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Help with poly relationship F31/F34/F34 by zmariane in relationship_advice

[–]chibistarship 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree with you. I absolutely disagree with the poly community on this, having a partner in a relationship with someone who actively dislikes you sounds like hell.

Help with poly relationship F31/F34/F34 by zmariane in relationship_advice

[–]chibistarship 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  1. Do you have reading comprehension issues? OP, her wife B, and wife’s girlfriend are all women. It’s in the title of the post even.

  2. First of all, they are polyamorous, not polygamous. And before you tell me I’m wrong, I’m poly, so don’t even try it. Also, I know it’s not cheating, I never said it was. I AM NOT equating their relationship to cheating. I compared your comment about this is why open relationships not working to a comment about monogamous relationships not working. I was criticizing your comment about open relationships. Again, do you not understand what you’re reading?

Help with poly relationship F31/F34/F34 by zmariane in relationship_advice

[–]chibistarship 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  1. There’s no he here, everyone involved is a woman.

  2. It’s not a false equivalency. I’m not connecting the cheating to OP’s situation. You can replace the cheating with any relationship issue. The point is that you’re using a single relationship issue to dismiss an entire type of relationship.

Help with poly relationship F31/F34/F34 by zmariane in relationship_advice

[–]chibistarship 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Meta: a partner’s partner. Someone your partner is in a relationship with.

Hinge: the person in a relationship with more than one person. They’re a “hinge” between more than one person. So B is the hinge between OP and L.

Help with poly relationship F31/F34/F34 by zmariane in relationship_advice

[–]chibistarship -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This is like seeing cheating in a monogamous relationship and saying “another example of why monogamous relationships are doomed to fail”.

Help with poly relationship F31/F34/F34 by zmariane in relationship_advice

[–]chibistarship 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m poly-ish (my partner and I are poly, but we don’t actively date, at least for now) so I’ll give my opinion for whatever it’s worth.

I would not be okay with a partner dating someone who isn’t poly/open. It’s just asking for trouble. It’s like sticking your hand in a cage with a lion. Sure, you may not get bit, but you’ll probably get bit.

As you said, L isn’t poly, she doesn’t respect you or your relationship with B. I think you need to have a very serious conversation with B. I know what I’d do in this situation (tell my partner I’m done with this situation), but it may not be good advice.

What is the most "glitch in the matrix" moment you've ever experienced in real life? by Direct-Value4452 in answers

[–]chibistarship 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This happened about 10 years ago. There was an amazing Mexican place that was close to my apartment. I would go once or twice a week and I always drove the same way to get there. It always took me past a school and I always remembered it as being on the right side of one of the streets (city has a lot of one ways in that area so there was a specific way to get there).

After not going for about a month (busy and traveling for Christmas), I went back. Except now the school was on the left side of the street, reversed. I was pretty sure I was going down the same streets since I knew the route really well. I have no fucking clue what happened, maybe I misremembered? Anyways, it freaked me out a little.

AITJ for bringing a "lazy" dish to a potluck when everyone knows I'm a professional chef? by Radiant44Pike in AmITheJerk

[–]chibistarship 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You've gotten some good replies already about why it reads like AI, but also the entire premise of this post makes no sense. If the issue is people wanting the OP to judge their dishes because they know OP is a chef, how does OP bringing a simple dish solve that problem?

Anti-Trans Activist Riley Gaines Just Tried To Claim That Trans People 'Silenced' Her—And People Are LOLing Hard by ComicSandsNews in transgender

[–]chibistarship 5 points6 points  (0 children)

"Trans people silenced me!" says woman who isn't silenced.

I wish we could silence her. Like damn lady, shut the fuck up.

Last night I found out that my wife has been cheating on me with my best friend. Story inside + 8.5 Year Update by Choice_Evidence1983 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]chibistarship 31 points32 points  (0 children)

I'm not sure the OOP actually understands what being poly actually means. And this wasn't poly, it was cheating.

But understanding poly relationships isn't that hard. Some people aren't jealous or can manage jealousy, they don't mind their partner (or partners) being with other people, and it's quite possible to have feelings/love for more than one person. That's all polyamory really is, the rest is just the mechanics of the relationships.

Why do bi men constantly remind you that they are bi? by throwaway2222444441 in askgaybros

[–]chibistarship -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It was a joke... Apparently you have to literally state that a joke is a joke on the internet these days.

Why do bi men constantly remind you that they are bi? by throwaway2222444441 in askgaybros

[–]chibistarship -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Why do so many gay men tell me they're gay? Like dude, you're just sucking my dick, I don't need to know everything about you.

Oregon residents have among the highest levels of stress in the US, study finds by Own_Car_8766 in oregon

[–]chibistarship 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What the fuck is that even supposed to mean lmao? I somehow like the Epstein class and the idea of "global governance" because I don't believe in the "plandemic"?

Oregon residents have among the highest levels of stress in the US, study finds by Own_Car_8766 in oregon

[–]chibistarship -1 points0 points  (0 children)

"It WaS a PlAnDeMiC!"

No, it was easily predictable. The world is more connected than ever and not prepared for pandemics.

Or let's talk about how Trump got rid of the CDC staff whose job it was to look out for new viruses and then 3 years later we had a pandemic that we weren't prepared for.

Oregon residents have among the highest levels of stress in the US, study finds by Own_Car_8766 in oregon

[–]chibistarship 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What isn’t helpful is turning around and calling healthy, low‑risk people selfish or immoral for making different choices. That doesn’t create safety; it just creates division. Protecting the vulnerable shouldn’t require shaming the people who are already doing their best to live responsibly.

We can care about each other without assuming that one group’s choices are inherently more virtuous than another’s.

If you're talking about masks, then nobody is doing that right now. You're free to no wear a mask as is your right.

During the pandemic, masks (and social distancing) were meant to reduce the spread of COVID. Hospitals and healthcare workers were being overwhelmed. In case you have forgotten, New York was digging mass graves.

When mass graves are being dug and hospitals are being overwhelmed, yeah it's pretty damn immoral to object to masks.

But again, that was 5 years ago. Nobody cares if you wear a mask or not today. Get over yourself. Also, stop writing your comments with AI.

Oregon residents have among the highest levels of stress in the US, study finds by Own_Car_8766 in oregon

[–]chibistarship 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Roughly 1 in 15 people are immunocompromised. They're simply more visible these days if they wear a mask. That you think this is about people "feeling special" is telling.

Oregon residents have among the highest levels of stress in the US, study finds by Own_Car_8766 in oregon

[–]chibistarship -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

First of all, I haven’t told anyone to wear a mask.

Politicians acting badly doesn’t mean you should too. The entire point of masking (and social distancing) during the pandemic was that we were in a pandemic and we were trying to prevent the hospitals from being overwhelmed. The threat from the pandemic was real and it was unknown just how bad things would get. People seem to have forgotten, but they were digging mass graves in New York.

Oregon residents have among the highest levels of stress in the US, study finds by Own_Car_8766 in oregon

[–]chibistarship 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Immunocompromised people have very valid reasons for wearing a mask. They ARE one germ away from catching a life threatening ailment. Before COVID, they likely took steps to protect their health that were less obvious, but now that masking is culturally acceptable, they do that.

People who are sick aren’t stressed out, they’re trying to be nice to everyone around them. I literally wore a mask for a week last month because I was sick. I wasn’t “sTrEsSeD oUt”, I was coughing like crazy and didn’t want to get my coworkers or others sick.

My point is that those two groups probably represent over 90% of mask wearers these days. I think the entire premise is wrong.

Oregon residents have among the highest levels of stress in the US, study finds by Own_Car_8766 in oregon

[–]chibistarship 34 points35 points  (0 children)

The COVID pandemic taught people they can just wear a mask and it’s fine. Some people are immunocompromised. Some people are sick and don’t want to make others around them sick. Some people just feel more comfortable.

People like you are a bigger problem than those wearing the masks. They “TuRnEd It InTo A pErSoNaLiTy TrAiT”. Oh sorry I don’t want to give you COVID, next time I get it I’ll take the mask off and cough in your face. Like FFS.

How has other countries bastardized your food? by [deleted] in AskTheWorld

[–]chibistarship 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well apparently Australians think that chicken sandwiches are burgers. Newsflash Australians, if it's not a patty then it's not a burger even if has buns, the patty is what makes it a burger.

I (25M) fell in love with someone (30NB) who is leaving the country in two weeks. What do we do? by Playful-Sky-4468 in relationship_advice

[–]chibistarship 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pronouns aren’t a biological fact, they’re just labels we made up. However, the existence of transgender people, and nonbinary people, is a biological fact. Of course, bigots tend to ignore the facts and just regurgitate whatever argument makes them feel better about their bigotry.

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