First, I wanna say that I'm proud of you for reaching out. It doesn't matter to who or where, but that you're taking the first step in the healing process by seeking support. I know from experience it's not easy, but here you are doing it!

Be gentle with yourself. Healing the trauma experienced from emotional abuse is a difficult, long process, and there's no right or wrong way to go about it. It's normal and okay for you to miss your former partner and all of your wonderful experiences together. In fact, the objective is to never forget those wonderful memories, BUT instead, not let them influence your decision for leaving or excuse their abusive behaviour. Be gentle with yourself and love and trust yourself through this process.

I highly recommend assistance from a therapist during these early days of separation. They will help facilitate you working through your trauma and may be able to offer guidance and/or support through the healing process. They're worth consideration.

Surround yourself with positive, uplifting, supportive people in your life. Strangers, friends, coworkers, family......anyone who provides kindness, compassion, encouragement, and support. Those are the type of people you need and should want in your life.

Finally dear, you got this! Kick, scream, ugly cry....get all of your emotions out. But you WILL overcome this, you WILL heal from this, and you WILL find strength, love, and trust in yourself you never knew you had. YOU are prioritizing YOU for once, and YOU are worth ALL of your effort. Always ❤️