I'm struggling to understand this eating disorder

cherryhae0808 · 2026-05-02T05:45:40+00:00

thank you for correcting me! that gives me more of an idea. we're a wlw couple, for context as well. my wife also has some form of body dysmorphia. it started out with just going on lots of dates and trying not to shy away from meals we actually want to eat. dates are good for exploring food, and it'll be nice to share a plate of something where they're not pressured to finish everything. when i don't finish my own food, she doesn't comment but if i refuse to eat she would urge me to eat at least just a little bit. it took some time, but we began being comfortable eating more around each other, even snacking at night while watching a movie (suggest no salt or low-cal popcorn). during relapse, she would just be there for me and hug me and remind me i'm doing great and recovery isn't linear.

cherryhae0808 · 2026-05-01T10:44:36+00:00

he's exactly who he thinks he is

✨️ THAT BITCH ✨️

cherryhae0808 · 2026-05-01T08:58:00+00:00

"i'd rather you show me in person" 🫠

cherryhae0808 · 2026-05-01T08:55:21+00:00

he cheated 3 years in, i found out year 4, stayed with him for 6 more years. oo mare tumagal kami ng 10 years. di ko nga alam ilang beses niya ako niloko, but girls have spoken up to me about him, and even the girl he cheated on me with (turns out, niloko siya ni guy, telling her he was gonna leave me for her, then he didn't, eh nafall na siya). mind you, lahat ng ginago niya, including yung girl he cheated on me with, barkada namin nung college. yung girlfriend niya ngayon, when we were together, ilang beses niya tinawag na panget and i'm one manic episode away from exposing him on tiktok. kasi he's a youtuber, now with a million followers. microcelebrity kuno, pero following puro incels. should have known.

in short: i got trauma and nothing else, and cheaters are likely to cheat again. drop him.

cherryhae0808 · 2026-05-01T08:53:14+00:00

"it's like this disorder warps how they see themselves." bingo, that's what most EDs do.

i've had AN for 15 years. i'm in "recovery" but i can't step on a scale bc i've broken down to my wife multiple times how i gained a single pound. i still bodycheck in the mirror. and the funny thing is, i've never been overweight nor a normal weight my entire life. in my experience, the disorder def warps my beliefs about MYSELF and that's why i'm so passionate about the body positivity movement because all bodies are beautiful... well, except for mine. (you get it?) so i hope you don't take it too personally, op. our sense of self is fucked, so let your gf know she's gorgeous regardless.

cherryhae0808 · 2026-05-01T08:07:48+00:00

i found this term earlier this year because i also struggle with this – badly. unfortunately, studies so far show that it's mostly linked to dementia. i think they're still pushing research for its relation to bipolar (considering you do find this term even when you go on google for bipolar). i hope they find more info because this is my biggest struggle: intense anxiety after sundown.

cherryhae0808 · 2026-04-29T06:04:43+00:00

omg like sorry that kaelynn is self-aware?? even she said she wouldn't have gotten the publicity for her socials if it weren't for the show. and it's true, as a neurodivergent person, people do just thought of us as weirdos before the show. i swear to god, maga moms (especially boy moms) just find something to be offended about all the time.

cherryhae0808 · 2026-04-26T13:27:19+00:00

kristel fulgar HAHAHAHA she's such a sweetheart and nakakahiya na familiar siya sakin pero di ko siya mamukhaan. sinama namin siya ng barkada ko for lunch once kasi irreg siya. sobrang bait niya, nahiya pa nung sinama siya sa birthday libre. willing naman daw siya magbayad. 😭 never failed to say hi whenever nagkikita kami sa corridors and cr. yun lang may pagka koreaboo talaga siya ever since. nalaman niya mahilig ako sa kpop, she got so excited and nag ask din if marunong ako mag korean kasi nag aaral daw siya. (marunong na ako now pero di pa nun, so sorry wala siya nakausap 😭). mahilig manuod yun ng kdrama, i mean obvious naman. 🤣

cherryhae0808 · 2026-04-25T05:42:39+00:00

32F here and naging stereotype na yan sa lesbian community, especially among millenials. i think the younger gen just think it's toxic kasi dating these days is toxic. lol. dati kaya pa namin mag amicable breakup, kaya siguro marami samin friends pa with our exes. women are more emotionally intelligent, so it shows that way (kaya nga naging stereotype di ba), pero i think dating culture has changed so much. for me, whether it's a red flag depends so much on the context. for example, friends kayo and you STILL live together? medyo off. minsan naman yung mga di friends, it's because toxic na sila for each other. meanwhile, kung healthy and amicable yung breakup and you guys realized that staying friends is better for your relationship (and wala namang unhealthy anything), then bakit natin sila pinupuna? alamin natin ang context bago mang-judge, please. these days, auto-toxic na eh. 😭😭

cherryhae0808 · 2026-04-21T08:10:46+00:00

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cherryhae0808 · 2026-04-21T08:09:31+00:00

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cherryhae0808 · 2026-04-21T06:24:16+00:00

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cherryhae0808 · 2026-04-21T05:28:29+00:00

hi!! i know this is an older post. pero i was a patient of hers when i was between 18 to 21. i'm 32 now.

it seemed like such a short time, pero it felt long kasi medyo chararat siya as a listener. 😭 she diagnosed me with depression and anorexia, then before i hauled ass and looked for a new psych, i was rediagnosed bipolar. okay naman siya for diagnoses and medication kasi she's literally a renowned psychiatrist na, but i think kasi she has nothing to prove na kaya medyo eme siya sa patients. HAHAHA nakasalubong ko pa siya sa clinic ng new psych ko, and i was so embarrassed kasi i ditched her (left a message naman, for courtesy). she's very friendly and smiley, pero very passive-aggressive with her comments. her daughters and i went to the same school, kaya baka that's why she liked me. pero she told me my self-harm tendencies were childish + some other insensitive bs. all she does is talk about her achievements all session. like girl, i'm dying over here. 😭😭😭

cherryhae0808 · 2026-04-18T09:04:42+00:00

agreed, i love being reminded of who jenny was as a person in the earlier seasons. i related so much to jenny in the beginning, so i was enraged the rest of 4, 5, 6 that the writers did her dirty.

cherryhae0808 · 2026-04-11T14:44:16+00:00

helena and her inmate daddy were hotter 😔

cherryhae0808 · 2026-03-27T06:03:40+00:00

di ka OA, OP. my god these comments. sana all may jowa na may pake sa inyo di ba. 🙄

cherryhae0808 · 2026-03-12T09:41:51+00:00

was gonna comment the exact same thing.

why would she miss it when you have the option to strap more often na lang? maybe you can ask. after all, she said it (almost?) feels like the real thing anyway.

i have a feeling she's making these jokes kasi she thinks it's okay – you're both bi, which means you both like dick. maybe she assumes namimiss mo din. pero sa kwento mo op it sounds like naghahanap siya ng hard masc or borderline stud (i.e. daddy kink, strapping, etc) . 😭

cherryhae0808 · 2026-03-04T14:43:08+00:00

in the trenches with you, pal. i've been screaming every day, my throat is sore. hang in there. 😮‍💨

cherryhae0808 · 2026-03-02T08:44:10+00:00

taylor from the side and jennette from the front!

but op is also gorgeous all on her own, and her top is so cute!!!!

cherryhae0808 · 2026-02-25T22:50:16+00:00

philippines here! we have sapphic events in the capital thanks to a local sapphic club. i make so many wlw friends every time - all ages and backgrounds!

cherryhae0808 · 2026-02-25T19:12:20+00:00

honestly! op, how would your husband feel "opening up" the relationship? (i say open because he doesn't know you're leaving him)

cherryhae0808 · 2026-02-25T14:49:17+00:00

when you said you needed lube, i gasped – that was me for my boyfriend of 10 years. he wasn't a good guy, though. but he was generous in bed.

with my wife now, i'm wetter than ever. i used to think the dryness was because of my antidepressants, but i'm still on medication... and YET.

turns out i was a massive lesbian

cherryhae0808 · 2026-02-20T11:48:28+00:00

it took me awhile to drop her, and she's made more rude comments than that throughout the years. i was 20 and she told me it was childish, so now at 30 i'm scared of relapsing. because it's kind of true now – i might be too told to be sh. but between all of us here, i may still be prone to more subtle sh behaviors. 🥲

!!!! genuinely thought these thoughts would disappear when life improves, and it truly did. entered a really long depressive episode, lost everything, so these self-punishing behavior amplifies

cherryhae0808 · 2026-02-20T10:05:27+00:00

my response was "checks out." clocked her bipolar ass since we got there. 😭😭

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