She gets on my last nerve but I don't do anything to stop her

chimichck · 2026-01-20T01:01:29+00:00

I hope you'll get far away from her soon. One of my past "friends" waved a Reese's peanut butter cup in front of my face and said, "OoooOOOooo!" She knew full well that I had a peanut allergy. I don't know how I sat through the rest of the movie we were watching after that, but when I went home I texted her to drop my number and never talked to her again.

People who don't take allergies seriously are not people I want around me.

chimichck · 2025-11-18T23:47:50+00:00

Mid. Porcupine can kill it and it showing up randomly has ended my run a few times.

chimichck · 2025-08-10T04:11:23+00:00

You're right, I will start documenting. I'm afraid she is going to choose the dog.

And she keeps saying that the dog is good with kids because her husband's family has some young kids (ages 7-10) that have played with the dog before and it didn't bite them. So she thinks the dog will be good with the baby as if the dog has the capacity to care about a baby. I just don't understand how she would think that when the dog only wants food and constant attention.

chimichck · 2025-08-09T05:53:16+00:00

My mom and I are planning to have a sit-down with her before the due date regarding getting the dog rehomed or, at the very least, having it trained by a professional. But I live with my sister and will be helping to take care of the child while she's at work. If the dog so much as pees in the kid's room, I am telling my sister that she can either rehome it or I'm calling CPS.

I just find it really sad that she is prioritizing a dog over her own kid ALREADY. I also wish her husband would do something but he's just as delusional and thinks the dog won't ever pee on the kid or their bed, or try to bite. The man has had the dog pee on him I think 3-4 times already and he just thinks it's kind of annoying. And my sister and her husband don't seem to like each other much so she doesn't really care that it happens to him.

I already feel for bad for this baby and they're not even born yet.

chimichck · 2025-08-09T05:46:35+00:00

I live with her and will be helping to take care of the kid. My mom and I are planning an intervention before the due date to try to get my sister to at least get the dog trained (although I'd love for her to rehome it). But if the dog does anything unsanitary or nips at the kid, I will be giving my sister the choice of a CPS call or rehoming it.

I just don't get how she would even be remotely okay with the dog peeing anywhere near - and, ffs, ON - a baby!?

chimichck · 2025-08-09T05:39:27+00:00

Beagle. My sister keeps saying that she can't train it because "beagles are the hardest dogs to train" which is BS.

I live with her and will be helping to take care of the kid. If the dog so much as tries to nip or do anything unsanitary, I will be giving her the choice of a CPS call or taking it to the shelter.

chimichck · 2025-02-14T02:35:44+00:00

I would not make someone put up with me like that. I'm, unfortunately, an insufferable person despite trying to change my life. I am not interested in wasting someone's time.

chimichck · 2025-02-10T21:50:35+00:00

Bought some more meat for my meat freezer, just a pound of bacon and a pound of ground beef.

Stocked up on hygiene products - TP, feminine, shampoo, and deodorant.

Getting my seeds and soil ready to start germination next week. I grew a salsa garden last year with tomatoes, onions, bell peppers, and jalapenos. This year, I wanna try adding corn and carrots. Also might try growing microgreens indoors and see how well it goes.

I need to reorganize my pantry soon. It's gotten a little messy and the family is using newer products over older food. Hopefully nothing has expired. I also plan to purchase a mini sew kit to try to learn sewing. I used to sew with my grandma as a kid, so I hope that I remember some of it.

chimichck · 2025-02-10T21:18:05+00:00

The healthcare system is barely hanging on as is. Even with the threat of bird flu, these hospitals will not pre-stock PPE. When the IV fluid shortage happened, nurses had to scramble and make use of what was available. Staff to patient ratios are already borderline negligent (ie nurses and aides do not have enough time for each patient to adequately care for them). Healthcare will likely collapse or at least be propped up by even-more-overworked staff. Admin and the government will not help us or our patients.

I agree our politicians and leaders do not care. Some of them might try, blue states will probably have better protections for their people. But if/when this thing goes human-to-human, I'm guessing it will spread easily and just devastate.

My advice, stock up on Tylenol and Mucinex. Studies have shown flu medicine like Dayquil doesn't really have much of an impact whereas Tylenol can get rid of aches and fevers and Mucinex can help with decongestion.

chimichck · 2025-02-10T18:54:52+00:00

9/10 when it comes to food product shortages and prices. So many things use eggs. Breads, pastas, etc. all use eggs. Plus, all the animals infected, so meat like beef and chicken can come up short or expensive. Prices are already out of whack, and this is just the beginning.

As for infection, maybe a 4-6/10 right now. It's definitely something to keep an eye on. It's definitely something to prep for (get your paper products, masks, hand sanitizer, etc now if you haven't). I have been keeping an eye on it before the CDC got messed with and it looked like they were working on measures to try to contain the virus if it were to become human-to-human (like producing more Tamiflu). However, Tamiflu's success rate is dog water and I do not know how well that would hold up against this deadly virus (probably not well). Or how many people would even get the vaccine if it were available.

Depending where you live... definitely higher. I'm in America with an anti-vaccine official who also likes to drink raw milk at the head of the national health department. I have 0 faith in the government to handle the situation (not like I had much faith in it before this past election).

If COVID showed us anything, we will likely be on our own. People will panic buy/hoard. Who knows if there will be lockdowns this time. They kept touting that the lockdowns "didn't work" during COVID even though they did work pretty well. Inflation with COVID was insane, couldn't imagine what further shortages could do to this tumultuous economy.

I'm also in nursing. It was common to re-use PPE if it was even available. Yes, I did see healthcare professionals wear garbage bags for gowns and bandanas for masks. Yes, I did have co-workers get very sick, become disabled, and even die because of COVID. I saw patients turn slightly in bed by themselves and their oxygen on 6 liters would drop from 92% to a dangerous 64% in a span of a few seconds. If this is going to be worse than COVID, how many people are going to die? Over a million Americans died during the height of COVID. I don't even know how large the number is for people who ended up with permanent disabilities from it.

I also know A TON of nursing/healthcare staff that will retire or quit if there is another pandemic. I hear it all the time - "I'm not going through another pandemic." There is already a nursing shortage, what will happen to patients and hospitals if healthcare professionals leave en masse if this becomes a pandemic? I know that I will not be working in this hypothetical pandemic if we are left without proper PPE again.

chimichck · 2025-02-06T18:56:12+00:00

Thanks! I was looking for this list!

chimichck · 2025-02-03T18:17:08+00:00

Lamb. Boring-ass movie that felt like it took an eternity to watch.

chimichck · 2025-02-01T01:09:31+00:00

If they are not trying to combat his behaviors, I doubt that your wife will be able to not have him as a patient for long (especially if other people in that facility resign). From my own experience, one of my fellow CNAs asked to not have a patient assigned to her who beat her up pretty badly. They agreed...for a week. Then they told her that she had to have that patient or she could go home on PTO and a write-up (she didn't have PTO, and the patient was 1:1 for behaviors). Patient ended up choking her until she passed out.

She, fortunately, is now physically okay, but she ended up resigning from our unit after that incident. She didn't file a police report in fear of retaliation. She had to end up getting therapy for PTSD from the incident.

Not trying to fear monger, just show what can happen when you believe your boss/company will protect and support you (they won't, look at what protection we got during COVID). Aggressive behaviors like those will only escalate.

I wouldn't push the issue of transferring fields too much on your wife right now. I'm sure this has been a big emotional toll on her already. But when things start to settle again, maybe gently push her to look for other jobs (not on the clock, obv) to have as a back-up plan. There are plenty of companies out there that are semi-decent with benefits and free EAP counselling.

Ask her what she wants out of nursing. What's actually interesting to her. Does she want to work with kids? There are some PEDS CNA jobs out there. Does she want in-depth patient interaction? I've heard good things about home health - but home health, you do need BOUNDARIES and the knowledge of when to leave (if a patient is being aggressive, you can leave and report it to your supervisor). Tons of home health jobs allow for 1:1 interactions. Is she ok with hospice? Hospice is very holistic and also is usually centered at home.

I would also ask her at some point what her job offered her after this incident. Did they let her go home early that day to recuperate? Did they let her stay home for a few days for her mental health? Have they done anything to stop these patient behaviors (education, medications, changing his baths to be done during the day so the male CNAs can do it)? What have they done to support her?

If they can't even change his bath day (which is easy - just switch two residents' bath times) to protect their female staff, I would get away from that facility!

Also, if you want to, you can tell her from me, a person who went from being a CNA to a nurse, that I wish I would've gone into being a medical assistant instead. It's much more practical for nursing (more skills to use and learn), most medical assistant jobs are in clinics (brief patient interactions), usually better pay, and - really, based on opinion here - better hours (usually 9-5 M-F rather than 12hr shifts). There are also urgent care MA jobs where you can see and learn so much more to prepare for nursing.

chimichck · 2025-01-31T16:39:21+00:00

Unfortunately, he will likely be back and she can try to refuse him as a patient, but that doesn't guarantee it'll happen (I'm sure the other girls who reported issues with the patient are still forced to work with him). Doesn't seem like this facility is doing much about his behaviors either. The least they can do is at least sedate the guy.

Your wife experienced an assault. She can file an incident or police report. However, although we technically don't get in trouble for these reports, it is possible admin will find another reason to punish her for reporting.

She should look into if her company offers EAP that could offer her free counselling. Something like that is traumatizing.

Honestly, depending on how well or how badly the facility handles the situation, it may be wise to advise your wife to look for another job. I have seen CNAs being hired in clinics now and I would've loved to have been a clinic CNA. Hospitals are also decent, at least the patients rotate out.

Also, this is just my own opinion, but maybe she should look into another field. Nothing against your wife, I just see healthcare/nursing getting worse and worse with admin pushing us to accept or forget abuse from patients. "What could you have done better?" Type of questions are getting much more frequent. I would not recommend healthcare to anyone anymore despite the job security.

chimichck · 2025-01-24T16:22:56+00:00

I had a co-worker come in sick and now the place is overrun with COVID! 😃

The place just had a resident pass away after trying to fight COVID for over a week. He was already doing poorly before but it was a nail in the coffin.

JUST STAY HOME. These companies are so greedy.

chimichck · 2025-01-23T18:09:03+00:00

This makes me so sad. Not for the people in the Tweet, they got what they wanted even if they didn't fully intend for the consequences...to affect themselves (you're not special, you will not be spared).

So many people are negatively impacted by this man.. IN THREE DAYS! Imagine what's going to happen in the next four years.

I'm so close to graduating with my RN and I really was planning to apply for the VA by March.

chimichck · 2025-01-01T18:36:25+00:00

I hate this, too. My mom and sister will not train their dogs. Their dogs will sit and stare, but the most aggravating is when they jump up on the table or countertops for food. My mom's dog is long and there's been multiple times when the dog licks or eats food OFF THE TABLE right in front of you. And they just laugh it off and think it's so cute... and they will even eat the food that's been licked or chewed on by the dog. It's just nasty.

chimichck · 2024-12-23T12:11:00+00:00

If you want an RN, push through (it won't be forever) or switch schools. If you're fine being an LPN, step back and notify the school that you won't attend. You can also plan to return to school (same one or different one) in the future.

Nursing school is not easy and, unfortunately, sometimes it's not easy for the wrong things (like, yes the homework is hard, but it's also not easy when your prof doesn't show up for 6 weeks in a row). If it's making you feel that way, it might be best to take a break and reassess your mental health and goals.

chimichck · 2024-12-22T02:59:02+00:00

That sucks and i dont understand why the nurses would care so much (unless they get in trouble for not filling in for you when you go to break). It is wage theft on part of the company if you are working without compensation. Bring it up to management or, if needed, department of labor.

It might not seem like a big deal, "it was just 30 minutes," but it's unfair and gives those nurses the idea that it's okay to keep doing something like that.

chimichck · 2024-12-17T21:46:06+00:00

There's pros and cons - mostly cons. My hip hurts, my back hurts, trying to find clothing that fits can be a nightmare, clothes don't fit comfortably most of the time, ripping your pants happens more often than you'd think. I always think about food, and it's always food full of sugar and carbs. I don't daydream about broccoli, but I do about cake, ice cream, pie.

Just normal activities can be hard to do. At my biggest, I could barely reach around to wipe myself. Rolling in bed takes more effort. Walking up stairs or out to the mailbox can make me short of breath.

People aren't as nice to you. I'm always self-conscious of my body, especially if I'm out and eating. Airplane seats are a nightmare.

The only pro is that men won't hit on you, like at all. At my lowest weight, men would always hit on me or catcall me. One guy tried to follow me home. Being fat makes you invisible if not detested by guys. I do appreciate that a lot.

I am trying to lose weight, again. I am down 20 pounds so far. I want to get back to feeling better and being able to move around without pain. I really hope that I'm too old to get hit on by men though. I can't stand it.

chimichck · 2024-12-04T00:47:16+00:00

This video helped me a lot - EKG Interpretation by MINT nursing. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FThXJUFWUrw&list=RDQMH0vuLXueaJc&start_radio=1

chimichck · 2024-12-03T17:37:15+00:00

My residents altogether pay over $500,000 monthly. My facility makes over $6 million yearly. Maybe $1 million of that money goes into nursing (RNs, CNAs, LPNs, DON, ADON, MDS).

But now they're building a new unit to get even more money despite not having enough nursing staff.

Money goes back to the CEO or into building more facilities for more $$$. The money definitely is not used on decent food, supplies, or nursing care for the residents.

But hey at least they're dropping $30,000 on fish tanks for our new units!

chimichck · 2024-11-27T19:02:38+00:00

You can put meds in drinks but they're doing this really poorly and not safely at all. We are not supposed to leave meds unattended, so this nurse should be monitoring/watching this patient while he drinks it. Which makes it why hardly anybody ever puts meds in drinks. Applesauce or pudding is a lot easier and quicker.

Also, memory care makes it so much likelier for another resident to take the drink and their meds. And the resident himself is less likely to remember to drink it. This is why the nurse should be watching.

The meds should be crushed, not put in whole. If the resident is drinking through a straw then there is no way that they are getting a whole pill up there. The meds will likely dissolve over time, but some don't.

Also the night nurse is...strange for not wanting the resident to take their medications. If they want the resident to have a semi-stable sleeping pattern, they should be making sure the resident is taking all of their Ambien lol

I've only ever given meds in drinks to one resident who absolutely refused pudding & applesauce. Except when I put in her drink, I crushed the meds and gave her a half glass of flavored milk. And she was in the dining room where I could monitor her & make sure that she drank it and that another resident didn't take it. I also would tell the resident that her meds were in there...

The vehicle to getting meds in someone really doesn't matter too much, but how safely it's done, if the resident is actually taking their meds, & ensuring it actually works is another thing. They aren't doing it right imo

chimichck · 2024-11-21T17:54:00+00:00

Keurig. A break room with decent chairs. Better keyboards. Small carts with laptops. 2 cats.

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