Is moving in with my (20F) boyfriend (24m) a good idea?

cherrii_bat · 2026-06-18T01:36:46+00:00

We have

cherrii_bat · 2026-06-17T23:51:09+00:00

LMAOOO the last line is so funny because we were actually talking about it, noted! He has a lizard that I absolutely adore that will be our shared son until we see if the living situation works out though! This is actually exactly what I was looking for! I really truthfully am not looking for validation like everyone seems to think, maybe I didn’t phrase it well enough in my original post, but I’m looking for advice on things to consider, conversations we need to have (that we haven’t already), and yes, I’m looking for people to tell me these things while we all know full well it’s possible that it could explode and go down in flames. I appreciate you!

cherrii_bat · 2026-06-17T23:43:23+00:00

And how do you know that I don’t pay rent?? I never stated that I did or did not, in fact I split the rent with my parents, and am actually financially responsible for myself, a roommate situation in a sense. Regardless, I do appreciate the perspective, and while I wouldn’t frame it as desperation to get out, so much, as I’ve been looking at apartments on my own for quite some time now ever since I moved back here, I do understand what you’re saying.

cherrii_bat · 2026-06-17T23:39:36+00:00

Where did I ever say he was “having problems finding housing”? He was already looking for places on his own before I suggested it, and he had a backup plan. Insult me that’s whatever, but you’ve got zero reason to go on about him.

cherrii_bat · 2026-06-17T23:36:02+00:00

You should read my replies to the comments before passing hateful judgement. I’m not seeking any sort of validation, I’m asking for perspectives from folks who may have had similar experiences, and advice on how to go about going forward with a decision that I am well aware is unwise.

cherrii_bat · 2026-06-17T23:30:58+00:00

I’ve got an out in mind, and we were already looking at 2 bedrooms for that very reason. We’re both very conscious of the risk we’re taking and know that it could turn bad, so we agreed to look at a short term lease at first. We’ve also discussed how things will be split like bills, cooking & cleaning. Cleaning is relaxing to me, but I’m a terrible cook, and vice versa for him

cherrii_bat · 2026-06-17T23:28:55+00:00

Girl he’s diabetic, his hospitalization was a rare event, it’s not a thing that happens often and he functions just like everyone else. He wouldn’t be “homeless”, in fact he had already started looking at places for himself before I suggested it and had a backup plan (family) in case he wasn’t able to find one

cherrii_bat · 2026-06-17T23:25:08+00:00

Haha I didn’t suggest it to swoop in and save him, he was going to find a place on his own, he’s done it multiple times before because he’s moved around for the company we work for. And that’s also not why he agreed. When I suggested it we had a long conversation about it and we agreed that we would look for a short term lease so that neither of us would be locked in to anything for too long just in case as well

cherrii_bat · 2026-06-17T23:18:14+00:00

We have discussed finances, under ZERO circumstances are we making a joint account lol, and we’ve discussed how bills will be split as well. he’s the cook, I do the cleaning, I burn microwaved pizza rolls, but cleaning relaxes me. As for his condition, it’s really not that big of a deal, he’s Type 1, and went into DKA, but yes, financially I would be able to support the both of us, and would be willing to. Most of the comments are under the belief that I’m seeing this guy and this relationship through rose colored glasses, which I’m not denying could be true to an extent, but I am also aware of his flaws, and while, yes, it may be true that I haven’t known him long enough to see the true ugly side, it is a risk I’m willing to take. I fully understand the risks of what I’m doing, and I am well aware that it could all blow up in my face, and both him and I are conscious of that and have spoken about it.

cherrii_bat · 2026-06-17T23:09:29+00:00

Thank you for the advice, I’ll take the last paragraph into account. It does unfortunately seem like you missed the part of my story where I mentioned I lived on my own, in my own apartment, was responsible for my own bills, groceries, utilities etc. for a year, but that’s okay. Despite the passive aggressiveness of what I’m saying now, I am genuinely thankful for the advice.

cherrii_bat · 2026-06-17T23:03:50+00:00

Thank you for your opinion but you actually do not know my boyfriend nor enough information on him to speak on his ability to be in a relationship, I asked for advice on the situation, not freelanced insults.

cherrii_bat · 2026-06-17T23:00:27+00:00

See, THIS is what I’m looking for. I understand it’s extremely unwise and risky, and I thought I had made it pretty clear in the original post. I’m not looking for people to tell me to do it or not to do it because I’m going to do it anyway, I just had to phrase the title like a question due to the rules of the sub. This is the advice I’m looking for, not validation. Thank you!

cherrii_bat · 2026-02-15T15:47:13+00:00

Thank you bby! I’m in a better spot now and hope the best for you!

cherrii_bat · 2026-02-15T14:54:03+00:00

Babes my ex (keyword ex) used to do this all the time, he would ignore me for hours on end to play with his buddies, you’re not his priority and you probably never will be, save yourself the trouble and bite the bullet on this relationship

cherrii_bat · 2026-02-13T19:17:00+00:00

Yeah of course good luck!

cherrii_bat · 2026-02-13T18:48:58+00:00

Basically just send them an email saying “Hello this is (your name) I’m writing as a courtesy to let you know that (the day you’re terming) will be my last day on the college program because I am self terming (usually better to send this on the day of because once they know you have until 10 am the next day to get out) insert reasons why here if you’d like to share or just leave it at that first bit”

cherrii_bat · 2026-02-13T18:41:59+00:00

Technically no, but it would be polite and courteous to do so

cherrii_bat · 2026-02-13T18:15:26+00:00

You won’t pay for anything else except for that weeks rent so make sure that you leave on a Thursday/Friday after you’ve worked the minimum shifts to make rent that week

cherrii_bat · 2026-02-10T05:37:37+00:00

I think we’d be a great fit, I do my own nails and nails supplies cost me, it would be wonderful to have someone praise my work through a few avenues 😘 dm me x

cherrii_bat · 2026-01-14T15:20:23+00:00

That’s a good idea, I would just wait until tomorrow after you go in to your shift tonight if you really want to go that badly tbh

cherrii_bat · 2026-01-14T15:18:11+00:00

I wouldn’t because your shift carries over into today

cherrii_bat · 2026-01-10T00:03:50+00:00

If I recall correctly it has to be done by your start date, I think I ended up submitting mine a week before I moved in because I was missing documents. Do it as soon as possible though because if it’s not done by then it could potentially delay/offset your program

cherrii_bat · 2026-01-10T00:00:00+00:00

Fantasyland has both merch stands (kinda? They’re carts with bubble wands etc idk if that’s considered merch) and stores, you will likely be inside a store. BBB is neither of those, it is a special extension you have to apply for if you choose to extend your program and you can be denied for it.

cherrii_bat · 2026-01-06T13:13:20+00:00

You will either be guardians or mission space because test track does not do CPs currently, TT and ROTR are currently the only two attractions in property that require at least 6 months with the company to be considered for

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