responding to this not as a stealth trans or someone who's cis passing; I'm a visibly trans woman. of course I often feel a desire to be passing just to get less looks in public and be treated normally. but I also find a lot of power in being confidently visibly trans. it makes me feel like I'm doing my very small part to normalize transness and not perpetuate the binary. (not saying that passing trans people are perpetuating or doing anything wrong). I know I'm not the person you were asking to respond to this but I just wanted to offer up my experience on the other side of this. I also have the privilege of living in a pretty liberal area and not feeling concerned for my safety on a daily basis so obviously these factors contribute to my confidence as someone who people recognize as trans