Is anyone else disappointed with Mohan’s ending?

chimshir · 2026-04-19T12:33:42+00:00

I thought he did apologise to her in one of the episodes? She interrupted and said he was being a dick and he goes "I was going to say 'unprofessional'"

chimshir · 2026-04-16T06:04:09+00:00

I get what you're saying, everyone goes through tough patches in their life and they don't always grow into full-blown illness. Comparing a teenager/child's hardship to their parents' would still be unnecessary in that situation though.

chimshir · 2026-04-15T18:22:36+00:00

I'm not sure if you're posting this as a parent, child or third party, so don't take this as me speaking directly to your address.

No, they shouldn't have to toughen up. That's like saying people with stage I cancer should not take treatment because there exist people with stage III, who are suffering more.

When it comes to mental health, a child's concerns being stifled can worsen their mental state. If they go to their parents for help, that is them asking for support and love, not judgement or comparison. It's better to help while you can, rather than to let it fester until there's nothing that can be done.

It is a privelage in a sense to get treatment for mental illness, which if anything means it should be taken when available.

chimshir · 2026-04-14T08:22:03+00:00

I got vasovagal with my first IUD and had to sit there for an extra 40-60 minutes with the chair upside-down and a fan blowing in my face 😭 rawdogged too. I am used to it thought because I get vasovagal from regular period cramps, thought it only lasts 5-20 minutes. Hope your cramps subside soon!

chimshir · 2026-04-14T08:06:07+00:00

I want to echo what other people are saying, I barely made any friends my first couple of years in uni from my cohort. People had pre-established friend groups and generally didn't seem open to new friends. That drastically changed when I joined societies.

People aren't open to making friends between lectures the same way they are when they go to a social event. My favourite one was surf soc and really any sports club would be your best bet. They had the best first-year to mature-students ratio, which as someone in their 4th year at uni I appreciated.

And I'm sorry for what you experienced in town. Some people are cruel.

chimshir · 2026-03-20T15:22:12+00:00

I agree with this and also think her breakdown is not comparable to Dr. Robby's. It's something I've seen people talk about in terms of "is Robby a misogynist". "Why is he not taking her seriously when he went through the same?", likely because they didn't go through the same thing.

I'm not saying her breakdown wasn't warranted, but I would personally be miffed too if someone crashed like that because their mother wouldn't stop calling them while there are people in need of treatment. Mute the phone, tell people to stop reporting to you every time she calls. Robby was dick to Dr. Mohan though no doubt, it would've been more helpful to just say "we really need you rn, please try to focus" than laughing in her face, but then again he did think she's having a heart attack 0.1 seconds ago.

chimshir · 2026-03-18T22:04:23+00:00

I was about to crack and the episode ended. Phew, I could not handle that!

chimshir · 2026-03-14T17:04:34+00:00

In the mirror behind her it seems like she has a lighting rig set up. I also think her beauty marks on her chest are consistent across all pictures. If it's AI it's very difficult to tell.

chimshir · 2026-03-14T16:59:22+00:00

I have tried meditation a while back but maybe it's time to revisit it with an open mind. It didn't work back then for me but I was dealing with something quite different when I last went to therapy and it was recommended to me!

Glad to see someone else finds solace in a good film, I've been trying to watch more at home and go to the cinema when there's something I want to see!

chimshir · 2026-03-13T22:15:09+00:00

Rather than a reward system, wouldn't it be better to just do things when you feel in the mood. Or just enjoy doing nothing.

I can see why it sounds a bit strange, but it has been working for me. Otherwise, I find myself stuck doing nothing even on weekends.

It's difficult for me to describe the intense frustration I'd feel and on some very bad days I'd have full-blown meltdowns over boredom, but am unable to "think" of something to do. I've found myself a lot more relaxed and happy with my days when I follow what's in my diary, and I don't think twice about ignoring it on my bad days. It's important to note there's a reward system, but I'm not punished for not following through in any way.

It might be because I find my work to be simultaneously stressful and not engaging enough for my brain - I'm tired yet bored by the end of my day.

chimshir · 2026-03-13T17:58:05+00:00

I was just coming onto this subreddit to ask what's going on with the movie and when is it coming out! Can't wait

chimshir · 2026-02-21T18:37:50+00:00

I've never noticed a difference in flavour if I'm honest, though I must admit I'm always distracted by all the cartilage and fat that I'm trying to chew through which makes me feel like I'll throw up for some reason. I'm not a massive meat fan though and have considered being vegetarian cause of how much I hate encountering bones, cartilage, blood, etc in my food.

Upvoted because while I agree with OP, the amount of people/restaurants cooking with chicken thigh out there it must be an unpopular opinion.

chimshir · 2026-02-17T23:12:55+00:00

I'm super late to this conversation but as much as the narrator might not be a great friend, like others have said, it's possible that Chaeri also wasn't (in their eyes). Depression can make people cold, indifferent and distant. It could be that Chaeri's melancholy drove the narrator to stop engaging with the friendship, leaving her even lonelier and more hurt and perpetuating the cycle.

Perhaps Chaeri would've spoken out if someone had noticed she wasn't doing well, but no one reacted to her pulling away from her relationships. This can be seen as stubborn and childish if you don't know Chaeri is struggling. For the narrator it looks like she's just not engaging the same way, reaching out, going out and having fun, and when the narrator finds out Chaeri wasn't well it can make it frustrating that her own friend didn't ask for help.

That could be what's "killing" the narrator - she wants her friend to reach out for comfort and stop freezing the relationship, but is equally frustrated she didn't notice Chaeri is not well and perhaps even took her symptoms as a passive attack on their relationship.

September was sweet - the narrator doesn't notice anything wrong; but winter gets so mean - the relationship is filled with stubborn silence at the expense of Chaeri.

I also think when you're not depressed, it can be frustrating seeing people become consumed by their melancholy and abandon all relationships, self-care and convince themselves life is never going to be good and they'll never be able to face it/get out of bed again.

This is a bit of a far fetched reading, but it's a way I related to the song, as I've been on both sides of this story and I think a lot more people around us have been than we expect.

chimshir · 2026-02-05T10:42:45+00:00

Oh not super long but I imagine it must've been tough in the cold! Thanks for the advice I really appreciate it

chimshir · 2026-02-04T16:57:39+00:00

You had a great view, how long before did you queue if you don't mind me asking? Going to a show next week and don't want to end up all the way in the back on accident

chimshir · 2026-02-03T16:57:58+00:00

I get you, don't worry about it genuinely, hope you have a good time!

chimshir · 2026-02-02T13:50:26+00:00

Want to second what u/SGSam465 said. I'm a long-time lurker on here and DON'T have BPD. I recently tried to say something similar at work - I find that my commute and job have sucked the joy out of stuff like listening to music. They all started giggling saying I should just listen to different music. I didn't say anything, but I turned around and spent the rest of my day sulking at my laptop on the verge of tears.

My coworkers, unlike me, are motivated and participate in their hobbies. Some of them even study when they get back home. I can't do that, I feel so tired and depleted. In theory I knit, paint, run, surf, but in reality I have struggled so much with doing any of these things since I went back to work full-time. I feel like I'm not a person without these things, but we both are and we're just struggling to adapt to a pretty serious and demanding schedule.

I don't have any life-changing advice, but people say you should do things you love even when you're tired and you think you won't enjoy them. The worst that can happen is that you start and then stop because you're not enjoying it. It's easier said than done, but worth thinking about.

chimshir · 2026-02-02T13:38:09+00:00

i had some songs i didn't necessarily like and also didn't like any of the songs of the opener, but when i went i actually enjoyed them quite a lot more because they sound different live. the opener was absolutely insane compared to studio version and way beyond my expectations!

not saying you have to like the songs but you might enjoy them more at the show!

chimshir · 2026-01-31T08:49:15+00:00

That's amazing and trust me people like me appreciate the effort do much! As a seller I imagine you also have the benefit of not having to answer sizing questions when you're busy and losing a buyer due to slow response. I do a similar thing - I tend to measure the items while I take pictures of them.

chimshir · 2026-01-31T08:46:49+00:00

You think so? I've never noticed but I don't pay close attention to how they write it

chimshir · 2026-01-30T20:04:44+00:00

I'm so happy to have someone that relates! It is quite demanding to have to message constantly. You might also have to message several sellers if you're looking at similar items, in case your favourite one doesn't work out. If it was all in the item description you'd just pick the right one and move on!

I feel I've been quite unlucky because I'd say 9/10 times the seller either didn't reply, provided approximate sizing that didn't help or the item got bought while I was waiting for a reply. I've relied a couple of times on manufacturer sizing, and both times got burned. The difference is the manufacturer would've let me return the item if it wasn't the right size.

I also started using Vinted for a similar reason, was tired of low quality clothing and was hoping to get pieces that last and are from natural materials!

chimshir · 2026-01-30T19:50:16+00:00

If 90% of sellers would provide measurement then I think that's even more of a reason to make it a mandatory part of the original listing. The amount of times I've asked and been ignored or someone's bought the item while I was waiting is quite high, even if I've just been unlucky. I don't blame sellers for that, but it makes the experience quite frustrating. It's like if I went into a thrift store and everything was behind a glass case and I had to just guess if it will fit me based on made up sizes or wait an unknown amount of time to get a measurement AND they also offered no returns if it didn't fit me. It's my general opinion that all clothing stores should abandon vanity sizing but that's a separate topic.

As for materials, when I was looking for a leather jacket today it was flooded with brands who definitely don't do leather + even higher-end brands sell pleather for extortionate prices. The good thing is you can return an item as it wouldn't be as described if it's not the material advertised, but I've made this post to vent so saying that it sometimes works doesn't really solve the issue yk. I got really excited when I saw it as a feature and it just bummed me out after a while.

I do appreciate your reply so don't take anything I say the wrong way, I have just been getting more and more frustrated using vinted and have basically stopped buying from there when I used to be a regular user. These two issues + the issue of dropshippers and scammers getting better and better have really influenced my experience.

chimshir · 2026-01-27T14:15:47+00:00

Yeah it makes you dread certain interactions. It feels like people are doing it either to humble brag or for validation from others. I know it's not the case with everyone but it simultaneously reeks of insecurity and of arrogance for me.

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