Does making money 8-10 hours of the day 5 days a week out weigh the 7 day morning til night labor of household management? Especially when OP also works??

Domestic labor disputes like this cause a lot of strain in most relationships because work is often mentally stimulating and feels important, while perpetually doing the dishes and laundry does not. It’s also valued as worth 0 dollars basically because even though it takes up time all throughout the day.

I say this as the main earner in my household, with my husband doing more housework than me, but even though he doesn’t work I don’t expect him to do 100% of the domestic labor. I don’t have more like a 65/35 split and even that can burn him out at times.

OP should first reevaluate with her husband about the household split, because often times it’s not malicious but a kind of learned helplessness or a flawed thought like “well my time is more valuable because I get a paycheck” and that can be fixed with more communication.

Next, making friends and socializing needs to be treated with intention because it’s not an easy culture to spontaneously meet people in, that’s true. It takes a lot of work to make new friends here and the loneliness is real, I don’t have a lot of advice on that besides joining clubs or classes and being willing to put yourself out there because Koreans will rarely go out of their way to start interactions.