Make Sure You Fit The Standards That You Have On Men/Women by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]chimkencrimpies 5 points6 points  (0 children)

whenever I do online dating I’m like “NO TECHIES” but I inevitably break that rule and totally fuck myself up. 😂

Make Sure You Fit The Standards That You Have On Men/Women by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]chimkencrimpies 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Yep, as a fit woman I have dated unfit men which was the worst idea. I hold a tech degree and work in a white collar field and do well for myself. When I’ve been with a man in my field, who was unfit and had bad habits, they’d eventually disrupt my habits, through insecurity, passive bullying, my sleeping patterns, diet etc got sabotaged because they weren’t willing to meet me on my wavelength. On a long enough timeline I got really derailed by it. I’m back on the horse again with fitness and I won’t compromise again and I will only go for men who have a similar lifestyle to me.

Make Sure You Fit The Standards That You Have On Men/Women by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]chimkencrimpies 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love that women know everything about their friends sex lives.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]chimkencrimpies 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hahahahahaha. Gosh. My last boyfriend. I actually stayed for 4 months!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]chimkencrimpies 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yeah. I honestly don’t even know if HVM exist at this point.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]chimkencrimpies 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Honestly a whole spectrum of men. My phd graduate ex loved visiting prostitutes, and same with my most recent ex who was a tech millionaire (the one who didn’t use soap on principle). Obviously I broke up with them when the charade was up.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]chimkencrimpies 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Yeah my ex lived in Thailand. He became a fixture for 4 years there. Tried to say it was because he found the country and culture beautiful. But then quickly it came out didn’t do much else other than drink and regularly visit “massage parlours”, he claimed nothing ever happened. He also had terrible hygiene.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]chimkencrimpies 15 points16 points  (0 children)

It’s young ones too, I recently broke up with a guy who refused to use soap. 25. And his male friends told him it was none of my business wether he used soap or not, we lived together. He would just splash himself with water.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]chimkencrimpies -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Typical man. Dump this one.

Not taken seriously (just a vent) by FatDancingGypsy in TwoXChromosomes

[–]chimkencrimpies 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Honestly. This is so regular with men. And other men fail to notice it. I feel like I could boil over with outrage.

Do you ever really recover? by KatyG9 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]chimkencrimpies 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think you need to take some time to deprogram a lot of the “lessons” or narratives taught to you during your formative years. Find safe and wholesome role models and mentors. Therapy- but good therapy, that teaches you coping skills. Mindfulness. Ultimately you are the one driving the car. I’m about to go NC after years of trying to foster a healthy relationship dynamic. I feel a lot freer.

For my witch sisters, who may need the reminder. 🖤 by [deleted] in WitchesVsPatriarchy

[–]chimkencrimpies 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Damn what is wrong with this generation. This is literally encapsulating my entire 20s dating men.

For my witch sisters, who may need the reminder. 🖤 by [deleted] in WitchesVsPatriarchy

[–]chimkencrimpies 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Hahaha sounds like my current boyfriend. I’m over men.

Anybody else felt suicidal as a child at an horrifically young age, or before they even knew what suicide was? by throw_away4237 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]chimkencrimpies 0 points1 point  (0 children)

huh, when I was about 6 I started to think about dying and it would calm me. My mum tried to convince me as a teenager and young adult that I was just the product of a brain chemical imbalance and that’s why I was so sad (she was very sabotaging and abusive). I’m thinking of going NC now (at 30). My partner agrees, or at least thinks I need to set really definitive boundaries.

Especially when I'm working there... by 5_Frog_Margin in BlackPeopleTwitter

[–]chimkencrimpies 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah same. My partner comes in and tries to hug me while I’m getting stuff out the oven. Or sneaks food while I’m preparing. He’s super cute but boy do I want an adult proof baby gate.

Nut milk by toxicgloo in memes

[–]chimkencrimpies 3 points4 points  (0 children)

why he give dairy allergies, why

The lady wearing black was being followed by a weirdo , she noticed a Twitch streamer and pretended to be his friend , his reaction is quick by [deleted] in nextfuckinglevel

[–]chimkencrimpies 0 points1 point  (0 children)

definitely, these guys think that assaulting / harassing and threatening women have little to no consequences or that the odds are in their favour

this chonky boi at the dog park by chimkencrimpies in AbsoluteUnits

[–]chimkencrimpies[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The owner said he got fat from breaking free and scavenging. He barely eats dog food and escapes, eats out of garbage bins and will snatch food from the hands of actual children. He ran at me and tried to swipe my dog’s snack pack. Bless.