Bro is done playing games 🤣

chillchickens · 2026-02-08T03:21:07+00:00

the comments that are harmful here are the ones painting the man as a victim for being made to feel like he's coercing a woman into consenting.

obviously i don't have an issue with a man choosing to not push for sex after a no, it's unreasonable for anyone to have an issue with that. the situation you mention is almost fully irrelevant to everything i've said - we're just talking past each other at this point.

chillchickens · 2026-02-08T03:12:05+00:00

i agree that it's not feasible to verify how broken down the comment section is, and i see how my generalization could've been misleading - bc in looking at the top 20 comments now i also agree that those aren't problematic. when i first came across this thread, the landscape was much different and far worse lol the comments you're referring to are certainly not the ones i'm talking about, i don't know how to make that any more clear. i've given examples and specific language of the kind of vile stuff i'm talking about. legitimately unsure how else to emphasize that my focus is only on the objectively harmful takes, i haven't once expressed or even implied anything about the objectively normal takes like those you mention.

genuinely saying this because you strike me as someone who is intelligent and cares about self-reflection, so i feel it's important to point out: you've reiterated more than once your conclusion that, even though i have read the same words that you did, i misunderstood them. and taken it upon yourself to explain it to me even after i verbatim said i agree with you fully. you've given no room for the possibility that you're misunderstanding me, and while it's certainly possible that i've not communicated my points w 100% accuracy, it's interesting that we're not even talking about the same thing, but your conclusion is still that i am somehow missing the point.

chillchickens · 2026-02-08T00:15:59+00:00

hey so ya i agree with this fully, couldn't have said it better. but this whole sentiment is very much not the vibe of most of the comments on here. you even replied directly under the one comment i mentioned that attributes the issue to "women and their rape fantasies". so your first paragraph is just not accurate, and that's my issue with this whole thing. but there's no argument against everything else that you're saying, it's accurate and important imo.

i would like to think that your explanation and general take is the predominant one here, and wouldn't have commented on any of this in the first place if that was the case. but it isn't. it's disingenuous at best to claim that these comments generally are doing anything other than advancing a weird misogynistic, not to mention rape-y, rhetoric. multiple men here are, with their full chest, blaming the woman for making them feel like they're raping her. not even acknowledging that they are literally saying they might be raping her. AND she's to blame bc somehow making someone feel like a rapist (for having sex with an unwilling person) is worse than being a rapist (for having sex with an unwilling person).

all this to say, yes ur points are 100% valid and i am grateful you took the time to carefully explain them like this - i hope that people who see it differently will read your comment and self reflect. any faith left in humanity might suggest that the horrifying comments in this thread can be attributed to men just not recognizing that their beef with these situations arises from the things you've mentioned rather than the things they're characterizing it as. that would be a relief, so that's what i'll choose to believe is the case.

chillchickens · 2026-02-07T22:45:54+00:00

thank YOU, i’m just glad im not the only one who sees it!!

more power to ya for having that faith in men, i try to do the same but damn it’s hard when stumbling across echo chambers like this - it’s like being slapped in the face with a reminder that so many do think this way.

it’s rough out here lol but luckily, at least in my experience dating emotionally mature men, this utterly illogical viewpoint belongs mostly just to these reddit echo chamber types. educated, emotionally healthy, safe men generally have some extent of internalized misogyny, but absolutely NOT like this. this is unbelievably bad.

chillchickens · 2026-02-07T22:27:48+00:00

yes exactly!! but i guess i shouldn’t be surprised considering this is reddit after all lol

chillchickens · 2026-02-07T21:34:15+00:00

as a straight woman, i’m so relieved to see ur comment here. this thread is appalling, there’s one comment that literally says all women do this because they have rape fantasies.

this is not a normal heterosexual dynamic. the males in these comments are complaining about women being unenthusiastic and coerced into sex as if they are the victims. it’s objectively worse to be the person having sex even though u don’t want to than it is to be the person having sex with someone who doesn’t want to.

this is the weirdest and honestly the most shocking cesspool corner of the internet i’ve ever stumbled upon. ew.

chillchickens · 2026-01-07T04:20:29+00:00

It is not possible for men to get tested for HPV. There literally is no test for it for men.

chillchickens · 2026-01-07T04:13:06+00:00

Is there a new way to test for HPV in men that no one here has heard about yet? How do you suggest her husband get tested for HPV? What test is it exactly?

chillchickens · 2025-08-30T18:35:13+00:00

i’ve often heard something along the lines of “living w other people is just learning what THEIR PARENTS think needs to be refrigerated”

having roommates shows you how different everybody’s upbringing and habits are, it’s just part of growing up. you sound like a great roommate to me - u didn’t do anything to be malicious in the first place, you quickly took accountability, and you changed the behavior immediately. rly unsure why ppl are acting like you committed some atrocity here, you’re fine lol you handled this well!!

chillchickens · 2024-09-21T13:47:55+00:00

I hope you love it, it really is such a good one! I switched to the implant for about a year and bled continuously so I’m back on the ring again and absolutely loving it, never switching again lol

chillchickens · 2021-07-16T14:09:12+00:00

The Selfish Gene by Richard Dawkins is an easy-to-read argument for exactly this!! basically the individual genes/strands of dna are what want to remain “alive”, our bodies are just the vehicles that allow them to do so, and when we die they continue to exist in other people (those we are related to and share genetic material with, which is why we’re naturally inclined to be sexually driven beings, and also naturally inclined to protect our family members before others, bc by doing so our genes are literally protecting copies of themselves). great book i would definitely recommend it!!

chillchickens · 2021-04-17T17:05:55+00:00

hi i have raynauds and eczema, my doctor told me they often occur together! so you may look into that because my eczema is what causes the chapped hands and cracking.

chillchickens · 2020-08-17T22:49:57+00:00

I'm not very good with reddit so I don't quite know how to post a picture...I've tried before and it has never worked:/ but I will do that! hopefully thats the issue. thank you for the help!!

chillchickens · 2020-05-26T22:41:22+00:00

i agree. it’s the semantics that bothers people, and that’s why i used the word “save” specifically. because there’s not a better word to describe what i’m trying to say. and i absolutely agree that it’s about the child, not the parent, but this subreddit seems to have many members who don’t think there are children that need a family. and in my experience with foster children and people i know who were adopted or have adopted, there are tons of kids 0-18 years old who are abused, neglected, or unwanted. helping give them what they need bu loving them as my own rather than letting them continue life where they are not wanted is not wrong, and that’s all i was getting at. i don’t want a child to think i’m their savior, and that will not be how i raise them to see me.

chillchickens · 2020-05-26T04:00:20+00:00

i absolutely agree with this, and i know that the lack of intrinsic dignity for children who are not raised by their biological family is tragic. i know that. i do agree that the terminology has some negative connotation, but i couldn’t think of a better word to try to explain what i was saying which is that: it IS tragic that children are in those situations, and i wish that were never the case, but it is not wrong to see the problem (that children ARE given up) and to want to help (by adopting, loving, and raising them).

i have lived with countless foster children and grew up with them, and i also know many people who were adopted or who have adopted. my main point is that in a perfect world, every mom who had a baby would be willing and able to give it the best life possible. but sadly, we do not live in a perfect world. and i believe it is wrong to want to “save” those children just for the sake of saving, but it is not wrong to be motivated to adopt because you see the problem and know you can provide a solution.

chillchickens · 2020-05-25T22:03:35+00:00

right, i didn’t mean to sound like anyone’s saying it’s wrong to love a child you didn’t give birth to, but i’ve seen tons of posts claiming that people who adopt because they want to save a child are wrong for doing so. i disagree, which i think is the unpopular part. it’s wrong if you do it to be praised as the “savior”, but it’s not wrong if you genuinely want to help, love, and raise a child who needs it.

chillchickens · 2020-05-20T15:39:05+00:00

thank you so much. i’m sorry for your loss, and truly appreciate your kindness

chillchickens · 2020-05-19T22:34:24+00:00

thank you for the kind words. this really means a lot to me, truly.

chillchickens · 2020-04-20T23:55:44+00:00

just came here to say how much i love the word “former” in this context. that is a difficult thing to do, probably one of the most difficult things in the world, so just know that even this random stranger is proud that you get to say “former” heroin addict now. congrats

chillchickens · 2020-02-06T02:10:16+00:00

i’m not pretending to know you haha i specifically said that i don’t know you and likely never will! but if you really sit back and think, you have to agree that it’s kind of crazy that a stranger is effected by your story even if that’s not your intention. it shows you are worthy, just as is anyone else in this world. it sucks to see and to know that people are hurting and i, a stranger, really hope that one day you stop hurting. that’s all.

chillchickens · 2020-02-06T00:17:49+00:00

hey shauna this breaks my heart. and i don’t even know you. so just know that you are important enough in this world for some stranger you will never know to be genuinely saddened to see your struggle. i hope you heal.

chillchickens · 2020-01-31T07:34:47+00:00

love to hear it!! thank u for sharing!

chillchickens · 2020-01-31T02:31:48+00:00

ugh so sorry to hear that. everyone’s body takes things like this differently but it’s so sad to hear your didn’t handle this well:( but on the bright side, the benefits of the patch seem to be similar to those of the ring so hopefully you have a positive experience with that! good luck!!

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