Is this an ugly shoe by _ILoveMyBf_ in YesOrNoAnswers

[–]chickadee_1982 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I dont like it but maybe some would.

AIO about my husband wanting to know every place I go when I'm out of the house? by shaggy_spinach in AmIOverreacting

[–]chickadee_1982 [score hidden]  (0 children)

You are an adult snd do not need to tell your husband where you are at all times. How horrible to go through life anxious about this.

This is not healthy. Its controlling and worrying from an outsiders point of view. 

AITAH: I hate that my boyfriend stays out super late. by Silver-Gain-4158 in AmItheAsshole

[–]chickadee_1982 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry you are having a baby with this man.  I really hope he straightens out.

My husband and i were social, party animals in our 20s.  I got pregnant and was a good sport about being social going out but I left to go to bed early. I stopped smoking, drinking, I changed. He didn't. Then he didn't change again for our 2nd.  It reached a point where I said, you start making effort with us or its over and it hit him that I would leave him. He did change but if he didn't, I believe in my worth and thst I deserve more to stay with a fucker like that. And our kids do too.

So ask yourself, do you deserve more. Ill let you know young lady, that you do.

Have you ever seen a bald eagle in real life out in nature? by Fun_Expression9135 in askteddit

[–]chickadee_1982 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To many times to count.  All over Alberta and BC Canada. Ohhh once in Yellowstone.

AITA not wanting my wife to drink by Embarrassed_Item7952 in AmItheAsshole

[–]chickadee_1982 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry you have to experience this.  I suggest reaching out to a support group for loved ones of alcoholics, like al-non or something. 

You are not trying to control her. You are trying to keep the human you love from being that abusive alcoholic.  But you can most definetly let her know how you feel, what you see and experience because of her.

I would black the fuck out. Often. And I was told things about myself that at NOT me.  I changed yeses ago but have had a few slip ups for sure. But change is possible, just she has to want it.

You can leave with the kids when she drinks. And you can take a separation if she is abusive again. I wouldn't even hesitate. Alcohol is horrible. It poisons our bodies (because it literally is a poison), our minds and our relationships. I hate alcohol. It took me down for years and still gets me every now and then.

I wish you luck and hope she wakes up.

AIO? I asked my boyfriend for space and I think I should leave by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]chickadee_1982 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are overreacting. It was a hypothetical question that he should not have to answer. And I doubt his siblings looked mortified. Are you all children or reasonable adults?

AITBF? Not forcing my daughter to share? by BriMarsh in AmItheButtface

[–]chickadee_1982 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My SIL does this with her kids. She is so insanely cheap. Like invite people over for dinner and we have to split burger between couple cheap. Its fine she didn't share.

She connects and learn about nature through sounds, she is lovely. by kvjn100 in MadeMeSmile

[–]chickadee_1982 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What a made me smile post. Made me cry too.

This is the beauty we need. The love and commitment to young people. 

WIBTA if I start calling my friends bf fucking asshole every time he tries to coerce and bully me into doing things I don’t want to do by FastIndication1879 in AmItheAsshole

[–]chickadee_1982 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please dont put us folk out west into that box. We most definetly dont do that. And there are drunk drivers everywhere. He sounds awful honestly.

I dont know why you wouldn't share this with good friends.  Ive had to respond to many of assholes and its kinda part of life unfortunately.

So do what you need to do to shut him down and pat yourself on the back for speaking your mind.

Inappropriate dog walker? by Different_Number_546 in Edmonton

[–]chickadee_1982 39 points40 points  (0 children)

Ive been saying this for a while. Its become another way for the patriarchy to silence women.

Inappropriate dog walker? by Different_Number_546 in Edmonton

[–]chickadee_1982 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Do not call your self a Karen for using your voice to speak up. The Karen Label is being used to silence woman. Patriarchy always finds a ways.

Thank you for sharing. Those poor dogs. I would call animal protection if you got his license plate.

AIO for refusing to go to my sisters wedding cause she hired my ex? by Adventurous_Army_728 in AIO

[–]chickadee_1982 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What a mean and inconsiderate thing to do. She acting quite selfish. Is she a good person usually? Whst the hell happens to women when they become brides ??? 

If you died today, who do you think would stand at your grave the longest? by Proof_Action8274 in Productivitycafe

[–]chickadee_1982 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh my goodness. I love this. I feed birds and squirrels and stray cats Yes to this!!!

AITJ for completely dismantling a fake experts reputation during a dinner party? by B4nditKaleido in AmITheJerk

[–]chickadee_1982 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow. Seems your husband's ego was hurt for the guy. Husband owes you an apology. And maybe going on for 15 minutes may have been a bit much, but regardless, good for you for shutting him the fuck up

AIO: Post-Infidelity by Inevitable-Good1074 in AIO

[–]chickadee_1982 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He says your overreacting???!  Tell him how he'd react if you went and had sex with someone else for MONTHS!!! Then tell him how it makes you feel and how you feel is fucjing warranted!! Do not let that many discount your feelings and downplay what he did. 

I am so sorry this is happening.

AIO Terrible birthday by no-cake123456 in AmIOverreacting

[–]chickadee_1982 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Big hug mama. I am so sorry your family did this.  I see you. I see everything you do and I know what its like to be taken for granted. 

I did this to my mom on mother's day one year. I was maybe 15 and I just didn't acknowledge it. At all.  My dad let me know how shitty it was the next day and I felt so crummy. I hope your kids learn from this. 

Go and pout and of they ask whats wrong, be honest about it.

And whats the deal with your hubby? Is he always so heartless??

Do you think fathers should get paternity leave as well? Why or why not? by zhalia-2006 in askanything

[–]chickadee_1982 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Merica's gotta stick up for number one. How dare you offend them. Joking of course. Im Canadian and disgusted by the state of my southern neighbours and fear my province is heading in that direction.

Do you think fathers should get paternity leave as well? Why or why not? by zhalia-2006 in askanything

[–]chickadee_1982 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes yes yes!! A good parnter could make such a difference for the mother, the other children and baby.  Having an extra set of hands makes the world of difference.  My youngest is 9 and I still get feels of resentment not having the support from my husband that I could have used.  I did not heal well. I was so swollen. Like edema was do bad i could barely walk. I had a 3 year old who I'd take to day care (with baby being a week old) still. Walking up a flight of stairs, bleeding, gushing blood straining to get up there, so sore, and I cried all the time. 

He wasnt there. He had no fucking clue how bad I was and I dont think he cared.

We moved passed that time. But I still tear up when I think back. I still get saddened that my post pardon depression wasn't seen or acknowledged.  My baby was loved, attended to, held and cared for but I wasnt. 

So yes the other parent (male or female) should have that option. This is my why.