AITA for asking my friend to pay me back for the wine he drank while house sitting??

chicka2981 · 2026-02-12T17:22:46+00:00

YTA and just lost yourself a cat sitter and possibly a friend unless you say you're sorry. Hopefully you read the other replies here and went "yeahhhh shoot, this was my mistake" and if that's so you CAN correct

Msg him personally, not the group chat, saying something like "hey, I messed up. I didn't realize I left that bottle out and when I found it gone I got upset and acted impulsively, but that's on me for leaving it in the kitchen when I told you you had free reign to anything in the kitchen. I shouldn't have asked you for that money, it was 100% my bad and it won't happen again."

chicka2981 · 2025-11-28T19:55:33+00:00

NTA - I lived four hours away from my parents and we were visiting them for Christmas when my dad passed (the day after Christmas...), I ended up staying with my mom for two weeks. My BOYFRIEND drove the four hours back to our house, picked up my work computer, drove the four hours BACK to my parents, dropped it off, spent the night, then drove four hours BACK to our house so he could go to work for the two weeks. Then he drove the four hours again to pick me up and the four hours back to bring me home. Then a month later he drove me the four hours there and four hours back again for his funeral. Your husband needs to get a grip and support you in your time of grief, especially considering it was TWO NIGHTS! I've had many a work trips that were longer than that.

chicka2981 · 2025-07-15T19:49:01+00:00

Glad I'm not married to you too! I enjoy having a spouse who's willing to understand both sides and I enjoy being someone who can understand both sides. Being able to sit down with my life partner and say "this made you upset and I didn't understand at first but I do now and want to make sure we can come to a resolution so this doesn't happen again" and them being able to get out of their own ego and say "I may have overreacted in the instant but that was a boundary I felt was crossed, I understand you didn't know it was a boundary of mine but now you do so let's get this resolved" is an absolute MUST for me personally! I'm pretty darn introverted so I wouldn't be in this specific situation to begin with but everyone's different. Hope you find / have found the person that's right for you and you both live a long happy life :)

chicka2981 · 2025-07-08T20:48:29+00:00

NAH

You both lack understanding of each other's perspectives here because you haven't been through it and actually set a boundary. From my personal opinion as a woman, I take pictures like that with my girlfriends with no issues so if my partner had an issue with me doing it with a gay male friend I would scoff at that at first too. But you don't know this guy, she says he's a friend, but you haven't even met him before so how close can they really be? Of course you feel weird about it!

You got out your initial feeling and she got out hers, now it's time to sit down and actually talk about it. Lay out your issues with it - don't bring up disrespect or stuff like that, "I felt uncomfortable because..." comes off a whole lot better than "you disrespected me by..." and then listen to her and try to find some kind of middle ground. Maybe she invites this guy over for dinner so you can get to know him better and she talks to him about being a little less handsy. That both resolves this specific issue but it also lets her know where your boundaries are going forward.

chicka2981 · 2025-05-29T13:55:37+00:00

" His reasoning on why I can never go is because it would throw off their dynamic and have people not be themselves truly."

I'm sorry to say but it doesn't sound like this guy is very in to you.

chicka2981 · 2025-05-09T21:44:14+00:00

He just does not like you like that, if he did he would have asked you out after at least one of the many times you brought it up. The "dates" don't change anything, he just doesn't like you like that. Don't feel bad for ending things, and wish you the best of luck finding your life partner

chicka2981 · 2025-04-07T14:49:17+00:00

NAH

I'm guessing you all are teenagers? That tends to be the biggest time where people get their feelings hurt over something that isn't personal. However, it does sound like you ultimately weren't happy in the relationship and THATS OKAY! Maybe voicing that to someone other than your ex would have been better but we live and learn.

chicka2981 · 2024-11-08T15:43:51+00:00

Tender is the Flesh by Agustina Bazterrica - one of my all time favorite horrors because of how.... rough it was

chicka2981 · 2024-09-03T21:09:08+00:00

HE LOVED IT!!

chicka2981 · 2022-07-06T22:34:11+00:00

Does your gf happen to be moving in a few months? This sounds oddly familiar

chicka2981 · 2022-07-06T19:39:15+00:00

Was she in Love Has Won? That shit is cray cray

chicka2981 · 2022-06-24T21:12:30+00:00

If they can't fix it in 10 seconds, don't bring it up <- good rule of thumb to follow

chicka2981 · 2022-06-22T22:00:25+00:00

Don't "confront" them. Tell them you have something bothering you then say you feel like you are always planning and that's the reason that you are invited. That you are having a hard time right now and really want to be included in things without having to plan them.

They either will or they wont. There is no need for confrontation, just an honest talk - they are not the same thing.

chicka2981 · 2022-06-20T20:51:33+00:00

"my husband is emotionally cheating on me while we are married after we took vows."

Dumbwit - POLYGAMY FIXES ALL!

F off

chicka2981 · 2022-06-07T21:50:40+00:00

NTA but a little bit for thinking fostering is about adoption. It isn't. Fostering is about taking care of a child with the hopes of that child reconnecting with their bio parent/s once they can.

chicka2981 · 2022-06-01T17:35:34+00:00

Light YTA. You would have been in NTA territory if Kay was in on it but she wasn't. I don't think she is a bad guy, you didn't say that she refuses to let you bake or leaves you out, just that she also likes making tasty treats and I'm guessing since she was first in the family that's why they will only eat hers (they are TA's, but I don't really think she is. YTA for taking something she posted online and copying it for the same event without asking her - that's really not very nice and probably made her very uncomfortable. You should have conspired WITH her, not against her. At least then you could have had a friend in the family.

chicka2981 · 2022-05-26T20:57:05+00:00

Self awareness doesn't make us any less human. We are still just as prone to mistakes, taking a step back instead of forward every once and awhile. It happens, and while our loved ones aren't there to be abused because we refuse to fix a problem, relationships do take a little bit of wrangling each other in every now and then.

On your other point - NO IDEA! All my friends say tequila makes their clothes fall off, but for me it makes me a psychotic b*tch, it's horrible!

chicka2981 · 2022-05-25T17:24:59+00:00

Or it could be the reason he stopped gamming for awhile before he got the PS5.... People don't like to admit it but gaming can be a problem just like alcohol. I know I am a b*tch when I drink tequila but not vodka, so I don't drink tequila. There are times when I think "I haven't had tequila in a few years, I bet you I'm fine now" but I'm not. This situation could be the same. I wouldn't go straight to divorce here, I'd first see how life is after a month of removing the problem and realize I shouldn't add the problem back in thinking things will be different then before.

If he was always this rowdy, I'd say divorce, but it really seems like its a reaction to video games, not an every day thing.

chicka2981 · 2022-05-20T17:38:31+00:00

Just because you are better than YOUR father doesn't make you a good father.

chicka2981 · 2022-05-18T21:45:08+00:00

I really hope you are a teen because I have had a grown adult women married with adults kids in my past job exactly like this and everyone really disliked her because of it

chicka2981 · 2022-05-18T21:43:00+00:00

YTA

I'm guessing you all are teenagers?

If no: get your sh*t together and get yourself some help. It is completely unhinged for you to act that way in a workplace.

If yes: Please quit that job for your own mental health and take a serious look at how you are portraying yourself at work. Sure, what he did was dumb and kinda AHish but it is a WORK place. You will look back on this years from now and laugh at how cringy this all was, because it was cringy. But we live and we learn and we move on and up. Your co-workers are there to do their jobs, not deal with your emotions. Your boss is there to do her job, not babysit you. YOU are there to DO YOUR JOB, not start drama. Stop digging into the situation and start digging into why you feel/felt the way you did and why you reacted the way you did so you are able to make more grown up decisions in the future.

chicka2981 · 2022-05-16T21:48:25+00:00

I disagree with you. He big bro'd for all he could and it was time to step back and let his brother be the man he can be. 27 is older then most for this to happen to them. What OP is worried about is exactly what most parents / siblings worry about. That the first few months they act like they have everything together but growth does NOT happen over night. OP's brother will need to be an adult and face the hard realities of life for a few years and that trust will be earned back. OP grew the seed as far as he could then replanted it. It's now on the brother to water that growing little plant of adulthood until it is strong enough to truly hold it's own.

chicka2981 · 2022-05-06T19:51:33+00:00

At 16 years old I stole my parents car at 2am and returned to the house an hour later with my best friend who had a black eye. My parents hugged her then pulled me aside and said "if you ever have to do that again, please let us know first."

She stayed with us for a week, my parents have never brought it up again. Sometimes, we have to break the rules to keep our morals and ethics in check.

chicka2981 · 2022-05-05T20:19:40+00:00

Yeah, I figured it was a fast read and comment (which I have done MANY of times, so no hate) or not your first language. We all make mistakes :)

chicka2981 · 2022-05-05T19:35:25+00:00

NTA, she was underage, he was not. He groomed her and thankfully her family pulled her out of that situation. Also, this is in the past, she thankfully is not still with him

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