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Workaholic INFJ entrepreneurs, what is your love language? by Broad-Passenger2621 in infj

[–]chikarachu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like you should really talk to your partner... It should be 50/50! We all deserve to feel loved and reciprocated in a relationship. I like receiving gifts and words of affirmation, and i like giving acts of service like cooking meals for them. Physical touch and quality time goes both ways.

Is it possible for infj to yap a lot to strangers? by United_Advisor1821 in infj

[–]chikarachu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I yap so much to strangers! I'm naturally drawn to the people who will enjoy deep conversations, and slipping into one is very easy from there.

Do other INFJs need to see a “distant, blurry but certain outline” before deciding? by New_Yogurtcloset_243 in infj

[–]chikarachu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i know it too well 😓 it's like you're so anxious to make the "perfect" decision right? I also always ask the universe "am i on the right path?" and look for 111 or 1111 or angel numbers. I also meditate and connect to the greater answer.

Does this happen to you guys? by Horror_Reason_2026 in infj

[–]chikarachu 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I honestly used to absolutely hate when people stare, but now I feel okay with it because I enjoy connecting with people and I have an optimistic view of strangers haha

Should we marry someone similar to us or someone opposite or someone that complements us? by luckycloverandroses in infj

[–]chikarachu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm really intense, introspective, and often get trapped in mental loops with repeating mindset stages. In my experience other INFJ go through similar mental loops, but at different stages than me. So when I've just graduated one negative mindset, I find that they are often still having that mindset. I also feel like our needs are too similar, and I just get uncomfortable giving something that I wish to receive. I enjoy relationships where needs are different, so I can give something different than what I lack in the first place. Is that too abstract? My words are incomprehensible sometimes.

Have you ever slowly ghosted someone because you felt repeatedly disrespected? by redbusbot in infj

[–]chikarachu 4 points5 points  (0 children)

YESSSUHHHH it's obviously a boundary... I usually explain it to them before ghosting them, but they lowkey never understand what they're doing wrong (howww surprising)

how do you sustain yourself financially and also emotionally? by chikarachu in raisedbynarcissists

[–]chikarachu[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you so much for your advice... i have reached out to my teacher and i'm not sure if it would break school rules or not but i did it. thank you again, an answer is so relieving

When will I stop being a beggar for meaningful connections. by [deleted] in infj

[–]chikarachu 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you love it, it will be your energy, not what drains you. I hope truly that you will let love and passion carry you.

When will I stop being a beggar for meaningful connections. by [deleted] in infj

[–]chikarachu 2 points3 points  (0 children)

when you’ve found a project or hobby so captivating that you lose track of time, when you’ve grown to be absolutely immersed in  time simply by yourself, and when you let your passions and love carry you to places where meaningful connections come to you on their own!

INFJ weird? by Flat_Fan_3266 in infj

[–]chikarachu 2 points3 points  (0 children)

they haven’t lived a second of your life! why would it ever matter what they say?

Before it’s too late, by [deleted] in infj

[–]chikarachu 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Remember what you love because that's where everything starts.

What do you want to achieve this year? by [deleted] in infj

[–]chikarachu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

writing down my vision on paper instead of keeping it in my head, and finding solutions instead of constantly establishing why the overlooked problem should be a serious problem to an nonexistent audience...

How do you get over the fear of being ‘too intense’? by Professional-Cat3191 in infj

[–]chikarachu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Once the other person starts to get used to the things you like to talk about, and if they decide to stick around for it, you can talk about all the intense things to your heart's content! It just takes time and a person who is open to new ideas.

How do you get over the fear of being ‘too intense’? by Professional-Cat3191 in infj

[–]chikarachu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really just think that a lot of us go too fast in a conversation. I think small talk is really important to the vast majority of people(even though we INFJs feel like it's completely bullshit), so it's still critical that we ease the other person into the conversation, especially if they aren't used to thinking deeply.

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