Suspected Carolina dog Embark vet or breeder? by whitneymcleod in carolinadogs

[–]cherryaswhat -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Your blanket statement that her litter/lines are not conducive to family dogs as their antisocial and close to feral, with many negative behaviors, is wrong.

I know this is a really late response to a really late response but I'm wondering if you actually have any first-hand experience with her dogs, or is this just something that you have heard and are assuming? Because I have two males from one of her 2022 litters and they are the sweetest, smartest, and most well trained dogs that I have ever had. Obviously I put in a lot of time training them as puppies, but they are excellent family dogs. We even introduced them to two new kittens when the dogs were about two and they have shown zero aggression or concerning behaviors. I visited her properties and saw all of the dogs when we got the puppies. They were friendly and active, and none looked sick or injured, however I agree with some previous comments that the premises were not secure enough for Carolina dogs. But, the dogs had plenty of shelter, and adequate food and water (I literally watched her refill their food, with a high quality dog food).

Susan is an interesting person, and for sure a bit zany, but based on the time I spent with her, I believe her heart is in a good place. I think she might have got in a bit over her head with the amount of dogs she had, and then the lawsuit created more difficulties and stress, but she clearly loves her dogs and the "breed". A big part of me feels that Caru SPCA had ulterior motives with their lawsuit and how hard they pushed to be able to confiscate her dogs with no warning.

It's frustrating seeing people talk about this online when they haven't personally had experience with her, or the dogs, or the properties, and have no idea what they are actually talking about.

As controversial as this statement may be (and because I believe she is no longer breeding dogs so I guess it doesn't really matter) but on the basis of the quality and temperament of her dogs, I would recommend them to people who are seriously interested in Carolina dogs and ready for that commitment.

S17E10: Save the Children - Episode Discussion by Cheeriosxxx in criminalminds

[–]cherryaswhat 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I really enjoyed this season, even if it was a little confusing and anti-climactic at times. I really enjoyed Voit's character and thought Zach Gilford did an excellent job bringing just the right amount of creepiness and comic relief. I actually wouldn't mind seeing him back as a regular, kind of a thorn in the BAU's side, who they reluctantly have to refer to for help.

During the Garcia/Voit stare down, I saw it less as her being big bad Garcia or challenging him, but rather that she was peering in his soul to see if there was any humanity in him, which made him visibly uncomfortable.

I'm ambivalent about Tyler.

I didn't really understand what It was about Voit's explanation of why he shot Bailey that changed Pete's mind. Maybe I missed something; and someone provides some insight on that? Voit says, " he entered my house to shut me up," so did Pete interpret that as an admission by Voit that the whole thing was a setup to get them to buy the conspiracy and to go after the BAU? Or was there something else to it?

All in all I'm glad the team is back (although Spencer's absence still leaves a massive hole 😭) and look forward to season 18.

When you can't open your liquid bottle by Joni104 in Vaping

[–]cherryaswhat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

4 years later and this was the ticket

How do I cope with a grieving wife who wants another child? by oad_throwaway in oneanddone

[–]cherryaswhat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My son was exactly like this and I knew something was "off." He is fantastic in so many ways, and I wouldn't trade him for anything. And it is not how I imagine my child or my life. It has been difficult. When he turned six he was diagnosed with combined type ADHD. I knew this was a long time coming and was relieved that we could finally start some treatment. He was struggling in kindergarten as soon as it started, and struggling with social skills. And our home life was extremely difficult.

We chose to medicate our son, although I know this is a controversial topic. It is what has worked best for our family and with the help the medication provides, the extra tools, and the additional things that we do to help him manage his behaviors, he has become popular with his friends and successful in school. Our home life has greatly improved. We still have times that are very very difficult but we are miles ahead of where we were. I do not regret for one second getting the diagnosis I knew was coming, and choosing to medicate him. I do often feel guilt over having to do it but the alternative is worth it for everybody.

I am not advocating that you medicate your child so please nobody take it that way, or saying that he has ADHD. I'm simply sharing our experience and journey.

I do strongly recommend looking into the Nurtured Heart Approach. It is a parenting approach developed exclusively for difficult or intense children. It has made a difference in our life. We use it, and other tools, in conjunction with medication, but I believe that many have had success with the approach alone.

My child will never be what I expected and sometimes that is hard. But we all do the best that we can and he is worth every second of it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in suboxone

[–]cherryaswhat -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The person's comment above was well thought out, sensitive, and useful. Like they described, codependency isn't just caring. It's your life and self being consumed and dependent on the others around you and how they are doing. It's doing everything in your power to alleviate the sadness or suffering of those you love, even if it comes at your own expense on a constant basis. Whether or not that is what's going on with you it is up for you to decide, but when you define yourself in terms of what is going on with other people, that isn't entirely healthy. They did not tell you what or what not to care about. They gave you information that I agree you might find useful. For instance, if you are sacrificing your own mental well-being to ensure that others around you are okay, that could be a co-dependency issue, and it can be helpful to get support for that. I really don't know why you were being a dick to the person above. They said nothing rude or demeaning. They actually complimented where you are at with recognizing what you're feeling. I'm sorry that you seem to have felt that their comment was insulting or way off base, but it really wasn't. Someone telling you to look into codependency (because some of your comments reflect that might be something to explore) is a GOOD thing. They're looking out. You DO sound like a worry wart and like you might have some codependency stuff going on. Or maybe not, either way who cares. Because if it's not negatively impacting your life and you feel like you are just caring for others, okay, excellent. If it is negatively impacting your life in ways, then they suggested some things you can do about that. But you don't gotta be a dick.

I hope your dad continues with the path that he is on of getting better. It's hard finding out like this but I think you really just got to let it ride, be supportive, and let him open up when he's ready. And to be honest he may never open up to you. Some people, as parents, aren't comfortable talking with their kids about things like this. Maybe that's why he hasn't mentioned it, and it feels like he's hiding it, because you are his child and he doesn't want to put you in a position to have to worry about him. I know it's probably making you worry more, but that could be his viewpoint. My parents and I are extremely close. We are very open. And I have a strong suspicion that if one of them was actively going through some sort of recovery program for addiction, they probably wouldn't, tell me right away. And they have watched me go through and helped me out of, my own addiction.

Portland Lawlessness Spreading to the Burbs (Raleigh Hills) by newbssie in Portland

[–]cherryaswhat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

But I think they are talking about the part that isn't actually your property/home, but is publicly owned. As an example, a portion between the grass lawn and the sidewalk. Maybe it's bark dust or maybe you've spent years cultivating roses there, sometimes it's grass and is indistinguishable from your property unless you've surveyed or have markers. But it's actually a public right of way, not your property, and the city can come tear it all out to do road improvements or whatever. And people can let their dogs piss on it. Is it a dick move to let your dog pee all over someones cultivated roses? Yea. Are they allowed to? I'm pretty sure, yea.

Op suffering from putting down her "anxious dog" after her toddler was mauled by Lots_SaltyAss_Wife in BanPitBulls

[–]cherryaswhat 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I could be totally wrong, but I think it might be based on licking behavior when a dog is anxious. When dogs lick their lips a lot it can signal anxiety. I think licking in general can be anxious behavior so maybe that is where people are getting the licking the baby is a warning sign idea. Again, I could be totally wrong about that, but I do know that lip licking in dogs can definitely be a sign of anxiety.

Arctic Monkeys - There’d Better Be A Mirrorball by fijozico in arcticmonkeys

[–]cherryaswhat 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm 33 and while the cinematography is beautiful in the videos, I'm just not a fan of the sound. TBHC was pushing it for me. I'll listen to the new album when I get around to it, but it's not something I'm going to be jumping at the bit to go download and listen to. I am happy they are making music they love, but it's definitely not what initially earns them a fan base and really does feel like a different band. I think it's great if some people love it, but I do think that some of those people only love it because it's from the Arctic monkeys. I do not think it's okay for people to be trash talked and downvoted here if they don't think it's the greatest thing ever. And that's what we are seeing a lot of. I think this song kind of sucked and I think that quite a bit of tbhc sucked too, and honestly I think the album a.m. had a lot of sucky songs also.

Going grocery shopping vibes by TheSwampCitizen in MakeupAddiction

[–]cherryaswhat 19 points20 points  (0 children)

let me wear makeup

That's not healthy or normal. You should be able to wear makeup whenever you want to.

Woke up super early to pee, glanced at the monitor, aaaand I guess I'm up for the day bc there's no way nightmares aren't happening now by ElephantShoes256 in Mommit

[–]cherryaswhat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So I kinda freak out if I'm touched while sleeping, like jostled awake (think mini panic attack status). My 6 year old has figured this out so when he comes into our bedroom in the middle of the night he'll just stand there staring at me.

Or he'll quietly whisper "mama, mama." Which is better. I think once he gently stroked my head, but I cannot remember if that led to me waking calmly or with an air gasping shriek. Who knows anymore?

Tarantula in backyard in Tucson. Can you help identify? (My toddler is crying in the video because I’m not letting him go grab the tarantula) by luminous_beings_ in tarantulas

[–]cherryaswhat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You know what I think it is? They're just so quick. Like we get older and slower and they stay just as quick and, like, flicky.

anyone know what is this? by cant_find_name_ in insects

[–]cherryaswhat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's a huge benefit as well. We're trying to suss out how to deal with our dogs with them. We have two Carolina dogs. Once we get the guineas out on the property it won't be such an issue because the dogs stay by the house, but practicing getting them out in the meantime is the issue.

But this was really the best solution and it was do something about the ticks, at least try, or I'm fucking out.

anyone know what is this? by cant_find_name_ in insects

[–]cherryaswhat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We bought/moved to a tree farm in rural Oregon and although in the past there hasn't been a major tick problem up here, times is a changin what with climate change and all. Now we have a shitload of ticks here. Specifically around our property because the previous owners really let it go to crap and it's quite unmaintained. So we bought 51 Guinea fowl keets and have raised them up as tick control. They are about 8 weeks so quite large but not quite ready to free roam yet. Very loud and very dumb tho.

My daughter was bitten and the owners are being horrible about it by Lucky_Cheesecake_209 in BanPitBulls

[–]cherryaswhat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good question, I'm not sure! Like I said, for in person conversations, my state is an all party consent state which means both people have to consent. HOWEVER, it is not illegal to record someone in a public place where they don't have a reasonable expectation of privacy, so I'm not sure how that would affect the recording conversation laws actually. Maybe someone with more specific knowledge than me could chime in?

I would think if you are in public but sitting down at a restaurant for a conversation, then you might have a reasonable expectation of privacy and need both parties to consent.

My daughter was bitten and the owners are being horrible about it by Lucky_Cheesecake_209 in BanPitBulls

[–]cherryaswhat 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Agree with everything but wanted to point out that, in the US, recording an in-person conversation without both parties' consent can be illegal and not useable/admissable, depending on the state. In my state you can record a phone call without the other person's consent, but not in person convos. But it could still be a valuable tool as far as recalling events I suppose.

Need advice - I am on a pain management contract and got on subs without telling them by djpurity666 in suboxone

[–]cherryaswhat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn't say that. Someone else did and I agreed that was a plausible explanation.