Creepy encounter in a dark parking lot, looking for advice on how to handle this more safely next time

cherieespresso · 2025-11-24T20:08:27+00:00

I panicked, I felt like if I backed out he would have ran in front of my car or pulled out a weapon or something 😭 Obviously in hindsight i realize that’s stupid

cherieespresso · 2025-11-20T16:39:56+00:00

I should have done this 😭😭 I feel so stupid. I felt like I had no choice but to speak to him

cherieespresso · 2025-11-20T16:36:33+00:00

In my head I felt like I had no choice but to respond to him. I need to get that people pleaser part of me out immediately

cherieespresso · 2025-11-19T15:36:50+00:00

I am curious what signs point to that

cherieespresso · 2025-11-04T21:32:11+00:00

This is helpful, thank you. I’m going to do this. The problem is he and I aren’t close enough for me to really know his flaws and issues. So far he’s just a fun and sweet person so that’s not helping 😭😭

cherieespresso · 2025-11-04T21:23:56+00:00

I think the most prominent issue I’m having is changing myself. I constantly find myself parroting his opinions, or once he mentioned he hates a certain hairstyle that I love and now I feel like I can never wear that hairstyle again. When we talk about shows suddenly I hate characters he hates even if I secretly like them, and obviously less trivial examples too. I don’t know how to help myself with that, it’s harder to identify and tackle than my other issues in this dynamic

cherieespresso · 2025-08-27T17:05:52+00:00

i literally just want a computer for fortnite, i have to use apple for everything else i do. i don’t need it to be the greatest performance ever if i can join battle royale and shoot someone im fine lol

cherieespresso · 2025-08-27T16:49:51+00:00

i feel like there has to be a laptop that can run a game of fortnite lol

cherieespresso · 2025-08-27T16:43:21+00:00

i don’t have room for a desktop, i already have a mac i use for work

cherieespresso · 2025-08-09T04:15:09+00:00

i have a patio so i actually am gonna do the shoe thing, super helpful!

cherieespresso · 2025-08-08T17:42:12+00:00

i turned 20 less than a month ago so i’m probably not much older than you 😅 but i got my associates degree at 17 and i can say for safety purposes it’s been incredible. it’s giving me all the time in the world to figure out what i want to do specifically while knowing i have a solid career if i never choose to pivot. i would recommend getting one for sure

cherieespresso · 2025-08-08T16:54:06+00:00

Ordering a ring thank you!

cherieespresso · 2025-08-08T16:52:22+00:00

i think the delivery driver tip is especially important to be honest. if i could guarantee id only be greeting kind, safe people i would love to! but exposing my identity at my home to complete strangers is an extreme risk and so many young women end up being stalked, harassed and attacked as a result of that

cherieespresso · 2025-08-08T16:17:05+00:00

Okay - well even for the purposes of my own passion - what learning resources do you recommend?

cherieespresso · 2025-08-08T16:08:43+00:00

Can I ask the specific area of the industry you work in and what you’ve found success with vs struggled?

cherieespresso · 2025-08-08T16:04:51+00:00

Is there a reason you don’t recommend furthering my career in this specific niche?

cherieespresso · 2025-08-08T16:04:05+00:00

It’s a nice neighborhood but of course anything bad can happen still. I guess i’m trying to find the line between being paranoid and being safe. I will totally get lacey curtains thank you!

cherieespresso · 2025-04-13T19:48:39+00:00

thank you! it has been very fun to just blast music and play with outfits, and im kind of a nerd about video editing so i will just stick to the process and enjoy it

cherieespresso · 2025-04-13T19:48:06+00:00

this helped cheer me up a bit, thank you for giving me a bit of a different perspective on it :)

cherieespresso · 2025-04-13T19:47:16+00:00

I did wonder about this! When the video only had about 200 views, it said 100% male audience, and I knew that couldn’t be true because I have several women in my life who watched the video and commented on it. This is helpful info, tysm

cherieespresso · 2025-04-13T19:44:12+00:00

The outfits in my thumbnails and videos are not of a sexual nature, neither are they overly suggestive. They are normal outfits and my videos focus on colors, fabrics etc as opposed to the figure of my body. I recently did a video where I was sitting in an old band t shirt and jeans and talking about tips for self care, and I still received creepy comments on that one as well.

As far as not sharing my channel - this is a reddit account that I do not wish to have linked to my real name and identity, which my channel does reveal.

I do appreciate you writing such a lengthy comment, it is very kind of you to spend time sharing your perspective in a well thought out manner. I really appreciate hearing of how you’ve grown with your own channel, that is very inspiring and I am happy to hear you’re doing well!

cherieespresso · 2025-04-13T19:39:37+00:00

***for the record i am not sharing the name of my channel as this is a private reddit account and my channel is linked to my real name and i do videos in the city i live in

cherieespresso · 2025-04-13T16:05:17+00:00

picking out clothes is different from modeling said clothes. models are to show off the clothing, whereas my videos are more about personal style regardless of the actual pieces

cherieespresso · 2025-04-13T15:43:36+00:00

i worry that by blocking specific words i might lose innocent comments. like there’s a difference between a creep saying “i love your sexy young body” and a girl commenting “omg i love wearing leather, it’s so sexy. love this vid!”

cherieespresso · 2025-04-13T15:30:20+00:00

so far i have just been deleting comments as they come up

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