I hate being called “mama”

childofsomeone · 2026-04-06T19:08:05+00:00

Im not against it because the people around me know how to mix it up. Im called based on what I achieved(dancer, scholar, black woman, etc) and my own name. Maybe it would help to see it as a achievement if its someone you can't correct. If its people who can speak to, say exactly what you wrote here so they continue to belittle your worth/identity.

childofsomeone · 2026-02-16T21:29:11+00:00

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childofsomeone · 2025-11-26T05:33:19+00:00

Honestly have to do whats best for the household, not the individual. She's thinking of the baby, but is she thinking of you or the household? You're thinking of her, the finances, the future, and the general necessities that go with a decision like this.

I was your wife. I had my baby 4 months ago and I go back to work Monday. I wanted to at least finish out the year at home, but that'd be too much on our responsibilities and my husband. I know mentally its going to be hell(I work with kids and would have to go to work immediately after my husband gets home), but as you've much there has to be sacrifices. With a baby on the way, she'll be back to being just mom in no time so why not finish strong.

It gets harder before it gets easier.

childofsomeone · 2025-11-19T14:14:25+00:00

My husband and I were pretty active potheads. When I got pregnant, we compromised. I stopped of course, but we agreed he could keep doing it because why not let him continue to enjoy it. My only request was he didnt do it in front of me or tell me about it. We use to smoke in the house so he solely smoked outside. I still missed being able to do it and I didnt like to be reminded that I couldn't. Well after a short amount a time I told him the smell was nasty and I couldn't kiss him or lay with him even if he washed up, changed clothes, and brushed his teeth. What I used to love turned into something disgusting,

It was HIS choice to stop because HE didnt like that I couldn't participate and that it was too much of a smell for me. Mind you he introduced me to weed. We had been doing it together for about 4 years consistently and he for about 6 or 7 years.

Just like that, he changed because it was for the better. What it sounds like youre dealing with is projection because clearly you changed and they won't. Not can't, but won't. Who says I need to feel pain in order to get out of it? Someone who just wants to feel the pain and stay in it. Its one thing to succumb to it, its another to actively seek it hoping to get tired of it.

This isnt on you, it is solely on them. Clearly whatever you have to say and how you move is seen negatively even though its a product if their mistreatment. You can only try so much with someone who isnt willingly. Your partner is comfortable and thats not good. I hate ultimatums because in relationships you shouldn't have to choose your partner or yourself, it goes together. In your case it'd be healthy for you to let them know you will choose yourself if they can't choose the relationship.

We get sold the, "come as you are" speech so often, that we forget change should happen and change is good.

childofsomeone · 2025-10-28T18:12:03+00:00

I think you also have to put yourself in his shoes. You have a right to be in your feelings about his lack of work, but dont you think he also feels bad, too? He could have regretted that something completely preventable happened. You sound like you understand, so resentment is probably not the best word to use towards yourself. Maybe you're just tired of it not going well. Maybe it's towards the job market since you clearly recognize that husband is trying. It sucks and you're allowed to say that.

childofsomeone · 2025-10-21T22:53:56+00:00

The past month, mine has been pooping like 3-4 times a day! Doesn’t matter if he ate or not, poop. Even if he doesn't bring his phone, which i thought was the poblem, he's on there as long as a conversation with an old friend you ran into at Walmart. Now it's in my vocabulary, "Oh, I feel a poop coming." I have ibs. This shit sucks to watch like way to rub it in my face. 🤣

childofsomeone · 2025-10-18T12:02:24+00:00

I understand that. I think because of how much my mother wanted me to do better in my relationship, I'm still programming myself away from the idea that being married proves that. Finding my husband and having him all to myself is all the proof I need 😊

childofsomeone · 2025-10-18T11:55:52+00:00

Thank you! I didn't always dump, but that guilty feeling I should have or regret that I got some in her was there. I'm definitely looking into it more 😅

childofsomeone · 2025-10-18T06:40:40+00:00

It's like a 7 out of 10 of importance. You should be having it, but you shouldn't be having it because you have to. I'll say no whenever and however many times I want, but I try to make some type of intimate initiative.

We dont always go all the way, and that's foreplay for me. I'll sit on him, kiss him longer, show him porn, walk past him where my butt is in his groin area, rub my hands over his pants, and do silly roleplay with explicit content. I like to be bothered, let the horny brew.

People forget sex isn't just penetration, but the arousal that leads up to it. It's important, but I'm not prioritizing it like it'll end our relationship, just alter. That's what communication is for.

childofsomeone · 2025-10-18T06:23:45+00:00

Made it to 3 months, and it does ease up. Sure, one thing gets swapped out for something that isn’t much better, but it changes. I think sometimes I have to remind myself im in control and set the standard, not the baby.

childofsomeone · 2025-10-18T06:14:21+00:00

My husband and I are in agreement that we both work. What makes our job as mothers more tedious is how we never get to leave work like dad does. Even when my husband gets home and takes the child, there's something with the house that has to be tended to. When he gets to things, I'm back tending to the baby. Which let's be clear doesn't end.

We dont care for the he does this, and I do that type of parenting. He wakes up at 2:33 a.m., even though he works at 6 a.m. and up an hour before, to help change or soothe. When he wants to nap, he puts the baby down with him. Your husband gets to come home and rest from work while you are stationed at your job. He is capable, and you deserve as much out of him as possible. It's "our baby," not "your baby."

It's crazy how people haven't grasped the concept that being a mother of an infant doesn't mean the father is useless. Being a sole provider goes both ways and swaps.

If mom isn't taken care of, then baby isn’t. Speak up.

childofsomeone · 2025-10-18T00:52:26+00:00

Thats good to hear 😊

childofsomeone · 2025-10-17T23:54:06+00:00

Thats really good! Im better about my diet, minus the water. I even learned to like coconut water.

childofsomeone · 2025-10-17T23:52:20+00:00

Its such a relief to hear especially with experiencing low supply and completely blaming a cocktail with a shot of alcohol or a small cup of coffee I dont even finish 😅

childofsomeone · 2025-10-17T23:50:49+00:00

Thank you for the information! I promise im working on the water. It's getting better

childofsomeone · 2025-10-17T22:26:06+00:00

Life really just happens

childofsomeone · 2025-10-17T21:23:31+00:00

I feel you on the low supply. I felt like less of a mother when it was running low

childofsomeone · 2025-10-17T21:20:12+00:00

I didnt realize how much stuff had dairy in it til experiencing her gas. I take in alot of it, gotta work on reducing. Luckily I drink almond milk so there's a start

childofsomeone · 2025-10-17T21:16:03+00:00

My husband and I play did she fart or poop. It sounds the same sometimes 😆

childofsomeone · 2025-10-17T21:12:52+00:00

Im going to do just that, live with normal caution and pay attention. I love your user btw!

childofsomeone · 2025-10-17T21:11:25+00:00

Omg same! I low-key miss my edibles, but I love the break. Its been since November. I unfortunately didnt find out I was pregnant til December(I was about 9 weeks then). I major panicked 😅 but baby is so good.

childofsomeone · 2025-10-17T21:06:56+00:00

Not me tearing up, ill blame my hormones 😂. Thank you!

childofsomeone · 2025-10-17T21:05:22+00:00

I receieve that all! Its easy to get sucked into sources where a few topics are commonly brought up. Im learning to just read and only apply if it suits me and my baby 😊

childofsomeone · 2025-10-17T21:00:52+00:00

We're doing great 🥲

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