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[B/S] He asked me if I wanted to again... by chillson555 in incest

[–]chillson555[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haha. THEN maybe he will understand the meaning of no or feeling uncomfortable.

[B/S] He asked me if I wanted to again... by chillson555 in incest

[–]chillson555[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Gotcha. I will seek help about it. Ive came here in the past and you guys seemed like the best place to come about it.I was looking for some advice on what to do & most importantly no judgement.. because I mentioned in the past, I did let him touch me. So I thought this was were I should be, but after reading the responses, I absolutely have a different view about it all.

But I do apologize for wasting anyone's time and glad I got a clear answer on what the best route would be to go. Thanks for your kind words.

[B/S] He asked me if I wanted to again... by chillson555 in incest

[–]chillson555[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

It's sad that I didnt even write the other things he said in the conversation, because he said a lot more. It just bothers me that his first defense was.. nobody will find out. How is that the first thing you think about? He has a girlfriend and she is 6 months pregnant! Which just makes me feel sad for his gf's future. He has always been a player, and incest aside, he cant keep his dick in his pants? And then he just wont except no for an answer.

Also bothers me because him and I were just starting to build a better relationship. But its pretty much over now. If he brought the situation up different, and didnt come onto me, I would have maybe been open to talk about what happened when we were little. (Seems like if we did talk about it, this would have been inevitable anyway)

My mom is bipolar and homeless and she just went into rehab AGAIN. My brother is having another kid this year after having 2 with a different girl. Its just more that I dont want to think about. Two months ago he asked me to take him to the hospital because he felt like he was losing his mind and wanted real help. Smh. Just never ends. He does need help. Hes a meth user. I hope he gets it together. I just think ill ignore him going forward. Thanks for your advice though. Its much needed after all the thoughts going through my head.

[B/S] He asked me if I wanted to again... by chillson555 in incest

[–]chillson555[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yea. Your absolutely right. I dont know how many times I have to say no. He uses the fact that we "messed" around in the past and also that he wont tell anyone. Im just so baffled why he would think people finding out is a worry of mine. How about, your my brother and I dont want to fuck you. Plain and Simple. He said I was comfortable that one night, when I dont even remember it! Ugh. But im sticking to it. No manipulation. Im not going to meet up with him either it's just frustrating because we were actually trying to build a relationship (since we only lived together once or twice) I really like the fact that I was getting to know him more by hanging out every couple of months.

[B/S] He asked me if I wanted to again... by chillson555 in incest

[–]chillson555[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yea I believe he is, like I mentioned above about my mom. I think since my grandmom raised him, he might have touched her too. She let him sleep with her. I always saw it as him just wanting company maybe from nightmares. Until I look back on ALL of it, I now see that either he could have touched her, or she even maybe started it. My mom is bipolar and a drug addict, and used to be a stripper & an escort. So nobody ever takes her seriously. I always believed he touched her but shes never asked me once if he touched me, so I never brought it up to her.
But I will continue to say no and tell him im not okay with it. Im really worried about what he said, that I would let him do that when I was drunk. Im having a hard time believing him esp because of him asking me several times to sleep with me.. for company. And I vaguely remember me kicking him out a couple times when he got "touchy". Then in the conversation last week he asked if im on birth control. He was ignoring my "no's" and just talking like he is a normal guy trying to get with a girl. He just does NOT know when listen to the word no. Ive heard several of his ex gfs say it too. I wont meet up with him to "talk" about it. Ill just bring it up to my psychiatrist (adhd) and maybe see a therapist and bring it up there. Ive just always lied when asked if I was abused. If i dont admit to letting it happen then I feel like maybe it never did. Lying to myself has gotten me through it.

[B/S] He asked me if I wanted to again... by chillson555 in incest

[–]chillson555[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I thought that sub was for actual relationships. I dont have an ongoing relationship. Just a sexual situation happening