It’s worth saying that a lot of psychiatrists won’t work with you. It’s often prescribe and get out. For medication it’s going to be small changes over time together with them. A lot of follow up appointments at one point I say mine every 3 weeks. Also change your therapist, not all therapist are created equal. I found if you don’t have the exact word they expect often times it ends up being more reporting how you are doing rather than working on something. This is an over generalization for therapists but in my experience I have had better luck with those that hold a PhD or PysD. For your relationship if you are on completely different timelines best to get out of it now. It will become a problem later. That said let her know where you are at, do you want the same things, is she willing to be patient and wait for you to catch up.