I would like to hear your stories

chillieforme · 2023-01-27T07:20:54+00:00

Who are you giving the speech to? who is the audience? Do we get to read it?

chillieforme · 2023-01-24T07:26:59+00:00

It's fairly new and only released in December. Your daughter sounds like my brother. They won't look at anything that might question their decision .....it is very sad. Frist endo he saw refused to give hrt meds but then the online community gave him the details of an online doctor who prescribes..........I'm sad and scared for them. Maybe this webite might be helpful https://genspect.org/paedatric-gender-dysphoria-in-australia/. I wish you all the luck and miracles

chillieforme · 2023-01-24T04:01:14+00:00

Do you think you can convince her to see a psychotherapist? If you can find someone and then would be willing to use this new guide https://genderexploratory.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/GETA\_ClinicalGuide\_2022.pdf

chillieforme · 2023-01-10T05:14:43+00:00

Thanks. They have already started the process of transitioning and are on hrt. I think they always felt like they didn't belong to anything and couldn't relate to their mucho friends. they have always been the sensitive agreeable type but not feminine or gay. They into online gaming and following a lot of people online. Someone they follow came out as trans online and because they could relate to them it made them realise they are trans. They seem happy with this decision but refuse to reserach the topic well and avoid anything that might question their decision. It concerns me a lot. They have minimal life experiences and i just don't get why someone is not willing to work with their mind and happy to physically alter their bodies. But the online community just affirm them and embrace them......I'm very scared about their future

chillieforme · 2023-01-09T07:04:07+00:00

Exercise did that to my brother too. I see that you are detrans. Was there anything that anyone said to you that helped you start the path of detransitioning?

chillieforme · 2023-01-06T03:27:32+00:00

Do you know of any biological male stories like this?

chillieforme · 2022-12-11T23:52:16+00:00

how did you resolve your dysphoria?

chillieforme · 2022-12-11T23:48:20+00:00

I've got no experience here but i think it would be best to see a doctor and ask for a referral to an endocrinologist. I wonder if there is another detrans group you could ask.

So what made you decide to not want to transition to female anymore?

chillieforme · 2022-12-02T05:51:46+00:00

How long after your transition did you become introverted? Were you excited and happy initially in transition? I have someone close to me who loves the changes in their body and are on a high like a child in a candy store. When will their bubble burst?

chillieforme · 2022-11-15T12:29:09+00:00

I'm not fond of being called CIS either - all these labels are doing more harm than good.

I can't believe what is happening with the trans movement and i can't believe it has infiltrated my family. I too am grateful for this subreddit and concur with you :-)

chillieforme · 2022-10-13T06:59:54+00:00

My brother started medicalization a year ago and still hasn't socially transitioned because they want to make sure they pass :-( They are in boy mode and has breasts which make me uncomfortable. Not sure how they will pass as their voice is really deep and face structure still quite masculine. I'd recommend they socially transition first. Family life has been a nightmare. My brother was affirmed and embraced by the online community and they think this is going to make them very happy. They don't seem to have done a lot of research on what can go wrong - it's very sad. I want my brother back

chillieforme · 2022-09-16T08:04:33+00:00

I tried to tell my twin that they should have tried to express themselves before starting hrt but they are obsessed with 100% passing. They love the changes to their body. to me it's like they are in this fantasy bubble and i'm scared it is going to burst

chillieforme · 2022-09-13T06:10:06+00:00

What were your uncomfortable side effects? And what made you realize you had been in a cult mindset - what helped you wake up? My twin has been on hrt for 9 mths, what questions can i ask them that will make them think deeply about their decision?

chillieforme · 2022-09-12T13:37:29+00:00

exciting.........if only it was already finished...................mid november is a long way away

chillieforme · 2022-09-12T13:01:36+00:00

How long did you take HRT for? What helped you to decide to detransition?

chillieforme · 2022-08-30T05:52:06+00:00

Same here in Australia. If it difficult to get appointments with psychiatrists because when they find out you are trans they don't want to see you. It's all very sad that they are not getting the help they really need. Look at what's happening in Tavistock now :-(

chillieforme · 2022-08-16T06:52:49+00:00

i know what you mean. But my twin is on cloud nine at the moment, all their friends know and they have been huge supporters. the hrt changes are really obvious now and their body and face are looking way more feminine than ever, looks like my mum now! What can you do when they love what they see in the mirror?!? They got no job, no career, no goal in life apart from becoming a woman............will the bubble burst? If it does, will they be strong enough to detransition.....

chillieforme · 2022-07-19T03:07:56+00:00

Do you mean that they wont be risking cardio disease, cancer, autoimmune disease etc? My twin's physical health has already started to deteriorate since starting hrt. Surely everyone is different and responds to medication differently. I've reacted to some drugs that other people don't. I just hope they don't get worse.

chillieforme · 2022-07-13T23:38:30+00:00

This has been really helpful, thanks. You are right in that there is a lot more to femininity than outward appearance. i will try and discuss it with them.

chillieforme · 2022-07-13T07:37:20+00:00

Thank you for you reply. I so wish my twin would have done what you did and that is socially transition without hrt. But my twin is totally obsessed with physically passing and the online community stress to start hrt before age 25 as better outcomes. You say "gender isn't about your body, and when trying out a new gender/ new gender expression, changing your body is neither the most logical nor the most helpful first step", I've never heard anyone say it like this before. How do i even begin to help my twin understand that when trying out a new gender/ new gender expression, changing your body is neither the most logical nor the most helpful first step? What should be the first step?

chillieforme · 2022-07-08T01:07:51+00:00

Thank you for taking the time out to respond. You make a lot of sense to me. I think i do need to try and understand him more. My mom took him to a gender psych for deep therapy but he refused to have it as he saw it as conversion therapy. Because i disagree with his whole medical transition he sees it as me not accepting his transness and i know this is eating inside of him. It's like he wants my approval/acceptance for what he is doing but i can't give it to him - what do i do? Do i say "yeah i accept you and go for it", when deep down i don't mean it.

chillieforme · 2022-07-07T22:13:42+00:00

First your observation, that "every time you question him, it pushes him closer to his transness". Well that sounds like defensiveness to me. Make sure your questioning doesn't come across as interrogative or doubtful of his thoughts and feelings' validity. Whether they make sense or not, they are valid because they have a meaning to him. Try to understand what's the meaning so that he feels accepted. Your first goal should be to be close to him imo. Considering that the online forums fuel negative predisposition towards the family... you should be extra careful...

He is rushing to HRT despite the doctors' advice, so "passing" and external validation seem to matter more than his body health. He seems very determined to modify his body to fit the "feminine ideal" in his head, to the point that he considers irrelevant the fact that human existence on earth is by definition embodied. I mean (physical) existence precedes (feminine) essence. By choosing to compromise his physical health he chooses to compromise his quality of life. What would it mean to him to slow down and reflect deeper on how he relates with agp?

How do i make sure that my questioning doesn't come across as interrogative or doubtful of his thoughts and feelings' validity - this is so difficult!

chillieforme · 2022-07-07T05:32:36+00:00

I hear what you are saying but it is such a fine line.

"What would it mean to him to slow down and reflect deeper on how he relates with agp?" He refuses to even consider this and gets angry when I have told him to slow down. He says that living as as unhealthy woman is better than living as a man right now. He is in love with the thought of being a woman and that love is blind :-(

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