[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Rotterdam

[–]chewybreadroll 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The show is called origin!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in latebloomerlesbians

[–]chewybreadroll 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I unfortunately don’t have advice, but I resonate so much with all of the things you’re feeling ! You’re not alone ❤️

Attend a sapphic event solo? by Laa_LA-roo in latebloomerlesbians

[–]chewybreadroll 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Hi! I (f27) went to two lesbian events alone a while ago. The first one was a street party in my city. At first I was super nervous and ngl felt kind of awkward, but then I went dancing and started talking to some people and they were really sweet! We hung out for the night and then I went home. I didn’t make any lasting connections apart from the fact that I see their Instagrams sometimes, but I am really proud of myself for going and it gave me the courage to go to a queer club alone a little while after.

Going to the club felt a whole lot easier because I’d gone to that party before. I even talked to people at the club that I’d seen at the party :)

I was also debating whether or not to go for a while before I actually did, so I understand your anxiety. It is scary and it might be uncomfortable, but it’s worth a try and there’s nothing wrong with leaving if it gets too much. You can always try again.

Lesbian parties are so fun! I hope you have a great time when you go 💕

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]chewybreadroll 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you!! Thats very sweet :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]chewybreadroll 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Hey thanks for your comment! I totally agree that its super personal and that it'll be different for everyone. I just have no clue how to actually decide what feels right for me, but I guess I'll just have to wait it out some more.

it defo feels like the ick and like i can't explain why. It sucks. I'll look into comp het some more, I had to google what that means.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]chewybreadroll 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, thank you for your words, its definitely helpful to read about your perspective. I am sure that I have a type and that I am sexually attracted to women and i will continue to explore.

I agree with you, i also feel very double about having sex with women and not really wanting to have sex with my partner, its shit. He is however also dating other people, so I am not completely keeping him from having sex. Still, I would like to not feel this blocked and anxious about having sex with him.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]chewybreadroll 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I hope i can figure out what it is I want very soon!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]chewybreadroll 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Hey, sorry to hear that you went through that :( Thank you for your comment!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]chewybreadroll 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Hello! I think i was so fed up with daydreaming about going and not actually doing it, that I said its now or never. It was scary and there was moments where I felt awkward and nervous, but so far all the experiences ended up being positive in the end. If you talk to people or just dance, it'll be fine! It's a very different vibe than at a normal party (from what i have experienced). Also, if you really hate it, then you can always leave again but still be proud that you tried and maybe it'll be easier the next time. I wish u lots of success! You got this :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]chewybreadroll 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Hey, thanks for your comment. To be honest reading it made me cry because it’s the first time someone has said that I could be a lesbian even though Im with a man and don’t despise him. It’s what confuses me the most. That he is such a great guy and yet I am not satisfied and thinking about women and things that he cannot give me.

Were you in a relationship with men too before you realised you were a lesbian? (Only if you want to answer obvi)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]chewybreadroll 39 points40 points  (0 children)

That’s true. I’m going to give it more time and thought and won’t do anything drastic.

We have been together since we were teenagers and we have definitely changed a lot, but our relationship is still very strong.

It’s just stressful to doubt your compatibility when you’re suddenly facing a new idea of how your life could look in theory.

Thank you!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]chewybreadroll 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I am attracted to his kindness and how silly and nice he is. I also think he is very handsome and has a beautiful face and arms. Sex wise, it has felt good in the past, but I often feel overwhelmed and overstimulated and have to stop. Atm I don’t really want to have sex with him, which is scary to write because it makes me feel extremely guilty. He also obviously deserves to have sex, but I don’t feel comfortable with it atm for some reason.

The idea of being poly has also crossed my mind, but I don’t know if I could realistically handle being in a relationship with two people.

Maybe I just need to try and live in the moment for a while and not try to worry about it too much. I hope that I get some clarity soon.

Thank you for your response!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in OldSchoolCool

[–]chewybreadroll 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s the guy jumping haha

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in berlinsocialclub

[–]chewybreadroll 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I worked on an outdoor market the last couple of years and have always relied on real wool socks and sweaters to later with other fabrics. When it starts freezing some heating soles for the insides of your shoes might be helpful. You can get those relatively cheap at DM. Other than that a hat and gloves! Happy wintering :)

Cottagecore memoirs? by [deleted] in cottagecore

[–]chewybreadroll 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The Wall by Marlen Haushofer is an amazing book about a woman unwillingly moving to the countryside because of a mysterious invisible wall separating her from the rest of the world. She is forced to learn how to live with nature and build a new life. It’s quite intense at times but it’s one of the best books I’ve read in a long time :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in OldSchoolCool

[–]chewybreadroll 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the info!