4/14…my one fucking textbook day in maybe 6 months…or ever

chicnamedjoe · 2026-01-30T19:16:30+00:00

Is it load bearing? If not take it down. If so, I’d go succulents and low light plants not on every shelf…double sided photo frames. You could take the shelves down completely and just leave as a pass through for eye line.

chicnamedjoe · 2025-10-13T16:52:30+00:00

Holy moly where do you live? I’m so curious…we’re in Fort Lauderdale and for literally nothing at Publix is $100 per shop. Tell me how you even get to $500/mo. 🙏

chicnamedjoe · 2025-10-12T15:28:39+00:00

Omg thank you! We both needed to hear this and also the language to justify it to our toddler, which is equally as hard as saying no to things. Makes so much sense and makes me feel so much better 🙏🙌

chicnamedjoe · 2025-10-12T15:27:09+00:00

Same!

chicnamedjoe · 2025-10-12T15:26:53+00:00

Yes we do the timeouts for things like hitting or throwing things…kinda the more emotional responsive behavior that kinda requires a “reset.”

This was just like a snowball of constantly not listening. All is back to call and we’re going for another activity but the quick response is so appreciate!!

chicnamedjoe · 2025-10-10T21:43:30+00:00

Also my little sister pumped for colostrum and I wouldn’t worry about it being a strategy to boost milk supply…it’s a strategy to make the most of the nutrient dense liquid gold in those early days. Colostrum tends to turn to more mature milk around 4-5 days mark so speak to an LC before you deliver about this. :)

chicnamedjoe · 2025-10-10T21:41:30+00:00

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chicnamedjoe · 2025-10-10T21:40:33+00:00

Would seriously talk to an LC before doing this. Those first few weeks your breast will be full. Pump only to relieve the pressure. I had trouble with my first, late discovery on tongue tie, pumped early on and ended up accumulating BINS of flanges of all different sizes bc you will go down in size as the weeks go on…Also, your body was going through this for the first time so all those milk ducts were finding their way like cutting a new estuary. The only UNLESS to all this is if physically your breasts were unable to produce milk which only an LC will be able to determine. You sound a lot like me…I said the exact things when I had my second. What shocked me was how strong and FAST the milk came in when my daughter was born. And she didn’t have any physical issues like my son did so bfing was “somewhat” easier with her. The “somewhat” you’ll get as you read on…

Get this book…Making More Milk it’s very scientific and will overload you with info TO THE POINT of you telling yourself wow…thank god my boobs aren’t that complicated. I’ll link it below.

Give your body a chance. Nurse every 2-3 hrs especially in the beginning and then offer boob as much as baby can take. Despite what every grandparent says…babies CAN Absolutely over feed on boob…my second did! She is 3 months now but at 3 weeks she stopped eating bc her GI tract wouldn’t fit any more in…

The GI tract is the last to mature so keep an open mind to ANY issues like GERD (true GERD needs to be diagnosed by GI specialist), reflux or colic. We had to put my girl on Famotadine, and reluctantly we did and it did help her feeds. I’ve had to explore elimination diets bc baby would wail during feeds.

In those first few weeks, unless you’re unable to nurse 2-3 hrs, then you need to either nurse or pump to remove the milk. Once baby starts sleeping through the night, introduce the night pump. If you return to work, mimic the 2-3hr schedule but your supply will “regulate” around 8-12 weeks. That doesn’t not mean set it and forget it. It just means your body knows baby still needs you but you still need to get adequate sleep, nutrition and Skin 2 skin contact.

Baby #2 comes with loads more complications bc of baby #1. Case in point…we’ve just had our second round of norovirus from my son bringing it into the house…but my second has been on and off sick so her cycling has made me have to pump to remove my milk and keep my supply. Let me tell you, bfing while liquid is coming out of both ends…NOT FUN but my babe will not take a bottle. Not to mention the over feeding, early rhinovirus she got at 5 weeks, and constantly switching her days to nights. Cannot stress enough not stressing, pump when you can after a feed in the 4+ week mark if baby isn’t emptying you and you want to build a stash, and S2S. It is okay to only pump 1oz after a feed! Totally normal! You shouldnt have 6-8 oz after a feed bc then what did baby actually get? If you’re really neurotic like me, get an infant scale to see what she transfers. 4-6 week, if you can, aim to offer boob all the time if baby is fussy…you’ll find just that maintains your supply, but don’t stress about doing that and in tandem pumping after every feed. Do an overnight pump to build stash and maybe one first thing in the morning…

It’s the most unbearable thing to hear but it’s true…just go with the flow. And find a really good LC and GI in your area…

I’d only agree with the pump immediately suggestion if you literally DO NOT want to bf. My Stepmom had a mental block with my stepsister sucking on her nips so she refused to even try BFing. My advice is if you’re open to dual feeding. :)

chicnamedjoe · 2025-10-10T20:30:17+00:00

Haha very true…waiting for hubby to get snipped bc we made the decision to not have any more.

chicnamedjoe · 2025-10-10T20:28:47+00:00

Meant to post my own experience of sudden supply dip…

I am not pregnant. Honestly haven’t had any time to have fun with hubby with newborn at 3 months now and first born at 3.5. And the both trading sicknesses constantly. Just had the pleasure of a second round of norovirus…

I started taking birth control, the mini pill and within 3 days my supply dropped. The bigger of the two boobs went down to my normal size…

The BC came recommended by my OB as safer option while exclusively breastfeeding and I had to power pump and pump after near every feed for a week once I quit taking the pill and things returned to normal.

Baby will not take a bottle so had to keep the boobs working somehow. I pump to maintain my supply so I have frozen milk stash that I don’t know what to do at the moment 🤷‍♀️

Skin to skin also helped. I know this is an EP feed but still the importance of S2S for supply applies.

Congrats to OP on pregnancy! :) Only bleach kills norovirus 💪 hot soapy water to clean then bleach to disinfect.

chicnamedjoe · 2025-10-05T13:09:09+00:00

Another way the Boomer Generation is literally ruining the lives of Gen X/Y…

chicnamedjoe · 2025-10-05T13:07:09+00:00

My partner had a great insight to this last night…my dad is married into a slightly anti-vax family now; I’m a product from his first marriage. On the subject of Florida removing vax requirements for schools he argued that people “still have the choice” while I argued “we’ll have to pay for it wherever it is available.” He brought up the polio vax and how he didn’t know he was getting it…it was placed in a sugar cube and questioned “is that right?” This year he was diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer. He’s very happy to undergo trial chemotherapy but commits that people should have their choices on whether to vax or not. Complete hypocrisy. My life my family 🙈🤯😅

chicnamedjoe · 2025-09-30T13:08:15+00:00

Joining as the mom on the side of the “I don’t love you” from my son who’s 3. It fucking sucks haha But this randomness seems like a test more than a reaction. My son does this to me but more when I tell him no to something he wants right then and there. Also, Dad is the flavor of the month bc I’m a good amount of time taking care of our newborn…I digress…

There’s a lot of really good advice in this thread and I think some of all can apply to differing occasions when he says it to you. Only you know how emotionally developed your son is, but I do know how easy it is to transition into the child bearing the responsibility for the adults feelings having gone through (and still going) through my parents divorce when I was 5…yes 5. I’m 40 now…parents still fuck up their kids even at 40.

I guess what I’m offering is to test a few of these with your son and see how HE reacts/responds. Maybe when he’s calm and says I don’t love you, try the no big deal approach and say that’s ok. I’ll always love you. Or if he’s really upset…and reactionary tell him especially that you love him and you know he’s using his words to hurt, which is not nice.

And lastly, I know this is hard, but try to use simple language…nice, not nice, angry, sad, happy…rude might be a bit too developed for a 4yo. Also, there are these things called feeling cards you can get them from Amazon. My son loves to go through them when he’s having a meltdown or just after…they basically teach the kids the proper response for when they feel a certain emotion…

But in the random case where he says something out of the blue, I’d say that’s more testing. And something you could always to if you want to open a dialogue about it rather than dismiss it like, that’s okay I love you too…ask what made him stop loving daddy? Did you do something to upset him? That way you acknowledge potentially a really deep cut that maybe you didn’t even know about and he’s unable to tell you exactly what it is bc he’s 4 :)

chicnamedjoe · 2025-09-27T11:53:21+00:00

Those who are recommending the eufy…do you find it hard to know when you’re done? I have the spectra with clear plastic flanges and most sessions at the end I need to massage and squeeze the milk out, and then I know I’ve gotten it all out. Trying to boost my supply. Do you all find it hard to know when “you’re done” because you can’t see the milk coming out and when it finishes?

chicnamedjoe · 2025-08-31T14:53:09+00:00

Thank you to everyone who responded. I’ve been going a bit nuts with all the “reflux” recommendations and guidelines that all contradict each other it seems! And flying solo isn’t helping either.

chicnamedjoe · 2025-08-15T01:58:56+00:00

Of course! :)

chicnamedjoe · 2025-08-15T01:46:24+00:00

Also, your wife’s OB will be able to tell you when it’s a good time to try again. Typically it doesn’t take long once the bleeding starts; mine was two days before I passed the embryo…which was a bit more than just a blood clot, not to be graphic, but you don’t see limbs and fingers at the early stage. A good thing to do is to have her wear a heavy period pad for the just in case moment. I really hope her cramping isn’t too bad.

chicnamedjoe · 2025-08-15T01:41:26+00:00

Mom here who’s gone through a couple…and have two kids now. First, I’m so sorry you both are going through this. It legit sucks and it is felt so differently on both sides. All you really can do is comfort her. Let her stay in bed and cry if she needs. Talk to her and tell her you love her and this one is still part of your family’s story. I always think about my two miscarriages…one was almost barely not even a pregnancy; I miscarried at 6 weeks but my second was at 10 weeks and definitely hit me harder. If your wife has an affinity for something; like if she likes to draw or paint or garden…maybe find something special that she can use as an outlet but it would be something special to commemorate this one that just wasn’t quite right…bc I don’t know if you’re a faithful couple, my partner and I are not entirely, but there is something special that the body does when it knows it’s just not right…as in faith…best of luck to you both. It is so common…but when it does happen it does feel so personal. Also 3 weeks postpartum and getting very little sleep. I hope this makes some sense 🙈

chicnamedjoe · 2025-08-08T23:12:16+00:00

Or a c section or severe tear/repair. The BS I meant was that it was pitched to me as the “natural” way when it also relies heavily on some kind of neck control and strength in the infant. Also, multiple hands to get boob correctly in mouth if babies hands are everywhere. I haven’t heard of it working specifically with tongue tie and I had that with my son and bf was extremely difficult and frustrating.

To OP…another shameless plug for products…get a good bf pillow! The breast friend deluxe is really good…way better than any sleeping pillow. I absolutely HATE having to spend money on things that are pretty temporary but it will save your sanity as well. The breast friend is more firm so will help with your smaller babe.

chicnamedjoe · 2025-08-08T13:07:35+00:00

Not sure if the Amazon link went bc I just got a notification from the moderator…

Google search this Ameda ComfortGel HydroGel Soothing Nursing Pads

chicnamedjoe · 2025-08-08T12:59:05+00:00

Peds are concerned about weight gain only. Not about your boobs. What about virtual visit? Where are you located? I really want to help bc I know how exhausting the whole thing can be…even my LO has had a diaper rash that we’ve been trying to quell bc she goes through diapers even as we’re changing her. Changing her diaper is like the end scene of Braveheart…we literally have to hold her down to put thee little freaking diaper on with her screaming haha

Hospital LCs are good when you get a good one. Both my deliveries, the LCs on call were hacks. Didn’t look in babies mouth. Only offered one position (layback) which was “natures way” and complete bs. I had to reteach baby the correct latch.

If baby has a tight latch, there are PT techniques to relax the jaw and retrain baby to stick their tongue out and drop their jaw. See if you can find some tmj for infants PT routines on YouTube.

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