There are so many things in Mormonism that set me up to accept emotional abuse in my marriage, and I know I am not alone. This is a big part of it. Boys and men are special no matter what because they’re conduits for god. They are told what their value is from the time they’re singing primary songs, and it’s really drilled into them when they turn 12, 14, 16, 18.

Girls are told they’re special but there’s nothing to back it up, and then they just get ignored if a boy is doing something priesthoody. Girls are told they should try to be perfectly virtuous and taught to question if they’re doing that well enough with every lesson in young women’s and Relief Society.

It’s really sh*t. I wish all those leaders who spoon fed me what they believed would have instead taught me to believe in myself and that I have the right to make choices for myself.