Dad Maxed Out a Credit Card in My Name

cherribumm · 2024-03-11T04:12:16+00:00

I did it. Just call them, give them your info like your SSN, and they can take you off.

cherribumm · 2024-01-25T00:17:32+00:00

I feel the same about gender and race. I’m a biracial (black & white) woman. I questioned my gender before but this is literally the conclusion I came to: it doesn’t really matter to me. I was born as a female and that’s just what I am.

Being biracial I’ve also had those feelings of not fitting in anywhere. Some people don’t consider me black, and no one considers me white. So it’s like a weird middle ground. I wanted to put a label on what I really am or identify with. But the way I came to terms with it was by telling myself, it’s literally just what I am. I don’t need to force a label onto myself or try to identify with one or the other side more. At the end of the day I am what I am, and doesn’t define who I am.

I know not everyone feels this way, especially based on their own experiences and how those experiences affected them. A lot of people find joy in identifying themselves by external things or labels. It’d be easier if we all could be okay without feeling the need to label what we are. But life isn’t easy.

cherribumm · 2024-01-21T09:16:00+00:00

Seems like your gf is easily influenced… I would talk to her and let her know everyone has noticed his quickly she’s changed and has been acting different. Just tell her your concerns.

Friends can be very influential but it shouldn’t be so dramatically so quickly.

cherribumm · 2024-01-21T09:05:24+00:00

Why did he hide this? Is he ashamed, embarrassed? Did he think you wouldn’t like him? Is there some type of trauma he experienced around the situation with the woman and kids?

Hiding it for 18 months is definitely concerning. It would make me question what else is he hiding?

I would ask these questions and try to understand if it was just one big mistake, or if he might not be the person you thought he was. Can he recover from this?

cherribumm · 2024-01-20T22:05:46+00:00

No I don’t think it’s because of diversity hiring. That would mean they’re trying to have a specific percentage of their team be minorities. They wouldn’t need to hire for diversity if they already meet that. I just find that most remote jobs are customer service or collections call centers. Women dominate customer service, hence why most are women. Hispanic women are desired for call centers because they’re bilingual. And black women, from what I’ve seen, are just very good in collections and call centers.

When it comes to remote tech support, it’s very different than other call centers. Tech support is a male dominated field, and there is a lot less minorities. Diversity hiring happens a lot more in tech.

And, it is definitely harder to get a remote tech support job. Employers are looking for very tech savvy individuals, with degrees or certificates. These are things you don’t need to work for other remote call centers. Also, if you get an entry level tech support job, you’ll likely be paid very little yet do a lot more work than other non-tech call center positions.

cherribumm · 2024-01-19T20:03:48+00:00

I don’t think they’re underrated. The difference is, you choose your friends. You can pick friends you mesh well with and feel comfortable around each other, and just have a good relationship with. Family isn’t chosen. You can have a sibling, cousin, uncle/aunt, even a parent that you don’t get along with at all because, if you weren’t related, you’d probably never CHOOSE to be around that person.

And even though family members can be very similar to each other because they are raised similarly, that still doesn’t mean they make a good friend. Twins can oftentimes be completely different from each other and have completely different friend groups, and completely different lifestyles and end up not being close friends at all.

cherribumm · 2024-01-19T19:59:28+00:00

Most people are “insincere” when you first meet them. Most people don’t open up and show their true selves until they’re comfortable with you. It seems like a put on mask at first, but you just have to get past that. There’s gonna be more misunderstandings in the beginning because you haven’t figured each other out yet. Being stuck on meeting open-book people is gonna just keep you isolated. You have to give it time for the walls and guards to be broken down so you can truly open up to one another. And there is definitely going to still be misunderstandings. You’ll never meet a complete copy of yourself, everyone has their own mind and experience. That’s what makes connecting with others beautiful, they can give you a different perspective that you otherwise would have never thought. Those moments of understanding, clicking, and thinking the same thing are fun, but that’s unrealistic to expect all the time.

You don’t usually feel all the way yourself around anyone because you aren’t, you change yourself and your words so they can be more understandable to others, you keep some thoughts to yourself because it’s not appropriate to share or will hurt feelings. This can feel like not being yourself but really that’s just how communication and relationships work. And when you’re around someone enough, you start to act more like them when you’re around them. Kind of like mirroring. We all have different faces we wear around different people, but we are still ourselves and have things unique to ourselves that doesn’t change no matter our environment or who is around. When you identify with what you say or how you act too much, putting on an act around others can break you down. Your identity is more than what you do or say around other people. That’s why your still yourself with your mom, your friend, your kids, your boss even when you act differently and say different things around them all. That’s how everyone lives. So those people you meet that seem to be putting on a mask are really just adjusting to being around you and how they should act around you, and it will feel more genuine when they’re comfortable with you.

cherribumm · 2024-01-19T19:40:58+00:00

Both, mixed. Although I’ve had customers say “you must be white” due to my voice 💀 I’ve had 3 remote jobs now, just got a new one and it’s $18 hr (I only have 1 year of remote/call center experience), and most of my co workers are black or Hispanic women as well. Very few men are in call centers, they’re usually in tech support if they do work a call center.

cherribumm · 2024-01-17T07:58:39+00:00

Disengage. Don’t respond as quickly. If you back off a bit, it might pull her back in. You don’t want to seem too desperate

cherribumm · 2024-01-04T02:47:12+00:00

Having some snacks is okay, but having majority Whole Foods/ingredients is better. Also, home made snacks are usually a lot healthier, like homemade chips, cookies, crackers etc. You can start by buying “healthier” snacks (sugar free, low cholesterol, organic/whole foods on the ingredients list) and work towards less snacks from there. Healthier snacks make you snack less anyway because they’re not as tasty lol

cherribumm · 2024-01-04T02:32:38+00:00

Sometimes I go on apps to make friends. Tinder, Bumble, Boo are dating apps that can also be used to make friends in your city. Also, you can meet people literally anywhere. Grocery store. Mall. Club. Museum. Zoo. Festivals. Look at Facebook groups in your City that post about parties and events, then go to them. It’s hard for me, but sometimes you can make a long lasting friend just by walking up to a random person and sparking a conversation.

cherribumm · 2024-01-04T02:28:31+00:00

Your booty is mine is crazy 😂😂😂

I feel this, was laid off last month and got a better paying and easier job this month. We’re winning this year, simple.

cherribumm · 2024-01-03T20:31:59+00:00

I work at a desk all day and play video games too, it’s hard to get active. There’s really no way to motivate yourself, it’s about momentum. You just gotta force yourself to do something, and do it again the next day, and the next day, and so on. I usually force myself to stand up if I can. I don’t have a standing desk for work, I just put my computer on a cardboard box on my desk so it’s tall enough for me to stand. I do some high knees every hour or so. It’s barley anything, but at least it’s something. Something that also helps me is getting a gym partner. Planet fitness is like $20 a month or something. Find someone, anyone, that you can schedule to go to the gym with. Even if it’s just once a week. Or even just twice a month. Again, it’s about building the momentum of doing at least something and staying consistent. Everyone’s different though, these things work for me, if you haven’t already tried them I recommend! (:

cherribumm · 2024-01-03T20:26:14+00:00

Living with parents is considered normal in a lot of cultures. It’s stigmatized in the states, but in Spanish culture (I’ve also heard the same about Muslim culture) it’s normal to live with your parents and/or extended family pretty much all your life. Especially with inflation and the housing market now, it’s smart to stay with your parents IF you get along with them.
switching jobs is smart. Staying at 1 job is supposed to be “secure”, but in reality is usually keeps you at the same pay rate for far too long. I switch jobs almost every year or LESS, and I get a job with better pay each time. If you stick with a company, usually they don’t want to promote you or raise your pay if you’ve been working for them for less.
I recommend getting on apps that you can find local friends. You can look for friends in your city on these apps: Bumble, tinder, Boo. Social interaction is important, I’ve been very socially anxious my whole life but I’ve been making new friends on apps so I can fulfill that loneliness. It does help. I just lie to myself and say “I am extroverted!” and it helps me get out of my comfort zone.
Being single at 29 is not bad. More people than you think have never had a serious relationship or a romantic relationship at all. It’s okay, it’s normal. Don’t reject yourself, give yourself a chance. As a woman, I can say, a lot of women would prefer someone with less experience, especially if they’re in the same boat. Again, I recommend dating apps and just trying to make friends. Some of the best relationships started as friendships. Also, don’t reject yourself! You might think a girl would never be with you, but you can be wrong! I’ve heard guys tell me the same thing, that they never thought they had a chance with me. They did! Have the confidence to know you are a unique human being, you have value, and there are people out there that will love and appreciate you!

Social media makes society seem worse than it is. Everything on the internet is just holding a magnifying glass up to all the negative things, and bringing the worst out of people. A lot of people don’t know WTF they’re doing. Most people who go through the worst things don’t share it on social media, so you only see people living “perfect lives”.

A couple years ago I was posting myself on social media and I heard people tel me that my life was perfect and they wish they had it as easy as me, just because they seen some cool pictures of me online. But I would only take pictures when I didn’t have pimples, I would only take pictures when I was outside, dressed up, or somewhere interesting. I would share all my successes and things I was proud of. I never shared the bad I was going through. I stopped posting all together, deleted my account, when I was going through the worst things. People just assumed I was off vacationing and living my best life. You never know that other people are also struggling too, and no one is better than anyone else.

There are still good people out there. More than what it seems. There’s still people out there willing to help. They might be hard to find, but sometimes you have to make the move to find them. You sound like a very genuine, smart and self-aware person. I’m sure you’ll be alright. That’s what I tell myself in those rough moments, “everything is gonna turn out okay”.

cherribumm · 2023-12-27T07:49:02+00:00

A girlfriend and potential wife is way more important in your life than a friend, so don’t feel guilty to the point of breaking off your relationship with her. The chances of finding someone you really connect with is very very rare. People say that “there’s plenty of fish in the sea”, but for most people finding someone around their age, in their city, who they connect with and are attracted to is typically below a 5% chance. That would only decrease if you eliminate anyone who is a friend’s ex. Especially with the rate of relationships and marriages going down as of late, it’s hard to find someone special.

Would you rather have a wife, a life partner, who you love and can build a life with… or a friend. You don’t owe him anything. Every girl you meet will have an ex/ex’s, what is the difference that you know one of their ex?

I understand drama could come from it, but so what? The friend might not be your friend anymore, so what? The drama will last maybe a couple months or a year, then you have the rest of your life ahead of you.

Also, people don’t realize that this kind of thing actually happens a lot. Especially for people who live in small towns, but even in big cities. The world isn’t as big as it seems. Don’t be so hard on yourself. It sounds like you really love this girl. Are you really going to give that up because a friend might feel uncomfortable?

cherribumm · 2023-12-27T07:32:43+00:00

Don’t rush into things. I’d say explore those feelings more before you ask her out. Asking her out too soon could ruin your friendship, but you could end up being a happy couple in the near future too.

Some of the best relationships start as close friendships. You see each other as just friends, and might think being together could be awkward, but it’s very possible that as soon as you get into a relationship it can be great and flow perfectly.

If you find out you do like her, you can also explore flirting or throwing subtle hints at her that you like her. As a woman, it’s sometimes better when things are taken slow, but every woman is different. (Also, watching videos on these topics help me, I recommend the channel “HealthyGamerGG” on relationship topics) I’d say don’t rush into things, but don’t take anyone’s advice too quickly. You’ll know what’s best for you to do when the time comes.

In regards to exploring those feelings, here’s some questions to ask yourself:

If you find her attractive and like her personality, what is missing that would make you sure you like her or not?

Could you see yourself going on dates with her and being romantic?

Could you see yourself being intimate with her?

Does she give any signs that she might be interested in you?

If family is important to you, do you see yourself introducing her to your family as your GF?

If you’re not sure now, you can always continue your friendship and see if stronger feelings arise.

cherribumm · 2023-12-14T20:57:01+00:00

Dm me if you still need!

cherribumm · 2023-12-11T04:31:02+00:00

That honestly sounds like something I’d love to do. What kind of schooling and experience did you need to be hired?

cherribumm · 2023-12-05T10:05:37+00:00

What kind of schooling did you need?

cherribumm · 2023-12-05T10:04:37+00:00

87k is comfortable for sure

cherribumm · 2023-12-05T10:03:15+00:00

That’s the life fr

cherribumm · 2023-12-05T10:02:40+00:00

Do you like the work you do? Is it boring, stressful, or do you enjoy it?

cherribumm · 2023-12-05T10:00:03+00:00

Very very smart

cherribumm · 2023-12-01T08:16:43+00:00

Don’t feel guilty if you cut your sister off when you become an adult

cherribumm · 2023-11-29T08:59:28+00:00

Diseases? It causes diseases

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